I am in a relationship with this guy who wants me to give up all other and stay faithful to him. But I havent seen any signs of him willing to assist me financially. While I earn my own money and can live by it, I would appreciate some help from time to time. Say in the form of Supermarket and Petrol.
The thing is I was brought up not to ask, and it is the hardest thing for me even to insinuate that I need the money. Isnt it expected that if a guy is in a relationship that he gives money from time to time.
To clarify, he is a Vice President for a corporate organization, so why is it so hard for him to see that I would appreciate some help.
Ladies any tips here, I was brought up not to ask for things as men would want favors in return. But now I am giving favors and I still cant find the courage to ask.
2006-09-14 09:25:32 · 18 answers · asked by rizzio 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've always helped my lady friend out....if I see she needs food we go to the store and I buy some. If she needs gas for the car I give her some. When I was working full time I did a lot more but even now I do what I can. I don't understand this man...does he at least give you cards and flowers ?
2006-09-14 10:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not expected. Why should he assist you financially, you are a grown *** woman....if you cant support yourself then its time to get a new job. If you are "giving favors" in hope of some sort of financial help sounds like its more of business relationship than a romantic relationship.
2006-09-14 16:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not living together then I don't see any reason for him to give you money. If you cook for him a lot, you could suggest that he run by the store before he comes over and pick something up for dinner or something like that. Or say hey, I will come over and fix you something whatcha got to cook? .... Just seems hoky to ask for money right out. ... Lots of luck with this.
2006-09-14 16:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Why do you ask? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are sharing an apartment and other bills NO !
He should not give you money and you should not expect it .
If for some reason he decided on his own that he wanted to do this once or twice maybe . Guys who pay women in relationships
are sleeping with hookers .
2006-09-14 16:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean that he has to give you money and it sounds like the only reason that you are with him is because of his money and if you can take care of yourself then why do you need his money.
2006-09-14 16:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he is required to pay for it, that would make you fall into the category of a whore, but you are right he should be more considerate, and see to your needs, if he is married, then you know the situation you are in, that makes you the third party.
2006-09-14 16:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to say no. If you were my wife or fiance, yes, In a dating relationship that hasn't progressed to a commitment to a long-term relationship, definitely not.
2006-09-14 16:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't need his money then why are you stressing out about it? Being in love isn't about financial assistance.
2006-09-14 16:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by bernie2u4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy never gives me money. He will buy dinner and pay for dates, and he drives so I don't have to pay for gas when we go out. It is NOT his responsibility to pay me to go out with him. Love should be enough.
2006-09-14 16:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by DaniLynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With marriage for sure! Are you sure he isn't already married? When a fellow pays you and your not married you then become a prostitute!
2006-09-14 16:40:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋