town. I am with the kid all day long, I dont have a car. Husband doesnt want me working and we can afford to have me stay home with the kid. The thing is this is my third day with the kid and no breaks . I am getting less patient with te whining, crying and tantrums. I dont know what to do, we already went for a walk.
2006-09-14 09:16:20 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My wife is going thru the same thing, although i work in town and home by 5 p.m. and trying to give her a break from the baby.
Just remember one thing - what your baby does is not it's fault.
If he/she is crying or whining - if you feel like throwing the baby out the window - just put him/her down and go to the other room for a while. Be strong. They say it'll get better as the baby gets older.
2006-09-14 09:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by Michael R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a stay at home home is a very hard job but, very rewarding also. I know it can sometimes be a lil over bearing but you need to stay calm, so what if the house gets messy. I was kinda that way to but, now I love it. I don't care if I have toys all over my livingroom. I know they will get picked up tonight when my son goes to bed. If you really need a break call some family members, neighbors or whomever. How old is your child? Why don't you have a car? If you can afford to stay home I would think you could afford a car. If you can't find anyone to help you out, lay the baby in the crib and take a "mommy time out" go outside for a few minutes or call someone to talk to.
Good Luck
2006-09-14 16:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by jakesmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see several problems - the first is you are referring to your child as a kid - not my son or daughter - which is a little concerning. This is your baby, and you need to make decisions on what is best for your child. I would sit down with your husband and tell him you need to have a break, and you would like to get a job. It is the best thing to do for you and the child. We have a 3yr old, and a 2 yr old. I didn't work until my second child was 6 months, but I was ready to run into work. We found a non-profit church for day care that is very affordable, and I get a break daily. They have several programs out there to assist you with daycare also. As far as a car it is next to impossible to live day to day without having some form of a get away with or without the child. A car is vital to people who have children what if it was an emergency, and you needed to get them to the doctor. None the less get some crayolas, paper, play-doo, puzzles, etc. Keep them busy.
2006-09-14 16:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by LaDonna J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the way you talk about "THE KID" makes me think it isn't your kid and maybe it's your husband "KID". Usually mom's; don't talk about there child in the terms of "THE KID".
What kind of mother are you????? Not a good one it seems like. Some people weren't meant to be moms and maybe your one of those people.
You need to be patient. It would help if you had told us the age of "THE KID". There are certain things you can do to entertain a child at every age. Try reading some parenting books so you can become a better mother.
2006-09-14 16:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by Tired-Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I know how you feel, I am a stay at home mom of 8 yrs. It is more work then 2 fulltime jobs. Just try and calm down when it all seems to much to handle. You will have bad days and good days. Maybe your husband should start looking for work closer to home, you need to have help raising your children. Make it a rule to have set days for you to have a mommy day or night out. Good Luck and if you need someone to talk to email me. Good Luck!
2006-09-14 16:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by ME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's tough. I was a stay-at-home mom for 6 years. It was enjoyable yet frustratingly hard. It's tough entertaining children all day, trying to get them to take naps and eat well. Putting up with their crankiness and tantrums isn't fun. Sometimes during the day you think you'd do almost anything for a few moments of peace by yourself. The fact that you don't have a car so you can't get out for a drive to the mall or over to a friends house doesn't help either. Can you possibly get buy a decent used car so you can at least get out? Maybe try inviting some friends or family over. Hang in there it will get better. But please don't refer to your own child as "the kid." It's not his/her fault. You sound like your trying to detatch yourself from this child. It's YOUR child and he/she deserves to be treated and referred to with respect.
2006-09-14 16:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by bsmart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ohhhh I am sorry. This is my fear I am quiting my Full Time job to finally stay home w/my kids 6years and 1 year. Luckily I will have a car to get around. For your sanity you need to have a hobby, something you can do while your kid is napping. Maybe you can start a little part time business like selling Avon, or get connected w/a local church. They usually have bible studies and things and will watch your kid while you attend. That would be a nice break for you.
2006-09-14 16:25:11 · answer #7 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of "support" (don't get the wrong idea, there is nothing wrong with the way you feel) groups that are Co-Op classes i take yours you take mine on rotating schedules. not only does this help the kids take out emotions. but give YOU a chance to chilax with women in the same position yourself. i would suggest giving your local chamber of commerce a call and ask for community MOMS club.... or dial 211 (this is a new community services directory kinda like 411 or 511) don't get discouraged we all think about leaving the state when we drop them off at school at least once and week... I mean once in thier lifetime LOL.... GOOD luck
2006-09-14 16:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by Stuffin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you have any family or friends near you? If so, hand the child off and have a day to yourself. Go to the mall or just stay at home and lay on the sofa for awhile. If there is no one, find a babysitter. Moms need a time out too. I know this all too dearly!
2006-09-14 16:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a break. You need to find a neighbor who can watch your child for a little while every now and then. An older neighbor would probably enjoy a little time with a small child. Then...you take a walk by yourself or take a nice long candlelit bath. Enjoy that you don't work, many people wish they didn't have to. Your child will get easier as they get older. So....just try to relax and enjoy it all as best you can.
2006-09-14 16:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋