How can I stop getting upset when my boyfriend snaps at me or is mean?

Question

He doesn't mean to be horrible but I am too sensitive and let everything get to me.

Answer 1

you must stop your self if he goes of on one just let him prratle on while you smile to him and sing the theme tune to the muppets in you head then once he has finished give him a kiss and say ok love then walk away

Answer 2

Sometimes we tend to regret on how we react towards certain issues, but this is normal , particularly if you find yourself under a barrage of questions. You will merely be trying to find an escape route thus you get upset so that he may stop and show sympathy towards you.
However, since you already know about your sensitivity, then you need to tone down a bit.I tend to notice that the truth tends to rile certain people and instead of owning up they lose their patience and become upset.You should get hold of your nerves whenever you find yourself in an argument and remember most relationships go through the same phase.
Your boyfriend also need to control himself and he should try to express his emotions without snapping at you.I wish you two a steady and romantic relationship.

Answer 3

LOL I'm sensitive too. My boyfriend doesn't snap at me.. but he's terribly sarcastic.. but with everybody, not just me. If you accept your boyfriend, accept his mouth too. Don't just sit there like a lamb though.. if he says or does something you don't like, let him know. Although my man is sarcastic, he wouldn't respect me if I didn't stand up for myself during those times he goes too far and I have to put him check.

Know this, if a person hurts you and know they've hurt you but don't make an attempt to stop, they don't really love you. That is not a situation you need to be in because 9 times outta 10, it'll turn abusive. Just like you know your man and should accept him, he should accept you and your feelings too. When my feelings get hurt, my boyfriend'll say "get those glass feelings in check. " or "there you go again, breaking glass". Usually, I'll laugh (if the situation isn't serious) and we'll talk it out. The thing is, I don't hold it in when he's hurt my feelings and my points of view always make sense. I'm more well spoken.. so my arguments make sense. If I let him keep running his mouth, he'll say something rather dumb. Once he's said something that he know doesn't make sense, he'll shut up.

Answer 4

well first ov all...does he know that your a sensitive person. coz if he does then his in the wrong theres so many ways of saying and doing things without snapping or being mean to someone. and if he knows that you get upset really quickly shudnt he be a little understanding.
On the other hand if he doesnt know that you get upset when he snaps at you maybe you should tell him that it hurts you. never know but do talk to him.

gud luck xx

Answer 5

You should have a heart to heart talk with him about how he snaps. Then let him know you are working on not being so sensitive. Don't let the conversation turn in to an argument. You can't help how you feel, but it's up to you on how you deal with your feelings. Choose to be happy.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with getting upset when he snaps at you! No man should ever disrespect a woman!!! Women just try to find excuses so they can tolerate their man's emotional abuse.. But guess what! None of these excuses are gonna work in the long run...

Answer 7

You should tell him how you feel and that he shouldnt snap at you for whatever reason. And if that doesnt help the situation, I would have to say leave and find someone you deserve. Find someone who will treat you with respect and know how you react to things and not be mean or snap at you. No woman deserves to be treated this way. Good Luck!!!

Answer 8

If that is how the relationship is, he is not a good fit for you. You need to find someone that understands that you are more sensitive than others. I am the same way and it took a long time before I found someone that was gentler.

Answer 9

FIRST YOU NEED TO LET HIM KNOW THAT WHAT HE SAYS HURTS YOUR FEELINGS, RIGHT WHEN HE SAYS IT NOT LATER THAT DAY, OR A WEEK FROM NOW. RIGHT WHEN IT COMES OUT OF HIS MOUTH. AND DON'T GET ALL EMOTIONAL, JUST SAY ''HEY THAT WAS RUDE'', AND BE DONE WITH IT. THAT WAY YOU DON'T SIT AND FRET ABOUT IT, IT IS OVER AND DONE WITH. IF HE CONTINUES TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS OR SAY MEAN THINGS AFTER HE KNOWS IT BOTHERS/HURTS YOU THEN YOU SHOULD MOVE ON. FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL RESPECT YOU AND YOUR FEELINGS, AND NEVER THINK YOU ARE BEING TOO SENSITIVE,THATS JUST HOW YOU WERE MADE,THATS PART OF WHO YOU ARE. YOU NEED TO FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL BE MORE SENSITIVE.

Answer 10

That's exactly how I used to justify my boyfriends behaviour. Try getting him to open up to you and find out what's causing him to act this way. Has he always been like this? Just please don't let him abuse your kindness as a weakness.

I spent/wasted four years with a violent boyfriend. I'm not saying that's what your boyfriend is or will be. I'm just asking you to keep your eyes open for when it's time to call it a day.