i have gone to court to answer a motion of my ex husbands cause he wanted more time and what he did was to ask for 50% of the time and for five years he has only been with our son for 2 days a week now he has a new baby i would think right now is the hardest time. I want to be closer to my sons grandma and his cousins and live in oregon and he did this motion right as soon as i told him i have plans to go to oregon to live and i will stop child support and pay for his visitations every year he just wants to fight with me and he's married and lives in a new home with his mother in law also
2006-09-14 08:52:54 · 7 answers · asked by heigerandmyra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
maybe he just wants to be able to see his child, moving away means he's not going to have that luxury.... regardless of whether you pay for him to visit "once a year"
2006-09-14 08:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't think that it would be impossibly hard for you son to not be able to see his father at all? You gotta be out of your mind. You should feel lucky that he has stayed in the kids life and you shouldn't want to put the kid (or his father who has been doing the right thing) through that kind of separation.
Look, you were the one who screwed up and made a baby with someone who you couldn't stay with. All I hear in your whining is that you want this. I don't hear a single word about what is best for your child. Sorry but a kid needs both parents and there is no way it is fair for you to make that impossible. It is already a bad enough situation.
2006-09-14 16:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what's best for your son. He should be close to his father, and that probably means you'll have to make sacrifices and stay close by for the sake of your son.
If he's a loser Dad, and just doing this to be mean, that's another story. If he fails to visit or pay child support, you can go back to the court and have it overturned. You may have to do a trial run to see if he's serious about visiting with his son frequently and paying child support.
My husband died and my son's grandparents court-ordered me to be close to the grandparents. I can't move until my son is 18, and I am really angry about that, but I have to live with it. My son visits his grandparents every other weekend due to the court order. You have to abide by the court order.
2006-09-14 15:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you are upset!! but the bottom line is what is best for your son?THank goodness your ex still wants to see your son, so many times they get the new wife and a new baby and forget about the older child. It is also great that he will have a chance to bond with his new brother(1/2) I really don't like that !/2 stuff!!! good luck!!!
2006-09-14 16:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be grateful he wants to see his son more. 2 days a week was more than my girls ever got, and my ex never asked for more....would actually get pissed if I asked him to take them anymore than every other weekend. I think it's more important for your son to have his dad around than to be closer to grandma or cousins. Kids need a father, especially boys. Regardless of his new family status or living arrangements, it's admirable that he's initiating more time with your son.
2006-09-14 15:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by threedscreations 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, your story shows how "Obviously-Upset" you are, because I only understood a little bit of it... But, what I understood sounds to me, like a couple of my Ex-s, Nonsense!!! I filed & did my own devorce, from my 3rd, and (last husband, hopefully)... And my ex, had the police, called on him by me, for trying to steal my kids Nintendo game, right in front of them!! So, we were all over him trying to talk him out of taking it... when my daughter (from another marriage) jumped on his back, and begged him not to take it, or she wasn't going to let him leave.. Lo' & behold he threw her across the room for jumping on his back.. Thats when I called the cops, after he split with the kids game, they showed-up! They took a report.. Well, when I went to get my devorce finalized, I had to see the "Judge" a Female Judge, mind you.....I explained that our son, doesn't want to see his dad, at all .. because, he's mean to him, and we have an abuse case, with him, & my daughter, that the cops had to be called, and so on.. She tells me, you know how your son, going to school is the law? I said "Yes" well so are your son's visits with his father!! So, sometimes, life isn't "Fair"... and sometimes when it seems like all hope is gone, things will turn around... My ex had legal visitation rights, but never bothered to see his son,, he was too busy with all his "HOs" and drugs, to make time for his son! Which was just fine, for us!! But, now he's getting ready to get out of prison,,and I'm scared he's going to want to see my son.. I dont want him coming around bothering us, or trying to rip us off !! He's a Master Con-Artist, and I'm like too done with this man I've known 1/2 my life !!!! My suggestion to you is, pray!! Just pray, that everything will work out, for you & your son!!! Or go to a church and ask them to pray for you, two.. God answers Mother's prayers, trust me on this one!!! I wish you all the luck in the world, and a safe trip!!!
2006-09-14 16:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to oregon.. your family will always be there for you.. he won't.
2006-09-14 15:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by iwearpink4life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋