She said she just wants to be friends. Does she think I am stupid enough to believe this???

Question

I have known this girl since Jr.High and had many courses with her in Jr.High and High School. She used to tease me quite a bit.
In Algebra, she used to run her fingers through my hair when I leaned back. She voted me "Most Likely To Succeed" and told me I deserved it even though I did not win. As I got older, I would see her. She was always smiling and bubbly. She lived on the same street as me even until my late 30's. She would walk and always smile and say "Hi". Se was married for twenty years and is now single. I saw her and asked her to have lunch. She said, "I was crazy." She sees me around town. Now she totally avoids me. What the he** is going on. She has me so confused. It is like she is misleading me to ask her out and do things. Then, she stonewalls me every time. She is making me depressed... Really hurt by her.

Answer 1

The question you should be asking is if she is a big flirt with many guys like this or were you the only one. The second is how long has she been divorced? If she just got divorced then she may be very scared to enter a relationship even with someone she has known for years. Apologize to her for being pushy and tell her you would like still like to be friends with her. Also explain to her that it may be hard to do that because you do have more feelings for her than just friendship but you don't want to lose her friendship over that. Give her heart time to heal and try to wait for a sign that she has decided her heart is again set towards you.

If she is a big flirt though don't waiste your time. You'll only get more hurt in the long run.

Answer 2

I think she is trying to tell you in the nicest way possible that she sees you as more of a really good guy friends rather than having an intimate relationship with you. Maybe the whole "boy down the road thing" doesnt turn her on. I think that she is trying not to hurt you, but knows either way you are going to be hurt. She is probably avoiding you so she doesnt feel guilty.

Answer 3

may be your timing not right! She may not be ready to get back in the game just yet! Give her your number and tell her to call when she is ready for that lunch ! Don't call it a date. may that is what scared her! just two old friends getting together. let her make the next move after you give her your number. and do not just sit by the phone and wait!!!

Answer 4

So because she was nice to you, having known you pretty much your whole life she is misleading you ?? How's that ? If she smiles at you it means she wants to date you ? She just see's you as a friend.

Answer 5

It sounds like she might have had a crush on you in Highschool, but her feelings could've changed over the years. That's what it sounds like to me. She is just probably not into you anymore.

Answer 6

Stop asking her out if she starts the flirting again you will know she just wants the attention wants to know that you want her as long as you shower her with affection she doesn't need to chase you.

Answer 7

She sounds like a tease. You really need to forget her. You deserve better!

Answer 8

dude, let her go. it sounds like she's a drama queen. or just a flirt. you're wasting your time with her. she'll never change (apparently you'd already known this). she doesn't see you as you see her. there is no point of pursuing someone like that.

Answer 9

ok she flirted with you 20 years ago? that's not now! if she said no she said no and you need to move on and find someone else you're interested in! i don't get how she's even leading you on

Answer 10

awwww.... well first off you never had anything going before. and all those things she does, shes only trying to be nice and leeding you on. your seeing it in a diffrent way because you like her. but to her shes only being nice. sorry good luck.