2006-09-14 08:46:26 · 60 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been dating him since may of 05 and i find it very difficult to leave him. i get numba's everyday and hit on all tha time but i just cant seem to let him go i know its wrong because its illegal but i have tryed to leave and within 10 mins i was a dumb azz and called him back i really need serious answers not no b/s idiots thanks
2006-09-14 09:24:21 · update #1
when i was 17 i dated a 30yr old, and within 2 yrs it all went wrong, he thought he could controll me obviously coz he was the older one, but it doesnt work like that, when i still wanted to go out with my friends he wanted to stay in and do older peoples stuff. so it just dont work,, after a while they think they can control your every move, who to visit, where to go, who to speak to, what to wear etc....
and also... what does a 42yr old see in a 17yr old girl, although you might have a young womens body, you are still a child, or young person, so my love i do not think you are sick in the head, i think he is and he should be ashamed of himself for putting you in this situation...... good luck, and find someone in your own age group like i did, and your grow old together, unlike like mr 42.
xxxxxx
2006-09-14 08:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not sick in the head! He very well could be though if he has the wrong intentions. But with you asking the question, you do recognize that this situation is not normal in society.
As for you, you likely have fatherfigure issues and your environment, current family social situation, desire to be rebellious, and background all play a major role in how you see healthy relationships.
I don't want to go into a long essay about why it would be wrong. I'll just ask you this: Yes, in 40 years it won't matter and you'll be a 57 year-old together with an 82 year old (if he's still alive). But at this moment in time, what do you share in common with him other than a physical dependence?
2006-09-14 08:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sin™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ... odd feeling is right in place .... because ..... you may be in love for a moment out of emotion ... but living a good life is not only emotion , one has to think about practical aspect , thought process of a person at 42 is very much diff from at 17 ..... physical needs are also different ... so don't feel seek but don't get carried away only on emotion you have pretty good long life in front of you .... I am sure there is some one to love you .....
2006-09-14 08:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by ppatel848 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think HE'S the one who's sick in the head. What is a 42 year old doing with a 17 year old? Trying to relive his youth? You at least have lack of experience as an excuse. You can't possibly have anything tangible in common. Dump him. He's a weirdo.
2006-09-14 08:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Acyually it is quite natural for a girl to be atracted to older men. We mature faster so the boys our age are actually a couple years younger in maturity. (scientifically proven),
But 25 years might be pushing it. I am 21 and like a 32 year old.
The question you should ask yourself is,
Is he sick in the head for not being able to get some one his own age?
I would be worried about his alterior motives. Maybe a molester, but I do not know the guy. Make your best judgement.
2006-09-14 08:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by danksprite420 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT sick in the head, if you are mature enough to handle the age difference and you believe there is no one of your own age to be with...meaning, he is what you hoped for, then go for it girl. I am 16 yrs older than my wife. She was looking for a man who was older, patient, understanding, and one who would love her for who she is...not for what she is; a disabled woman with genetic health issues. I am 43 yrs old this year and do not regret marrying her as of 12/13/03. She is a precious gem for me to find and am very grateful that she did not close her mind to me.
2006-09-14 08:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the attraction...I'm a 41 female. Older men are so refined and sexy.....but you being only 17.....I'd look for someone younger. You want someone to grow with.....not someone you will have to take care of when you are in your prime. You want someone to have your children with etc....... Your future husband will one day be 42....so you get the best of both worlds! And...don't convince yourself that there is no one else out there like him....trust me.....there are SO MANY CHOICES. The older you get....the more you realize...there is never only "One" to choose from.
2006-09-14 08:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it appears that you may think you are sick but you are certainly mature and wise to have answered this yourself. You don't need for anyone to tell you that this is a very unhealthy age difference!!! Find someone more your age and enjoy being a teen hon!! Good luck.
2006-09-14 08:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Are with him for the money? there is no other way you could be with a man sooo old. I mean he might not be old for someone who is 35 but for an 17 year old the oldest would be 20
2006-09-14 09:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that age should matter in a relationship, however that is a huge age difference for someone so young. I would definitely get away from this person now.
2006-09-14 08:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋