how do you control yourself not to punch the other person if they are annoying you
2006-09-14 08:46:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Sports ➔ Martial Arts
Find peace, it's hard but you have to deal with it
2006-09-14 09:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that someone is annoying you to the point that you want to punch them, there is a very strong possibility that they are reminding you of something you despise in yourself; so the first thing to do is to look carefully at them and the situation and try to see if there is any truth in that and then mediate upon it.
In any situation it's a good idea to bring your mind to your breathing and on each in-breath say to yourself "calm" and on each out-breath say to yourself "resentment" as you breath it out and blow it away.
You could also try switiching arts to Aikido or Tai Chi, just for a while, as they have things to teach that can't be found it Tae Kwon Do, neither have kicks nor puches but teach how to deal with aggression without becoming aggressive yet without surrender or weakness, and most sports benefit from a bit of cross training.
And oh yeah, avoid caffiene! Most people seriously underestmiate how aggressive it can make them because they've always used it. Give it a miss for a month and see if there's a difference.
2006-09-14 16:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't help you coz I have same problem with you. I have lose control for several times and get into a fight with other girls (and even boys) in my school. I usually win because I trained in martial art, but anyway after that I deeply regret about what I have already did, it's embarrassing me so much coz that should not be done by a girl like me. It's only stop when I had a serious illness which make my nose frequently bleeding and I feel difficult to breathe.
2006-09-15 00:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question, a lot of people can't control their temper. Don't hit the person, use words to express your feelings. And if you feel like you just wanna punch them, excuse yourself to go to the bathroom or something and stomp on the ground, it really gets out frustration sometimes.
2006-09-14 15:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by Green Emotion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practise your meditations well before this incident arises, knowing yourself will assist you in having compassion for the other fellow. Force through non-violence, research the martial arts philosophy rather than the powerful punching, big muscled, mentality of the beginner
2006-09-15 14:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by northcarrlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By thinking of the consequences and in some rare cases. Centering my mind. Taking deep breaths with my center flexed. Think about better thigns you could be doing like riding a bike or training to do what you want to do. The keys telling yourself stop and i don't want to or in fact there is no need for violence!
2006-09-14 19:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though you want to punch or kick the person that is annoying you, you have to think about what they'll do next if you do strike them.
Think about: if I hit this person do I really want to fight this person, should they decide to continue?
Or what if that's just what that person wants you to do, hit them and you're giving them just what they want so they can fight you and see what you can do, because if that's the case; you just walk away, you don't have anything to prove to them or anyone else, not even your friends.
or how about if you do hit them, and they complain to an adult that you did hit them, and now you get a lecture from the adult about how you had no reason to hit them, not to mention your instructor would be disappointed in you for using your techniques for such a petty reason that they were bugging you, and they'll prob'ly suspend you from class for a few lessons.
2006-09-14 17:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by quiksilver8676 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because I am in charge of myself, I don't give other people the power to control me or my emotions. I control my emotions, they don't control me. That annoying person is probably so insecure that they are just trying to get attention, and if I refuse to give it to them, then they will go away.
2006-09-14 17:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've almost never felt an urge to physically hurt another person.
My main motivation for not acting out physically, is that it won't solve anything, and the other person does not learn a lesson from it.
2006-09-14 15:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Samurai use to hold their fists against their belly or walk with one hand tilted up in order for them to stay calm and self aware at all times. If you let your mind wander... your body would not be ready for a fight at any time.
2006-09-15 09:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use breathing exercises. Meditate on the following:
You are in charge of your own feelings. If someone is annoying you, it's because they are playing on your own mental insecurities and weaknesses.
2006-09-16 15:42:30 · answer #11 · answered by Rich N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋