I find myself thinking about my ex all day... The proble is we broke up because I felt like he didn't trust me and he's the one that broke up with me. I was hurt and confused because i didn't understand.. I finally got him to sit down and talk to me and we had a pretty good convo... After that things started changing, he would do little things for me. I mean he tried going back out with him but at first I wasn't too sure because of our past relationship.. But just when I was about to give in, I found out something that was really shocking.. While he was trying to talk to me, he had a girlfriend on the side... He didn't try to hide it neither but he said that he loves me and will try anything so we could work.. But he never told me about his girl.. It hurts me alot because we've been together soo long and I really fell for him.. Now I don't know what to do. He doesn't know that I know about his girlfriend. I want to tell him but at the same time, I can barely look at him. What do I do?
2006-09-14 08:42:18 · 15 answers · asked by Foxxy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump his butt.. He has now hurt you twice. third time is not the charm like the old saying goes. i know i have pushed that point by being married for the 3rd time.. If you enjoy the hurt that he puts you through and can honestly convience your self that you still love him you are working on your third hurt in life. and that is to much to take from one man.. find someone that cares about you and will treat you with respect and not lie to you. he is still lieing to you by not telling you about the other girl friend he is with now.. how much more proof that he isn't the one for you do you need. There are alot of men out there that would probably love to be with you.. be patient.. they will find you or you will find them.. don't waste any more time on a loser..
2006-09-14 08:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is probably over too but if you really think you love him you might try one last thing, just calmly tell him what you found out and ask him if its true. After he says yes (the way he answers will give you a signal) then you can say, so what are your intentions going forward? If he says something like, I really want to be with you and I will stop seeing her at once, I jsut wasn't sure if it would work out with us," then maybe I would give him another chance though keep in mind you will be looking over your shoulder for quite awhile to come. If he says anything other than the above, he's history. You deserve to be with someone that will treat you with respect and honesty, by honesty I mean lack of deception, not just the avoidance of telling an outright lie.
Good luck and hang in there!
2006-09-14 15:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by kellyault20001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first sign of a cheater is that they don't trust the other person because they think they are doing the same as themselves and cheating. That is not always always correct but it is more correct than not correct. People can also be distrustful because they've been cheated on alot. I think he more than likely has a problem with being with just one person and your best bet is to move on. If you try the relationship again then you are going to continue falling in love with him and your going to get hurt worse than you already are. Best to cut your losses and find someone that will give you the respect and honesty you deserve.
2006-09-14 15:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by Janet J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were in between relationships and so was he. You felt he didn't trust you so you broke up and now you don't trust him. Time to grow up. Step back and move on.
2006-09-14 16:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by chickenger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You worth more than that girl!. He doesn't have any respect for you. If he really cares then he shouldn't be with another girl because it would lower his chances with you.
The fact you think about him it's because he broke up with you and your pride and ego are hurt. not because you love him.
2006-09-14 15:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kathy B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sad little Foxxy, you.
Do you honestly believe that out of 6 billion people on this planet he is the only one for you?
2006-09-14 15:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go back out with him because if he is talking to you behind his girlfriends back, then if he finds someone he likes more, he'll do the same to you and you wont even know it. oh yeah, and tell him you know.
2006-09-14 15:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you know and that you don't feel good starting the relationship again because he wasn't up front with you and go find someone better!
2006-09-14 15:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just try not to think about him
i know its hard bc ive been there
i get really attached to guys and when they end up leaving it hurts....BAD! just try to move on!
i wish i could be of more help but thats all i know to tell you
but i wish you all the luck
2006-09-14 15:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by Sam M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad. You shud walk away from this liar cheater ordinary guy.
2006-09-14 15:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by novembr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋