I was almost certain of what I wanted to do and I was building up the courage to tell my parents that I had decided to keep the baby but after talking to my boyfriend he doesn't seem sure he told me that he didn't want any children right now not until we were settled with our lives and careers. I am about 11 weeks pregnant and I am not sure now that I want the baby I grew up with both of my parents and want the same for my child. Do you think that my boyfriend will come to accept the baby if I do decided to keep it?
2006-09-14 08:38:32 · 22 answers · asked by PYT 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
No sorry I don't have any children that have already been born Staxi
2006-09-14 09:20:05 · update #1
You have to face the fact that he might leave you over this. He will still be responsible for child support and and will still deserve visitation. Unfortunately, he might not willingly do either. Your child might not grow up in the same happy relationship that you had. I don't think it is because you're not married, because he could be the exact same way after marriage as he is now. Weigh your options carefully and discuss them with him before coming to a decision. I hope he will support you in whatever you decide and I wish you the best.
2006-09-14 08:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by S. O. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did a little research on your situation & you said in an earlier answer that you already have 2 kids & want a total of 5 so that you can have a big loud family. well, If you already have kids & decide to delivery this child but give it up for adoption then the others will know something happen and later ask "mom what happened to your other child?" You want that big family & you are well on your way to having it. you are almost through the first trimester. two more weeks & you will be in the second. Think about what your baby now looks like at 11 weeks...
THAT BABY is moving, has teethbuds growing in its gum, fingers & toes have developed.
But at the same time if you think you will lose your mind with 3 kids by yourself & they would get put in foster care passed around forever never knowing who will(or will not) take care of them, then ...
It is a choice YOU have to live with not that boyfriend. He may never come around but that shouldn't have anything to do with what you do with this development in your tummy.
I am trying to help you think about things not be mean or rude about it.
Good luck to you & your children. Hope the best for you no matter what you choose.
2006-09-14 16:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by staxi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking if your boyfriend will come to accept the baby? The bigger question is if you are ready to be the sole support of that child, because statistically, you will be raising that child on your own at some point in your life. You need to be prepared for that possibility and decide from there. A baby is a lifetime commitment, make sure that you, as it's mother, is ready for it.
Maybe adoption if you're not? There are so many couples who can't have a child.
2006-09-14 15:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a decision based on what you want. Although your boyfriend's feelings do matter... he has the ability to up and leave at any time. There is really no way to know if he will come to accept the baby or not. He probably doesn't know, deep down, whether he'd accept the baby or not. But if you want this child then don't abort it based on your worries of whether both parents are there.
2006-09-14 15:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to kill your baby over a man that you don't know if he will stay with you for the rest of your life?
It's hard to raise a baby by yourself, but how many woman out there have done it and succeded. If you want the baby, then you should have it, regardless of what your man wants. He didn't have no problem making it, so why is there a problem to having it. Hope you make the right decision. You will have regrets if you have an abortion.
2006-09-14 15:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has made up his mind and right now the baby does not seem real to you but as the baby grows in you your feelings will change don't try to hold on to this guy give your child a chance to be adopted or you may want to keep your child so what ever you do god bless you my dear
2006-09-14 15:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by ladyoh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to keep the baby....remember this: You are the only person you have to rely on. Everyone else can and may walk away at any given moment, including the father. So if you can't aren't prepared to raise a child alone....don't. Explore your options. I am the single mother of a boy and I made the choice to keep him as opposed to adoption/abortion, simply because I am mentaly strong and I know I can raise my son on my own.
2006-09-14 15:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hopefully he does, because it isn't fair to kill an innocent child because it doesn't fall into your plans. The fact that you got pregnant while on birth control should prove to you that this child is very special. & if he doesn't accept the baby, then you have some hard decisions to make. If you are thinking about an abortion because your scared he's going to leave you....don't. you cant just kill an innocent child because a donor (which that is what he is if he leaves you for having it) doesnt want to deal with it. so in answer to your question....who cares if he does or doesnt. this is YOUR child.
2006-09-14 15:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A larage amount of men get to thinking about the responsability of having a baby. Then decide they don't want it because they are scared. I bet if you go through with it he will come out of his shell and help you. This has been my experience as well as many of people I know.
2006-09-14 16:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughters Father never wanted her, his parents made him see her when she was a baby and now 11 years later they have a decent relationship. Sometimes Men will come around but don't count on it. Your child can be perfectly happy being raised with one loving parent as he or she could with two parents.
2006-09-14 15:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by rranderson1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋