Help me to convice my boyfriend to let me do tae kwon do?

Question

I used to do it before i met him and was a blackbelt nearly 6 years later and he won't let me do it again. He says because its a male dominated sport. I'm not interested in the men there but he still says no, plz help

Answer 1

Please. You shouldn't let a boyfriend control your life, he doesn't own you. Do what makes you happy.

Then kick him in the head with a roundhouse.

Answer 2

Ok if you did it because you loved doing it, then he shouldn't be a pu**y or a jerk, it's good exercise for you, a great stress reliever, and you don't need his permission to participate in something you love to do, you have your own life outside of being together.

It's a hobby that allows you to get out and be sociable with other people and maybe a good circle of friends, it sounds as if he's being controlling little beeyotch.

there are a lot of things that're male dominated activities out there, but that hasn't stopped women from perforating and influencing those activities over the years now has it.

All Martial Arts disciplines allow EVERYONE to participate no matter what their age or gender. that business of him saying it's a male dominated sport is bulls**t, they're a lot of female champions in several sports including several of the Martial Arts disciplines.

I know several women in our class who take the discipline because they love it, or because they use it as time to be with their kids or husbands and they grow together in something that they all can participate in.

it's none of his business of you having a hobby, you had a life before he came along, and you still can being together with him, you don't have to spend 24/7 up his butt or as it seems to be the case, under his thumb.

If he can't get over that fact, then cut him loose and find someone that's a bit more understanding, it's your decision not his.

Answer 3

Try pilate instead Tae Kwon Do is not one of the better martial arts styles especially for a woman try the book Tao of Jeet Keen Do by Bruce Lee and even he said the best style of karate is no style but to be as water conform to the situation

Answer 4

I have been in your shoes! I started training in martial arts and when I got up to red belt, my husband wanted me to stop... Our relationship did not last long after that. Try explaining to your boyfriend the benefits of your training, heck, get him to come and try a class. Look for a school with female instructors if you think he is jealous. There are a lot of male dominated sports out there, but that shouldn't stop us gals from jumping in and kicking ***! My point is, don't stop doing something that you love because someone else doesn't understand it! If your relationship is meant to be, your boyfriend will support you in the things you love to do!!! Good luck!
-From a 2nd degree black belt and instructor who's been there...

Answer 5

I feel as a girl we often bump into this matter. I think your bf may have two reason. First, he may concern of your safety. Second, he (or his ego) may feel threatened with your self defense skill.

If he concern about your safety, you must convince him that taekwondo is a safe sport. If he still worrying, you can also consider a less hard martial art like Aikido.

If he (or his ego) feel threatened, say that you learned just for sport. Real street fighting is entirely different thing. Explain to him that no matter you have trained, you really need him to protect you in street, because in real street fighting size and muscle does matter.

Answer 6

If he has this type of issues and will not allow you to do a sensible sport because there are too many guys, consider this your flaming red flag.
Now he could be concerned that you get hurt, but that is the case with any sport or excercise. Regardless, you need to consider why you are allowing someone like this to dictate your choices.

Answer 7

First of all, ur b/f doesn't own u, secondly, u r a human being and he doesn't trust u, u need trust in a relationship, if it was something he wanted to do, he would do it, if he wanted too, do what makes u happy, put ur foot down and let him know u have one father, not two and if ur a grown women then ur dad doesn't tell u what to do now only when u were a little girl....

Answer 8

During my years involved with the sport I found many females in TKD
doing just great.
Females have a better stretch, are more flexible than their male counterparts.
I cant see any reason for you not to continue practising, especially after you have already reached your Dan.
If your bf stops you from practising, he either is complexed or is scared of you breaking his nose should he decide to be nasty to you.

I think you should continue, insist on it.
There is no subsitute for a good TKD workout.

Tell him he should let you continue practising.

Btw, check out my friends school :

www.mudokwan.at

Good luck

Answer 9

You are in grave danger here of falling into a very bad pattern. You deserve to be allowed to do what you want in your life. You earned a black belt in martial arts. No man is worth giving up something you are passionate about. He should be understanding of your passion for this art and support you in it. I sincerely think you should not let him tell you no. I am in kung fu, just got my green sash, I have a long way to go to black. But, I know that its about the art not about meeting women. Your boyfriend needs to get a grip.

Answer 10

Honestly, you shouldn't care what he thinks about this. If you want to do it, then do it. He has no say over what you do. He can't stop you from doing it. He's only stopping you right now because your letting him do so.

Grow a backbone and put your foot down. Do it whether he agrees with it or not. If he ends your relationship because of this, then your not meant to be together.

Answer 11

You made me laugh!

Why are you asking his permission to learn an art of self-defence? I do not mean that you should not care about his thoughts, but this time, for sure, they do not count. You obviously love martial arts and are extremely good at them. Just do it, honey, just do it!

I can tell you from expereince that when a man tries to prevent a woman he says he cares about from doing something she loves or something that is worthwhile and will give her a sounder sense of self worth, he does not truly care about her. Only his sad sorry little ego. If you are too good at whatever you do, he feels deficient. That is sick! Just plain sick!

Never ever let that determine your existence.

Go for it!