i really like this bloke plz help !
2006-09-14 08:22:57 · 39 answers · asked by mangos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes a really nice bloke and really gd kisser !
2006-09-14 08:23:45 · update #1
by the way he dose want to just shag me me cuz he knows i had that from men before he dose really like me i have been told this by him and his mates but he says he not in the rite frame of mind what can i do to change him mind plzzzzzz help
2006-09-15 17:08:59 · update #2
Well, first of all, I would suggest that if you really love him and want him to be with him, then you should try to find out what is complicating his life for him to say that he cannot start any relationship. Don't push him too much and as a good friend first, try to help him solve his problem! It might be possible that because he have had bad experiences in the past, he is afraid to get involved in a new relationship! If that's the case, then you should assure him and try to make him gain confidence in building a new relationship! It may also be possible that he has other problems stressing him like drugs, or family or work/studies, thus he cannot concentrate on building a new relationship. In this case, try to help him with your support and whatever help he might need. Thirdly, it can also be possible that he sees you only as a friend, and likes you for that only. You know, you cannot force yourself to love someone. Love only happens. It is possible that there has been a spark which generated love for him in your heart, but thats not the case for him towards you. He hasn't received cupid's bow! Last but not least, probably he just want a casual relationship with you. When fed up with you, he'll move to someone else. Well, there are so much reason but you have to see which of these applies in your case. And to know about that, there is no other way than to sit and talk to him frankly, expressing your feeling, your views and your expectations from him. Ask him what does he expects from you! After finding about that, it will be easier for you tounderstand and know what you should do.
2006-09-14 08:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many guys can't handle the emotional burdens of a relationship, (personally I get frustrated when the drama in a relationship gets too high) often if he has too much on his plate with regards to work/school family etc. he may not have the time and energy to spend on a relationship. I would suggest that if you really do like this guy, take it really slow, let him know that you don't want to rush anything, give him his space but let him know that you are there for him.
However you should be careful, thais often code for 'I want to get into your pants now and I have no interest in seeing you afterwards'.
Good luck
2006-09-14 23:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by Richard C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its an easy cop-out saying that he isn't in to you and he doesnt want to have a relationship with you! Move on.. sad to say but I know you like him but do not waste your time! Learn now while you are young that when guys make up stuff like this they dont want to have anything to do with you.. they got what they wanted from you and that is all they wanted.. sorry! Guys are scum bags and dont know how to communicate all the time.. There are some good ones out there.. you just have to go thru some bad ones to find the good ones! Good Luck and just follow your gut feelings...
2006-09-14 08:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's as nice as you think then perhaps I'll give you a guys perspective instead of the walking wounded of girls who've answered so far (no offense!) He may actually mean what he is saying?! Find out the detail behind the line, you'll quickly figure if he's a bullshitter...
2006-09-14 08:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants the milk, but he's not willing to buy the cow. So you have two choices: 1. Use him right back. Have fun but don't get involved. or 2. Walk away and find someone whose life is less complicated (ie he's really into you!). Good luck.
2006-09-14 08:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by pisceanwillow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is not always that complicated, but we can want to make it very complicated if we CHOOSE TO!!!
Be careful of him he maybe into way to much drama and nobody needs way to drama
He may also be hiding things from you hoping you don't figure them out , by trying to make things SEEM very complicated when really there not.
2006-09-14 08:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by joey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the bloke has some good crumpets and always has good tea, be sure to tag along and say cheerio!
2006-09-14 08:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does!! Not dose! Dose, a unit of measurement used when prescribing medicine.
2006-09-16 06:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by jc20155 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno, it could mean a few things. If it was me that said that, it would mean exactly what i said. that things are too hectic and crazy and that i don't want to start a relationship because it would be fair to either of us.
OR
it could mean that he's a really nice guy and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Either way you guys can still hang out, give him his space, if he settles down and is still interested great, if not then you still had a good time right??
2006-09-14 08:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by Nara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means he gets what he wants but no emotional ties and if someone else comes along he is free to do what he wants if you really like someone your life is never to complicated, as much as you like him try playing him at his game wait for him to phone you and if it fails he wasnt good enough for you relationships are a two way thing
2006-09-15 01:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by browntbath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋