How many months salary goes into the girl's ring?
2006-09-14 08:18:37 · 31 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hello Jay,
Our family has been importing diamonds for 3 generations and let me share with you that the dollar spent on the ring means absolutely nothing. Spend as much or as little as you can afford. You sweetheart knows. If she truly loves you, a rubber band will do. If she think you are a cheapo for not giving her a rock, then you got the wrong girl.
If you are just starting out, why not put the money in a savings account in both of your names and tell her you are saving up for the down payment for the first house together. You can get her a nice anniversary gift when you make your first million.
2006-09-14 08:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, be smart and don't start you new life off deep in the hole to satisfy a woman's greed. Get her something that is not over the top, and apply some of the left over cash from the "3 month" BS to your honeymoon. The rest of it, put away into a savings account.
Think about it, nothing would suck more than staring at a ring that could buy you that car you need, or help with that down payment on a house....Or furnish a babies room!
You'll live to regret it, unless you are rich of course. But if you're an average Joe? Don't be stupid....In this day and age of equal rights, what kind of ring are you getting? A $200 gold band? And she expects a $10-15K ring...plus YEARS of interest? LOL!!!!
And if by chance you go through the "Big-D"...you wont feel as screwed.
If that doesn't slap some sense into you...You'll get what you deserve.
Best of luck and do the right thing!
2006-09-14 15:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by joe b 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It really depends on the girl. The jewellery industry tells you 2-3 months, but for crying out loud, the only reason we even think of diamonds as "traditional" engagement rings is because the de Beers diamond company sold everyone on it in the 1940s. Before that, people used all sorts of things as engagement rings. (Some women actually still prefer something other than diamonds in their engagement rings.)
And like someone else said, do you want to look at a piece of jewellery and realize that it could have gone towards a down payment, or a honeymoon, or some home renovations, or your children's future? If you don't want to, chances are she won't want to either. A big rock feels right for some people - if you think you can afford it, and you think she's the type to appreciate it, go for it. But don't do it just because you think you're "supposed to."
I've personally always thought that it was stupid to tire up a huge amount of money in a piece of jewellery, even one that I'll wear for the rest of my life. It doesn't mean any more if you spend more money on it. (Just something to consider.)
2006-09-14 16:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no exact rule. What is important is that you are marrying the right person, not the ring. With that said, people say 3 months salary as a rule of thumb. I personally think that it should be what you can afford so that you can start your life off together without a lot of debt. Remember, the wedding may be expensive as well. Good luck.
2006-09-14 18:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 Months
2006-09-14 15:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please ignore any marketing gimmmicks trying to get you to spend more than you can afford.
She, and you, should not care about how much the ring cost. It is a vulgar thought to put a price on something that is supposed to be TOKEN of love.
In fact, the engagement and wedding rings are completely optional, and if she really loved you she wouldn't even need a ring.
2006-09-15 18:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years
2006-09-14 15:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
2 months - read on
According to the generally accepted convention, a man should spend roughly two months' salary on a diamond engagement ring. While this guideline is certainly not a law, polls show that many men agree with this spending recommendation, and in the minds of many women it's become an accepted standard. We recommend that you don't commit yourself to a dollar amount right away-familiarize yourself with the various options available before you decide how much to spend....
http://www.mondera.com/learn/howtobuy_engagement.asp
2006-09-14 15:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by cookiesmom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This idea of two or three months' salary for an engagement ring is just a marketing ploy by the jewellers. Choose one that you think she might like - there is no need to go overboard. Stick with what's in your budget, and save your money for the marriage.
2006-09-14 15:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the woman. Every woman is differant...I think just be observant to the type of jewlery the woman you love is drawn to. Keep in mind this is the engagment ring NOT the wedding ring less would be invested in the engament ring. Take a window shopping day and go to the mall...take a picknick in the park and ask her "what do you prefer silver or gold?" I am female..."They say diamonds are a girls best friend...I don't prefer them....I like silver over gold....and I like simple over gotty. I like the ocean...in fact I want a tatoo for my wedding ring. That is perminent. Thats me. You could spend $80 on my engagement ring it's the thought that counts to me. See it depends on your woman. JUST WATCH AND LISTEN TO HER.
2006-09-14 15:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Inquisitive 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋