2006-09-14 08:17:20 · 15 answers · asked by Nicole M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
"Don't throw your toys! Now get that ball and lets play catch!"
"Don't take candy from strangers. Now, lets go Trick or Treating!"
"Stop fuc*ing swearing!"
We do tons of stuff that messes up little kids. We think they can tell the difference but they don't understand as much as we do.
2006-09-14 08:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by parkdad73 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is letting that child know that hitting hurts. She's not being mean. If more parents today would practice the "eye for an eye" approach, these kids wouldn't be out of control and telling the parents what to do by age 8.
2006-09-14 19:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by lilgal22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a mom is hitting her kids then she does not deserve to have them. The kids should be taken away from her and let someone who truly loves kids (and they probably can't have their own) raise them.
When she hits them and says "don't hit! It's not nice!" guess what type of behavior the child learns................hitting also. The mother, obviously, learned this behavior from her parents.
Another choice - call Nanny 911!
2006-09-14 15:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely what you are saying, it doesn't seem to make any since. But on the other hand i am a firm believer in spanking, before i had him i would tell everyone i'm not going to put my hands on my child, but after actually experiencing what you have to go through, your mind will change.
I am hard on my kid, i don't beat him or anything but he is a very spoiled child and i do that on purpose but i make damn sure he doesn't act like a spoiled child. My son hit another kid for the first time when he was almost two and i spanked him on his butt and ignored him for about 20 minutes, he has never laid a hand on another child or anyone for that matter. He acts up (he's 4 now) i pull them pants down give him 2 swats and set him in the corner, he don't do it again. He went through a phase of raising his hand at me and i kept letting it go and just got after him and put him in the corner but nothing helped so i finally spanked him everytime he raised that hand like he wanted to hit me and i think it took two or three times before he didn't do it again. And everytime my son gets spanked or in trouble, as soon as he calms down he is the one to come to me give me a hug and wants me to hold him, he tells me he's sorry and that he loves me. So that method is working for me. It can make a child turn just like a dog. But i think it's all in how you do it.
2006-09-14 15:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my 2 year old went through a biting phase my mother told me to bite her back! How is that teaching her ANYTHING other than 'Mommy hurt me.' I don't believe in hitting a child to make them stop hitting, and I don't believe in burning a child to make them stop playing with matches -- I have seen all of this. I think it's crazy, but we were all raised different and sometimes you just do what you know. It's sad that that type of behavior is all that some parents know.
2006-09-14 15:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! If you rephrase that to "Do you like it when you get hit?" the kid is going to realize that if he doesn't like it whoever he hits won't like it either. Sometimes kids just haven't put 2+2 together, that hitting someone else hurts, so spanking them may work to help them to put the 2 & 2 together.
2006-09-14 15:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where do you think the child learned hitting from? The parent. I've smacked my child a few times. Felt bad afterwards. Because of that guilt I felt, I'll never do it again. I've said those words to my child too. Its like calling the kettle black. You hit them, they hit you, you yell that hitting is wrong. Not a good example to set to a child.
2006-09-14 15:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by jevic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree! That is only sending a mixed message to the kid and teaching them it IS ok to hit! Parents need to think before they react!
2006-09-14 15:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents that swear and then they expect their child not to. that drives me nuts. where do the think they learned it? you can TELL them not to swear all you want but they are going to do it because you tell them with your actions that it is acceptable to swear at your children and your spouse. you are telling them it's acceptable to treat people you love this way. If that's how you treat people you love, then I don't want to be loved by you. I personally don't like it when people swear at me. It is disrespectful to me as a person. Have you ever mentally pictured what comes OUT of your rear end? that is what you call someone when you call them an @$$hole. I want you to puicture that. what that actually is. isn't that disgusting? now that comes out of that little hole? when that word comes out of your mouth you are telling people that your mouth isn't clean. and that your are not fit to be in society. Think about it. And this is what parents teach their children when they call them these names and use this language. as for the sexual references, picture the act. they use this language in front of them too. This is why I don't like to be sworn at and feel it's disrepectful. Because people put NO thought into their languge and whati REALLY means. if my answer educates people and gets you attention and makes even one person think about what they teach their children then it's worth it.
2006-09-14 16:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may not be nice but some times it can be a last resort untill you have had to manage 2 or 3 young ones you dont know how hard it is
2006-09-14 15:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋