home you ask and you try to change (meaning not being so bossy and prissy in a good way just to show them that youre willing to do so,but the whole time of your split you still see this person when you need he's there and when he need your there for whatever the reason is and then when you ask are we getting back together he act like he's unsure,mind you this was the first long relationship for the both of us im 24 and he's 28. I was the best thing for him i cook, clean,iron the works and we do the do every other mo, so my question to ya'll are is it time to move on with my life. Or wait till he come back, my aunt always told me that weight is what broke the wagon down. please help this sista in ATL out!!!! Thanks in advance!!!
2006-09-14 08:06:34 · 14 answers · asked by sexychocolate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So you had a five year relationship. why did you break up.. You say you did everything for him..and you weren't married to him.. maybe he wanted to go out and have a good time . Hard to tell with out knowing more about it .. but if he isn't tryiing to come back probably means he is wanting to move on to a relationship that is more like being friends and dating not like a marriage.
pit falls of liviing together and doing everything for them before marriage.. plenty of time for that after you are marriage. then it is expected of you..
My self with the limited information that you provided here i would say move on find someone who likes having everything done for them and appreciates you for doing it..
If that is what makes you happy there are alot of guys out there that will let you do it for them..
there is more to the situation here that you aren't telling.
If he is unsure about getting back with you , you really don't want him there.
2006-09-14 08:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That man likes you i should rather say he loves you and is your best friend as you said he is always there when youare in need.. Why he doesnt want to come back to you , may be he thinks he is not fit for you or you are not fit for him or he may be under some misunderstanding about you. He must be thinking that its better for you both and specially for you if you people dont come together again . So my suggestion is as your aunt says wait for a year or two and see what happens . By then the things will be more clear and there is a possibility that if he is under some pressure now , that may be relieved later after a time gap.
2006-09-14 15:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by soofi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok that you two still love eachother, but you may both be struggling with are you in love. I would say if it takes 6 months and he hasn't determined the answer to that question than maybe he just doesn't want to hurt you because he loves you. You should try to move on, that doesn't mean you cannot get back together, but if it took him 2 years to find that he wants to be with you-you might be resentful that you put your life on hold for two years waiting. Life is short and while you are waiting you could have missed out on other opportunities. Live life with as few regrets as possible and you will be happy in the end.
2006-09-14 15:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by lady K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he comes over and all he wants is what your giving him there is no reason for him to come back for good. It's like having his cake and eating it too. Move on find someone better who will appreciate the things you do for him they are out there I know. I waited 5 years for a man to finally come around and when I said forget I got better things to do that wait for him. I found a real keeper. I realized I needed to love myself before I could truly love someone else. Make the man worth it. Don't give in to just anyone.
2006-09-14 15:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by grouchyturkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on. Are you going to spend your life waiting for him to decide whether he wants to be with you or not? Sounds like a waste of time. I'm sure he is not even worth all the trouble. You'll find someone better. More fish in the sea.
2006-09-14 15:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have waited long enough. As long as you let him keep stringing you along, he will keep stringing you along. I know you love him and want this to work, but you want him to feel the same for you too. Just maybe if you tell him that you are done, stick to it, be too busy for him, seem happy on your own, then when he has time to miss you, time to think twice, maybe then he will get his head straight and make up his mind. You have to be strong though, you cannot give in, and you cannot, cannot have ANY sexual contact with him. I wish you luck!
2006-09-14 15:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is enjoying the best of both worlds! acting single and still seeing you. sounds like it definately time to cut your losses and move on!!!!! your handsome prince is out there waiting for you, while your part-time man is playing head games. Go out with the girls and FUN!!!!!
2006-09-14 15:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him pay for the housekeeper, cook, etc. Then he will like what he gets that doesn't cost him money. 3 things you don't give a man if you want to keep him around...your house keys, your carkeys and your billfold.. When you stop wanting him, he will start. wanting you...it always wants what it aint got..
2006-09-14 15:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Aunt meant wait not weight. Anyway, he is gone for good except for an occassional booty call.
Move on.
2006-09-14 15:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That was a fake relationship you had with that guy...may be u didn't get to knoe that he just going on with the relationship....
2006-09-14 15:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by heretohelp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋