im the only girl out of 3, mother died when i was younger.......and later on in life i found out my father was an alcoholic always in and out of rehab.........and because of this my older brother kinda took over when ever dad was away but as i grew up he got worse........just not been able to leabe go....becasue after all he is only my brother but i think he like to be controlling any way if hes not slateing me for not doing the cleaning and cooking, which i feel should not be all left to me, because im the girl, but any way my brother is only 23 but goes on like a 43 and cant let go, now that ive all bored ye with my story ill stop because i could just keep going, i feel a bit better, at the end of it there is worse situations i could be in,.......and they are other people who are in these worse situations cheers
2006-09-14 08:04:55 · 11 answers · asked by MissElection 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
been there and done that!!! well i hope i can help any way my brother never paid for anything through these times he was a child himself really, but in the last few years since been with his girlfriend he has a child and build his own home....with her next door, so he thinks its okay for him to come as he goes....n...which is allowed but when he does come in he shouts and throws orders, and also he like to blame people for situations i.e i had him and his girlfriend blame me for a break up they had........and for my fathers drinking... yes we are all in the same boat but no one wants to understand what i went through as a girl......it is different for me....prib harder, but sometimes i remember to be grateful im not on drugs or being a flirt....any way.......your boys will never get over loosing their father, gets easier alright and as long as you keep communicating i think they will grow out of it, we dont communicate in our family i try sometimes but its hard
2006-09-14 08:26:20 · update #1
I don't want to trade. I went through the death of my husband and that was hard.....I don't know what my children are going through, but I can see through you eyes as to how I don't want my children to be.....I need to nip something in the bud concerning my older son. I have two boys and one is bossy and the other one just does as he says.
You have not bored me at all. You have blessed me.....Thank you for sharing......
No, you are not to do all the work because you are a girl, but if your brother is working outside of the home and bringing in $$$ and you are going to school you need to help out. You need to see yourselves as a team working together. Trying to keep the family together the only way you know how.
If your brother is feeding you and clothing you then you need to look at as a trade. Understand that he is doing the best that he can do with what he has......He has your best at heart.
2006-09-14 08:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to cheer up , I don't know how old you are but I know your young, just think one of these days you'll be old enough to go on your own and make your own decisions and hopefuuly you'll get married and have children of your own..I know right now your a little down but cheer up you have a BIG future ahead of you..Hang in there just a little while longer and one day you will look back at this and see that your brother had to grow up fast to by taking on the responsibility of trying to take care of the rst of you..Good Luck to you and hang in there sweety..
2006-09-14 15:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel so sorry for you ,if your brother has his own house tell him to stay there and leave you alone,or if your at an age t o move out but demand your share of the house in money ,hes a rotten brother he should be glad to have you as his sister,i pity the girlfriend have you a friend to confide in or some relation ,if you cant talk to your dad,im sure your dad wouldnt like to see you miserable .speak to himNOW
2006-09-15 15:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, good luck with everything. Keep your head up!
2006-09-14 15:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out ala-non on line it may help a little. good luck and God bless!!
2006-09-14 15:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boss is being a pig and im really miserable at work. good luck with yours
2006-09-14 15:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by malaika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had food poisoning in the weekend and got beaten up on tuesday, don't know if that helps...
2006-09-14 15:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't have only a bad day,you have and a bad life!hold on in there.Anything you want don't hasitate to send me!!!
2006-09-14 15:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by a a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of tomorrow, and enjoy it even more
2006-09-14 15:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by russellhamuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel so sorry for you!
2006-09-14 15:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋