I am currently dating a guy that i think is wonderful, i really think that he could be the one for me, the problem is that sometimes he drinks too much.. i don't think that right now its a problem but his father has dirnking problems and i am afraid that he will fololow in his footsteps.. what can i do? hes a really great guy and i don;t want to let him go..
2006-09-14 07:53:20 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Put your foot down now. Lay the rules down, let him know he have to get help, slow his role down in drinking. Because it will become a big problem later in life. Get help for him now. If the farther is a alcoholic, most likely he will also.
2006-09-14 08:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by cilstubbs2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, if he's that great, you would not be asking for advice. There simply is nothing you can do if he enjoy drinking, he will continue to do so. He has to make the decision to stop. In my opinion, he's not a great guy if he drinks too much. You have some self esteem issue. Don't sell yourself short. If his drinking is bothering you now, why stay in the relationship. Drinking leads to nothing but destruction and heartache. It bothers me when you say, I don't want to let him go. WHY? Don't you deserve the best? Girl, love yourself and don't settle for just anything. I'm sure he's not the only guy in the world. Take it from a 39yr old who knows a thing or two. You will survive if you decide to end the relationship. Date other people. Don't get so serious at a young age. Live life and have fun and enjoy yourself! Please work on your self esteem and your insecurities.
2006-09-14 08:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by dimples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about this and tell him that a drink here and there is OK but when you need to drink than there is a problem. Make it fun tell him you will dress up in a sexy outfit of he doesn't drink for a week or whatever you feel in a good amount of time. Try to be there for him as much as you can it will make the whole process a little easier.
2006-09-14 07:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by littlepinklily03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exact situation you are. And there isn't much you can do. He can't fix his drinking problem until he realizes he has one and admits to it.
Talking doesn't do any good with my boyfriend at least, no matter how I approach the subject. Now I just try to provide alternate activities we can do where there will be no drinking so I don't have to be placed in a situation where he will be drinking when I am around.
2006-09-14 08:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Little Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a problem drinker, it will only get worse. If dad has a problem then junior has hand me down behaviour and attitude. Usually it takes a crisis to change the course of an alcoholic and the later in life the greater the crisis that is required. Do him and yourself a favour and break off your relationship (create his crisis) until he gets straightened out. If he does get straight you both win and you'll know that he really cares about you but, if he doesn't get straight then you'll see that he cares little about you, and only you will win. You don't want to be involved with a drunk. It will get worse.
2006-09-14 08:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by chickenger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really nothing you can do. You can express your concern, but someone is not going to change that kind of behavior if they don't want to. It is a drug addiction as much as any other one, and it's just a reality that he has to face on his own. The more you force the issue, the worse he will get, but I would definatly let him know how you feel (but only once), don't nag him about it.
2006-09-14 07:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a serious discussion with him about your concerns. He probably is not even aware that he is drinking too much.
2006-09-14 07:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by WEIRDRELATIVES 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him and if your afraid to do that then maybe you can pick up some brochures about alcohol addiction and lay them around the house good luck.
2006-09-14 07:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he can change that, my dad was an alcoholic and I am not. I drink alot but only socially.
2006-09-14 07:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by YAHOO SUCKS ASS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop or your going to leave him,, get him in rehab,, if his father drinks alot he dont see anything wrong with it. good luck
2006-09-14 07:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋