we're going to a way-over-the-top wedding at the end of the month. its a night wedding and black-tie optional. We're struggling with what my son should wear. He's not in the wedding party but will be handing out programs. I guess it feels like it'd be easiest to have him wear a tux...he doesn't have a full-suit (and the shoes are a problem) and he'll probably destroy any suit he did have over 6 hours of partying and dancing at the wedding (and tux rental places count on having to clean them). But is it acceptable for a boy of that age?
2006-09-14 07:44:08 · 33 answers · asked by hope d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Get him a dark sports coat and lighter pants, For instance Navy coat and a toned down beige pant; white shirt. Dark patterned tie (perhaps a subdued stripe); dark dress shoes and socks. Skip the tux for a kid. That just looks stupid! In fact, tuxes look stupid over all on any age! No one will be looking at the kid, just the bride and groom, etc. Frankly, to expect young children to sit through these formal affairs is a bit much. They NEVER have a good time!
2006-09-14 07:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
It is perfectly acceptable for an 8 yr old to wear a tuxedo for the wedding...
With the responsibility of handing out programs and a tuxedo on you may find that your son acts much calmer and doesn't destroy his clothing...
Since the reception is slated to laast 6 hours consider a recess similar to school recess for your son.. Pack along some of his regular play clothes and about 1/2 way through the 6 hours excuse yourself and your son take him to a kids resturant nearby with an indoor play area (McDonald's) change him into the play clothes and give him 30-45 minutes of go nuts kid time before changing back into the tux to return to the reception... I say indoor so you can avoid the dirt ect. associated with outdoor areas.. Also pack a few wash clothes and a towel so you can give him a quick wipedown before changing back to the tux...
Explain to him that about 1/2 way through the 6 hours you will take him to have a recess..... He will know that there is going to be a recess and will act appropriately because you have already designated a time for him to go nuts...
Also limiting his sugar intake for the few days leading up to the reception will help him remain calmer while still being a kid...
If you do a few modifications and have designated nuts time your son will act the little gentleman at the wedding and you will all have a much more pleasant time...
2006-09-14 08:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont waste money on expensive clothes, renting is acceptable here, An 8 yr old knows he cant destroy the suit if you tell him to have fun but stay clean the suit belongs to someone else he'll understand. If he is a holy terror and think he may leap into the wedding cake you may want to dress him in white collar shirt tie and black trousers with nice shoes. Purchasing can be a hassle here. Get all the clothes in one place cheap at Old Navy or Sears
or the best low cost retail outlet in your area
I was 9 y.o and wore a tux to my brothers wedding and knew i had to return it, and kept the suit nice and neat. i think your youngster will get the idea. Have him with you when you goto the rental place it'll really sink in that he has to give back the suit and face that man again. Children respect and fear the strangers in that place. even if he is not scared about how yould react to him destroying the clothes
2006-09-14 08:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by steevo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's involved in the wedding proceedings, I would think it would be totally expected. It will also designate him as belonging to the wedding party instead of just some kid they handed programs to and posted at the front door. And how cute are little boys in tuxes?
Granted, my cousin and I stood up in my parents' wedding (second marriage), as a miniature bride and groom, but my cousin was only like 6 when they stuffed him into a tux. We also had a friend who's two boys (4 and 6) were involved only long enough to walk her down the aisle, and that was so cute you had to cry.
2006-09-14 07:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is definitely acceptable. Is your husband wearing a tux? If not, then I think it might look a little odd that the 8 yr old is in a tux but his dad is not. But I think a tux is nice.
However, I would recommened renting a nice dark suit. You can go to a tux rental shop and rent a suit too... no need to buy one and you can bring it back for them to clean!
2006-09-14 09:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is handing out the programs, then he is considered a part of the wedding party and should dress as the wedding party dresses. The TUX is the way to go.
2006-09-14 08:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by AMY D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, of course your little boy can wear a tux...if he's handing out programs, technically he's still part of the wedding party if not the main part.
My fiance's brother is nine and he'll be wearing a tux to the wedding.
2006-09-14 07:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's extremely acceptable. It is also extremely adorable. The thing about trying to keep the tux clean is going to be a hard thing to do. The child is only 8 and will probably be having a BLAST at the wedding, so good luck with that part, but yes i do think it is acceptable.
2006-09-14 07:47:59 · answer #8 · answered by smuggie71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely. When my best friend got married, her son (who was 4 at the time) wore a tux. He wasn't specifically in the wedding party either but he was up front and, obviously, in all the pictures.
2006-09-15 18:33:06 · answer #9 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure--the tux rental places have tux's for kids as well as teens and grown ups. A lot of times the tux place will throw in a tux for the ring-bearer for free if you rent all your wedding tux's from them--or at least that's what our tux rental place did.
And I think that if he's passing out programs, he needs to be in a tux. Be sure and get lots of pictures of him in his tux!
2006-09-14 07:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, my five-year wore a tux to my brother's wedding. And by the way, if he is handing out programs, he is part of the wedding party, and the groom owes him a gift the same as any usher.
2006-09-14 07:50:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋