My mother is 50 years old.
She has been divorced for 15 years.
She has not had a boyfriend in 10 years!
She has been on 4 dates in the last 5 years, but she didn’t think they were good enough for a 2nd date.
Men just don’t seem to find her attractive, she is very bitter over her divorce and doesn’t have much of a life.
She says her next husband must: have his own money/house, a good job, a devout Catholic, have no baggage (kids, ex-wife), must not want to spend all his time with her, etc.
She cannot find a man with all the qualities!
She says the only way she will go out with someone is if they are a friend of her friends.
But all her friends hang out with married people!
AND, she tells me she is jealous that I married before she did!
I am in my mid 20’s and its my first marriage!
What do you think? I don’t think she will ever get married!
2006-09-14 07:43:53 · 7 answers · asked by HappyHippo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Nearly all divorcee dated or remarried within two years of separation. One-third of mothers started dating within a year of separation. One-third said one of their parents had already formed a new relationship before the divorce. To successfully date one has to have positive self esteem believe that she is attractive and desirable partner or prospective wife. If she lack self esteem she will find every excuse not to be in the relations.
I do not think that she has right to envy you that you get married.
2006-09-14 08:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is not your problem. Your mom is her problem. She is too afraid. Just like my mom.
Mom is stuck in Her routine and world. She only goes to church and work......Let her be and you have fun with your new marriage.....It's her choice. Don't fall for the guilt trips.
I am just now leaving the guilt trips and mom behind so that I can have a life of my own. It will tear you apart if you let it......What does your wife say.....Sometimes they can see things that we out of "Love" choose to ignore.
Sorry......I feel your pain.
2006-09-14 07:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she is really conflicted within herself. You say she was jelouse that you got married before her, and that leades one to belive that she wants to be married, but she is sabatoging herself by haveing so many all or nothing qualtaies and refusing to date, it sounds like she may not want, or be able to put herself into another relationship. If she really wants to find someone she will come around, if not than than that is up to her.
2006-09-14 08:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by midesweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wont if she dont want too,, we would all like a man that has everything,, she will get tired of being alone one day,, enjoy your marriage and stop worrying about mom
2006-09-14 07:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be more concerned with YOUR relationship and let your mom do whatever she wants to be happy... you don't need to be married to feel completely happy with your life.
2006-09-14 07:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by tampico 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe
2006-09-14 07:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by laura_jean216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe not
2006-09-14 07:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋