I am 18 and I have a girlfriend who i've been dating for over a year and who I absolutely love. I mean it when I say she could be the one if only it wasn't for one thing... she is sooo busy, she almost never has any time for me. I see her like once a every 2 weeks, sometimes twice. I am a very passionate guy and I feel alone when I am not with her, thus she is causing somewhat of a depression. What should I do? Should I just be happy I see her at all. What would you do? We still talk atleast once a day and text/email.
2006-09-14 07:30:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
shes a full time student, she has 2 jobs, and now she needs to volunteer for a school project.
2006-09-14 07:34:22 · update #1
i meant we talk on the phone + txt/ email
2006-09-14 07:43:19 · update #2
If the reason that you're not able to see her very often revolves around school, work, or due to the fact that you two live miles apart then you'll just have to tough it out. If it's not a legit reason then this is something that you two will have to talk about. Express to her that you love her very much and would like to spend more time with her. Tell her that calling/texting/emailing once a day is not enough for you.
2006-09-14 07:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by Nocturnal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes a full time student and has 2 jobs. Then thats something your going to have to deal with if you want to be with her. Thats part of life. At least shes trying to make something out of herself. I think you need to sit down and talk to her and see if theres anyway she can fit you into her busy schedule more often than she does. I think that you guys should talk on the phone at least once a day because if you guys have time to type then you have time to press a few numbers and call each other! Instead of her volunteering for the school project why don't she take that time so she can spend it with you! Good luck.
2006-09-14 14:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is really busy. You are 18. Try not to get super serious because you guys are young. I know that's not what you want to hear but it is better to not get really serious at highschool age or just after you graduate. If she doesn't have a lot of time for you don't wait around for her. Live your life and try to keep busy yourself. This happened to me when I was your age. I was head over heels in love with someone who didn't make much time for me. When I finally questioned him on it he responded with, "Seeing somebody once a week isn't much of a relationship." He didn't view me as his girlfriend and here I was waiting for him to be a better boyfriend all the time. and I was very depressed over it. I realized after I grew up a little that it was partly my fault for putting up with it. Maybe your girl is just busy living her life like an 18 year old should, and that is good. If it is meant to be for the two of you it will happen, just don't stop living your life in the meantime. Also I learned that a depressed person isn't very attractive to others.
2006-09-14 14:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by Rhianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her about it, there is no way she's has so many things to do that she doesn't have time for you....tell her how you feel, tell her that you rreally love her and care for her and that you want to be happy with her.....try to offer to help her with some of her things, that way you can spend more time togther, also try studying together....because when you love someone just being there in the same room is enough. Still, I think the best thing would be to tell her how you feel, and tell her you are willing to help and try tomake her life easier, that way you can see her more often because you miss her. Good Luck.
2006-09-14 14:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by Honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are at an age where your life IS busy and just beginning. If she gave up the things that made her HER to spend more time with you, she wouldn't be the girl you are in love with! Try finding something productive to do with the extra time you have without her so you can be the best you can possibly be for her!
2006-09-14 14:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a great girl!!! Sooner or later her schedule will probably let up a bit!! You must stay busy yourself. hang out with friends, take a new class, get a new hobby, something to fill the time you spend missing her. If it is meant to be it will all work out ! GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-14 14:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex and i went through something similar. i was studying and had a job we called each other everyday but i saw him only once or twice a week and he was always supportive of me and yes i know he missed me because i missed him too. when we were together i just wanted to be with him but instead he helped me study, questioned me on how i was doing in school and so on. He understood that when we first meet that i had plans and he never wanted to stand in my way and that is what u have to BE UNDERSTANDING. we're not together today but i can assure it is not for this reason
2006-09-14 15:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think why you are attracted to her. If it is because she is outgoing then you should let her continue to be outgoing. If you want to be with someone that has a life then don't try to stop their life for your selfishness, if you want to spend time with her then you do what she does so that you both get out of life what you both want. if you nag her about all the things she is doing she will be gone in a heartbeat!
2006-09-14 15:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by DC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is why can't you see her more often? and where does she be? I think she is avoiding you and if you are not happy with that then you should let her know. Maybe you and her will work things out because you sounds like a sweet person and you don't deserve this
2006-09-14 14:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by she 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok mate...let`s see i really don`t think she feels as strong about you as you do for her. if she did she would have found a way to see you or reach you on a more regular basis. if a person is always too busy for his\her partner and doesn`t want to do anything about to make this situation better, you need to be able to let her\him go easily. besides why would you want someone in your life who doesn`t even care about you that much...sorry man:((
2006-09-14 14:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by gulrizwhite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋