My boyfriend moved into a new apartment and he asked me to move in with him next month. I agreed and we planned on me bringing stuff up this weekend.
The past few days, he has been calling me and his cell phone keeps dropping the call. Rather than go somewhere else where he can call from a real phone, he gives up or doesn't call back. But when we do talk, he's in an unusually good mood (why would he be happy if we haven't talked?)
He was on his way to work this morning and he called me to remind me to bring up something. He then asked what I was doing today and he reminded me to pack the car with the stuff. The phone cut out and he didn't call back. I thought he would have at least called when he got to work.
Should I continue with the plan and pack the car? Or should I just say forget it? Are guys really content with only talking to their girlfriend for 5 minutes a day?
2006-09-14 07:18:28 · 23 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is like my husband, he probably just forgets. Unless you have a gut feeling that you are doing the wrong thing or he is giving you another reason to doubt him, move forward with your plans.
2006-09-14 07:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by luvmysoldier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offence, but it really sounds like you are overeacting a little. He is still calling you, and he does want you to move in with him. The fact that he keeps reminding you to move stuff into the car should show that he cares. Also, you should not be so insecure about your relationship, the fact that you two are committed enough to move in together means that you're past the stage where he has to call you every 5 seconds to let you know he cares about you, you should know that already. And he's probably busy at work, his phone might be just giving him major problems, and he figures everything will be ok once you guys move in together. I think you need to give him a break, and give him a chance, and the fact that he is in an "unusually good mood when you talk" should imply that perhaps he is happy because he's finally got some time to talk to you, and talking to you makes him happy, you know what they say: "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" so when he does talk to you, it makes him happy, and in the end shouldnt it be quality that matters and not quantity? I personally think you should continue with the plan and pack the car, and also if you are still unsettled about the whole thing, you need to talk to him. Relax a bit and enjoy moving in, it should be a joyful experience not a stressful one :)
2006-09-14 07:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mezee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just don't like talking on the phone. I wouldn't think anything of it!! You're going to be living together and he's happy about it. Continue to pack the car. He sounds content with the situation and you should be,too! =) Good luck!!
2006-09-14 07:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the reason he seems content when talking to you is because he's happy to hear your voice cause he misses you. I don't know the tone in which he reminded you to pack your things, or if you have valid reasons for not seeing each other. Maybe he told you everything he really needed to and figures he'll see you soon enough to talk about other things.
2006-09-14 07:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the bearer of bad news honey, but his *** has another woman on the side, or he's on drugs; but its probably another woman. He is just calling you to keep you off the scent of his infidelity. If you havent been around him doing things to make him smile...somebody else obviously is...I believe he is just keeping you around for what you can provide for him. He sounds like a bum. Tell you what I would do...sneak up there a few days early and see who goes in and out that apartment while you're not around...its gonna be an eye-opener.
2006-09-14 07:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by amazinbabyfaceona5footframe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him straight up what the deal is. You will be better off knowing now rather than finding out after you have already moved in. maybe he is just busy with his move. I would definitely talk to him if it was bothering me. Guys don't think about things sometimes. Good luck, I hope it works out ok.
2006-09-14 07:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by krisaquarius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they are they figure we don't really want anything so why waist a conversation .He figures he said all he had to say and if you wanted something you call him .From experience I've learned that most guys don't like conversing on the phone they'de rather be in your face so don't sweat the fact that he doesn't call you back thats a small thing it's when he doesn't answer your calls when you have areal problem.
2006-09-14 07:25:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am a guy. I hate the Phone... Its to impersonal, just pack the car and assume everything is good
2006-09-14 07:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by DOAnderson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm I think you should pack your car, go up there and see whats up before you get the stuff out. If he has a good exuse and has just been busy then fine, but if he isn't making any sense leave with the stuff u brought!
2006-09-14 07:26:22 · answer #9 · answered by not_your_average*chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are like that my bf does it all the time we will be talking on the phone and our phones will cut out and he wont call back.. hes content with just saying hello and goodnight to me everyday,.. and we have a long distance thing so be greatfull he wants u to move in with him..
2006-09-14 07:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by LOLA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋