I could use some tips and advice. What works for you? Have you ever had a lot of trouble, if so how did you teach yourself or what did you do to solve it?
2006-09-14 07:11:01 · 0 answers · asked by lc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need privacy, time and maybe lubrication. First empty your bladder, so you are not stressed about that issue.
Start by easing your mind. Do your best to loosen your expectations. Set a small goal and feel good about reaching it. You may aim for learning what things feel like when you touch, rub, pat or lightly caress them.
Relax reclined on a soft couch or bed. Explore your body finding the places that make you feel more aroused when you stimulate them and the places that don't make any difference no matter what you do. Women are sensitive all over their body and if you spend some time trying to find them all, it helps get you started. Start at the extremes, your head, your feet and work your way slowly toward the middle. Do you like your toes rubbed, are your earlobes sensitive, nape of the neck, back of the knee? Where on your thigh is it most exciting to caress? How do you like your breasts stimulated? Take time to figure all these things out. As you do, you are preparing for the climb for the climax.
When you learn these things about yourself, ask your partner to do them. Say that it really feels good if he deep massages the ball of your foot, or whatever it is you find out you like.
When you are getting to a point where you are thinking about when you should move on, go ahead and explore your genitals the same way you explored your body. Find out what feels good and try many different things. If you can stimulate yourself enough to get some natural lubrication, use that to help soothe the friction of rubbing your clitoris. If not, get some petroleum jelly, oil or KY jelly and use it. (use only KY jelly if you use condoms for birth control.)
Eventually you will end up rubbing mostly your clitoris, but you can rub inside with one hand and the clitoris with the other, if that helps you feel more excited. When you settle in on the clitoris stimulation, start slow, change motions, change pressure, find out what feels best to you. As time progresses increase speed and pressure, be sure to keep lubrication fresh and as you increase speed and pressure you may start to feel a rise of tingling in your body. Keep the motions and the pressure going as a kind of whipping up of the tingling. You may feel like you are about to urinate. That is an indication you are getting closer to the climax. Give in to making that feeling grow. Allow yourself to have the tingling feeling and as it builds, eventually it will radiate throughout your body for a little while.
With luck and practice you will be having orgasms when you feel like it.
2006-09-14 10:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Ken C. 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you need...you need to host a pure romance party and buy yourself a really good vibrator! Don't be intimidated- buy a big one for penetration and 'ticklers' for extra stimulation! You'll wonder why you waited so long to buy one!
With a partner, get on top that way you can get the most pleasure by going deep, not too mention the clitoris that will be receiving equal stimulation. Can't go wrong! Oh, if your partner gives oral that helps, too. Have fun!
2006-09-14 07:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by scootzz777 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
How To Make Yourself ***
2016-09-28 02:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-08-04 07:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-09-14 07:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by jk s 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
it's all in the clit..........
2006-09-14 07:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋