I am going to buy a mall gift certificate for my cousin's wedding gift. She lives in a city 1.5 hrs away and we don't see each other much. We don't even really know each other that well since I saw her 3 times in the past 10 years, and maybe once a year growing up.
How much should I give her? I am thinking between $35 - $50. How much would you give if it was your cousin.
2006-09-14 07:08:03 · 24 answers · asked by hello 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Oh yeah, she's not my 1st cousin. My parents and her parents are 1st cousins, so she would be my 3rd cousin.
2006-09-14 07:12:48 · update #1
The mall certificate can be used in her city and can be used in almost all of the stores in the mall, so it gives her the freedom to choose what store to buy from.
Her registry has been filled, there are no other items on the list that I can buy.
The gift certificate will be from me and my boyfriend. I can't see her paying more than $25 per plate at the reception.
2006-09-14 08:25:37 · update #2
$50
2006-09-14 07:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Alexandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT get a gift certificate!! Brides and grooms have so so many expenses associated with a marriage and starting a new home together, that a check is a much more acceptable gift, and far less restrictive.
Take into consideration what you can afford, and where the wedding is being held. If it's a 5 star resort with $100/plate dinners, and you make a ton of money, then $200 is good for you and your boyfriend. If its around $25 a plate like you suggested (which you should be aware is pretty low, most places averaged around 35-50 when I was looking) then $50 is fine. What is most important is what you can afford, and that you write something nice in the card expressing your joy for their day.
2006-09-14 09:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by trinnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest a check instead of mall certificate. The check can be used for anything (bills, towards a new home, etc). A mall certificate is a bit limited.
I would recommend $100.00 if you can afford it. But if you can't afford that, I would try to keep it at the $50.00 mark. HOWEVER, it's really not even necessary that you give a gift. Some people have a FIT if you don't give a gift but I think it's a nice gesture but not required. I am getting married soon - if people don't bring gifts I will not be upset. And I would be happy with a $25 mall certificate. But my experience is that most people are a bit more rattled when they get a small gift (or none at all).
2006-09-14 09:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cousin Gift
2016-10-30 21:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, you don't sound very enthused about going, and if it were MY third cousin, I would NOT be either, as I have NEVER met any third cousins. Anyway, if you can skip this affair I would, and if not, wouldn't you be going with your parents? Thus if you are, it would be up to THEM to give the gift from your entire family. I have to tell you that a cheesy little gift certificate like the one YOU spoke of, would look just that...cheesy! Let Mom and Dad buy the gift. Or like I said, if you are old enough to stay home and Mom and Dad don't mind, STAY HOME! Todays average wedding gift is about $275.00 in most areas.
2006-09-14 07:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the people who keep telling you that she would be your 2nd cousin, they are wrong. She is your 3rd cousin because her mother is your 2nd cousin.
As for a gift, if you are going, you really should cover your plate. I've been the maid of honor in 2 weddings in the last 6 months and both brides had the same complaint. People attended the wedding and didn't cover the cost of the plate.
2006-09-14 13:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just finish doing a wedding for a friend of mine. She had to pay $85/person for the reception. Most receptions that provide lunch/dinner cost anywhere from $50-150 per person.
2006-09-14 09:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she is your 1st cousin, once removed.
You should give $50. Write her a check at the wedding, or get a gift card for whatever store where she has her wedding registry.
2006-09-14 07:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your second cousin actually. Anyway, that's beside the point.
The rule of etiquette is that if you are giving money at a wedding, it should be at least enough to pay for a dinner for the couple at a restaurant. It doesn't have to be a 5 star place, but it shouldn't be fast food either. So you should plan on at least $50, if not more.
2006-09-14 07:43:21 · answer #9 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say $50-$100 since two people are coming,she is paying probably that much for a plate total,and she is family even if extended.
2006-09-14 17:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋