I'm 9 months pregnant, I'm home with my 2.5 yr old son, who of course is going through his terrible twos. My husband works from 7:30 am to at least 10:00 pm these days (just started a business and we are saving for the baby so he has to work as hard as he is). Anyway, I try and try so hard to have patience for my son and I do for about 3 days straight then I just lose it on the fourth day, I constantly scold him. Is anyone consistently able to be patient and calm everyday and all the time, I can't I try, but I just can't.
2006-09-14 07:02:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Hun..your 9 months prego! You need to get a little break after days straight of the same thing. I think the only way to be totally patient - is to be on medication! And that's just not possible. Your human, its natural to get frustrated. Take some solace in knowing that you do it better than I do lol. My firstborn, but 3 son (2 step kids) is haywire sometimes, just because of the energy he has..and while I know he is good...there are some things he does just to be onry, and thats on a daily basis. I think I have a little more patience than my husband does, who is the one who stays at home. While the two oldest are in school, which provides a bit of a break, I notice during the summer is when they are all just totally insane. My husband basicaly tunes everything out when I walk in the door lol.
Its just day to day life. Maybe you can find a way to get a quick break before the baby comes. Even if its just a day. Might provide a day for your husband too, in the middle of all that.
Best wishes for you both!
2006-09-14 07:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by saintlyinnocents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also nine months pregnant and I have a two year old and five year old. My husband works nights so he is gone in the evenings and sleeping most the day. I totally sympathize. Give your self a break. No one can be patient all the time. Being pregnant is hard enough, plus raising a toddler. Just do your best. Remember two year olds are just naturally a whole heap of trouble... but it is also the time they are the most loving and so darn cute. Don't concentrate so hard on perfection, just do your best to focus on the positive things your son is doing. And when you slip, and if you know you are being too harsh, just resolve to do better from that point on.
It may also help to enlist some help from parents or friends this last month and for after the baby is born (its not going to get any easier with a screaming baby around). There are also moms groups in many communities and places of worship that may help you see the struggles all moms have dealing with young children.
Good luck!!!
2006-09-14 14:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Kitty33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a SAHM/WAHM of four (16, 13, 6 & 1) with a night job at a local video store. Most nights I bring home kids' movies for the baby (he's such a little couch potato and we've seen all of our movies at least a dozen times each) and once in awhile I bring home a game for the 6 year old.
Also, on Monday mornings, Disney has the Monday Morning Movie (on both cable and satellite). These movie times are usually the only time I have free to get work done whether it's business or housework.
I am also a rep for a company that is similar to Build-a-Bear called The Purple Hippo http://www.purplehippoparties.com/aparisi and we are always looking for new party reps.
Good luck!
2006-09-14 14:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to get so frustrated--my husband was deployed when my son was born. It's hard. I suggest you step outside for a minute. Just relax--take a breather when you don't feel you can take it anymore. Do you have a vehicle durning the day? Maybe on that day you know you'll lose your temper, go to a friend's house, your parents house, go to the mall, heck even your mother-in-law's house or just go somewhere. I know it's weird but when you are put into a situation where you can not lose your temper and are doing something you like to do--it's eaiser to get by. Take a walk. Go for a ride. Do something that calms your son down and calms you at the same time! And if you can't do anything listed here--at least walk outside, like I said in the begining. If you step away from a situation it's eaiser to not get frustrated later. Good Luck!
2006-09-14 14:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No sweetie...no one has the ability to be patient all the time with kids. Especially in the matter of having no break. I know it's hard to deal with and it makes you feel guilty to be that way to your son, but you can only pour out so much before you need a refill! Try a moms day out program at a local church or a moms group in your area, they have lots of things to do and lots of suggestions as well as support. Good luck, I have been where you are at and it will get better.
2006-09-14 14:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by bluucantuinashoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is hard but try to find some time during the day/s to spend some quality time with your son. Say two to three 20 minute sessions per day of reading, playing,snuggling, napping. I remember those days of stress and do regret not doing this more often. Especially after the new baby is born. You can do this while baby is sleeping.
2006-09-14 14:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by Cam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. My husband is gone for 5 days a week and we only see him on weekends. I try so hard to be patient with the kids but it is so hard. The only thing that keeps my 3 year old happy is keeping him involved with chores and such throughout the day. (I don't force him to do chores, he asks to do them) Ever since then things have gotten a lot better! Good luck to you and congrats on the new baby!
2006-09-16 10:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have four and I went through this with my 2 middle kids. I think the best peice of advice that was given me was to sit down with the one who is giving you grief and have fun with them for a few minutes, or as long as you both can sit. This is especially important on the days when you are spent. As for patience all of the time, every time- dream on. Each child is born into a different family than the first. Allow yourself to be with you kids and they will turn out. Don't be to hard on yourself if things don't go as you hoped them to go. Be patient when you can.
Hope this helps,
A.
2006-09-14 14:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to consistently be patient. What I try and do is when every my 13 month old is taking her nap I try and have mommy time wether its sitting outside on the patio or laying in bed or taking a bubble bath. That helps me calm my nerves. Being a stay at home mom is a test to your nerves.
2006-09-14 14:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by mckt81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a job to gain your sanity back. Get out of the house, get a sitter or something for a few hours 1 or 2 nights a week. Things will just be worse when you have that baby. Go get a pregnancy massage, get your hair or nails done, get a pedicure.
You are around your kids too much with no help. You need to get out.
2006-09-14 14:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by jevic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋