ok. i've been going out with a girl for almost two years and now theres this other girl that i've known for about 5 years and we play music together and hang out and we get along really good and now i think i'm starting to like her and i don't know what to do.
looks have absolutely nothing to do with it they are both gorgeous but the one likes talking about far future things like babies and stuff and she likes to be like a goody good and the music girl doesn't like to think about it (like me) and both of us are very musical and we get along a lot better than me ane my girlfriend.
my girlfriend already knows about this because i told her but she thinks it'll wear off but if it doesn't than what should i do?
2006-09-14 06:46:15 · 6 answers · asked by Gdawg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be with the girl that you WILL appreciate, treat well, and makes you feel like being a better man. think of it this way: u have a girlfriend who Talks about marriage and children with you...that kinda means that she WANTS you. she LOVES you. she thinks you're great!!! if u don't appreciate that, then u are not really that great; ur the one in the relationship that has doubts, is not sure, is not fully committed to her..does that make sense? not to make u feel bad, but u are 1) not appreciating that she thinks ur so great she wants to Marry you, and 2) u obviously don't feel the same way towards her. =T. kinda sucks for her, u know?
the way u describe ur current girlfriend is kinda negative.. u are pointing out that u don't get along as well, and she has different goals than u do... =T how are u gonna treat her well, and do Right for her and by her, if u don't want the same things? u either have to change, and work hard to be a guy who is worthy of those feelings ur girlfriend has.. or u have to cut if off, and find someone else. not cuz ur a jerk, but because ur not ready, or not right for each other =T. black and white.
sounds to me like u would Rather be w/ the 2nd girl cuz of comfortability and similar interests... my suggestion to u is not to stay w/ someone because of how Long u've been w/ them, but who you think will make you happy, and makes YOU want to be good to her. staying w/ the 1st girl "just cuz" is not treating her well..u think so, but it's not. if u respect her as a future wife, u wouldn't think so negatively about her. so do both of u a favor; if u don't know for sure that u want to MARRY someone after 1 and 1/2 years, Cut it off. for the good of Both of your feelings, emotions, and lives...the longer u string her along, the more u will resent her, and the more she will be waiting to marry you, and u'll just hurt her, and yourself, because of the emotional ties.
let her find someone who Can't Wait to marry her...and let yourself find someone who has similar goals as you (currently u don't want to think about marriage, and when she says things, if it doesn't make you want to Do what is Right and Good for her, then ur w/ the wrong woman). good luck. and be kind.... disrespecting is NEVER good, whether it happens now or later down the road.
2006-09-14 06:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, in my opinion, you have fell for the other girl who's in the band with you...am i wrong to say that?...i guess you are more comfortable and can be yourself around her. To me thats what is most important. Sometimes it happens we fall for the wrong person when all the while the right person was right in front of us....but before you do anything you got to make sure does the music girl likes you too? does she also have same kinda feelings for you? By your description this girl seems to be way too cooler than your current girlfriend....and five years is a hella long time to get to know a person. Dont you think so?...so boy, if it feels right and you're really sure about it, break up with the current girl nicely and explain to her that the feelings you have for this girl in your band won't ware off...i'm sure she would understand...i mean i would'nt held my boy back if i know his heart has goes out to somebody else...it just does'nt work this way...
so...goodluck.
2006-09-14 07:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by Nailhead_pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said your girlfriend already knows about this then I would suggest that you talk to the other girl and find out how she feels about you. If your both on the same page then maybe the two of you being together are ment to be.
2006-09-14 06:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by dainara7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest to yourself first of all.... what's your heart say ? my opinion - you're young, tell the girlfriend goodbye and head straight to the one that distracted you in the first place
2006-09-14 06:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart. she'll get over it.
2006-09-14 06:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not nice
2006-09-14 06:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by xsxsxsx36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋