Girls, is it ok to allow a romance to blossom rather than forcing it early?

Question

I have this friend of mine that I know likes me, and I love her! We both definitely want a relationship, but my question is would it be ok to allow the relationship to blossom from friendship into romance? I intend to allow my feelings become evident over time rather than rush in and tell her. I want to allow a strong foundation to develop. I really love her, and I have a strong feeling from above that she is "the one" for me. What do you think? Should I take time and let friendship grow into romance, or should I rush in and ask her out and go from there? Honest answers only please! Thanks...

Answer 1

It is very obvious that you care about her and want to do the right thing for both of you. If you feel comfortable telling her how you feel about her, I think you ought to. I understand wanting to let love blossom naturally. This is very wise. But...are there any other reasons for waiting? Would telling her now, ruin the foundation? Think about these things, and then make your decision. Sorry to answer your question with questions.

Good luck.

Answer 2

of course! Most women prefer and stay in relationships longer when they come from a strong foundation of friendship. But be sure not to be too possessive early on or you might scare her away. Look at your competition as a good thing because it will probably provide a nice contrast between you (the guy with the good heart who really cares about her) and the other guy (who probably just wants to get in her pants). Over time you will shine as the clear choice. Good luck!

Answer 3

I guess it's better to let it grow, and take time to get to know eachother even better then slowly start out the relationship.

Answer 4

Perfectly fine to let it blossom although don't wait too long to let your feelings be known then it might be too late.

Answer 5

Yes it is because it is better if it works it's way and you can really enjoy the romanticness. if i were you i would wait and let it happen that way you and your lover can really enjoy each other.

Answer 6

What a sweet guy you are to be so concerned with this lucky woman's feelings and needs! It is so refreshing to read such a tender and romantic question! To get to that question, I would state that striking a balance between the two should work best. Now, as I am sure you are aware, this is easier said than done. However, nothing worthwhile comes to us easily, right? So, I suggest you allow her to become more aware that your feelings are romantic rather than platonic. There are ways you can do this without "rushing in" as you said. Plus, we both know nobody can "force" anybody to do anything. So, it is good you know the limitations here and are trying to find the appropriate way of letting her know how you feel, without bombarding her with pressure.

I suggest you do little things to show your feelings have changed. Comment on how pretty her hair, eyes, outfit is. Tell her how impressed you are with how she delt with an issue at work, or in her private life, and then go on to add how these are great skills and traits any man would be lucky to find in the woman he wished to spend the rest of his llfe with. Make as many well placed and well spaced comments on how lucky any man would be to have her as his wife, what a great mother you think she would be due to XY and Z. You know, how tender she is, and how that would translate into a gental mother. Carp on all the traits you find in her and show her how much attention you have been paying her. Show her how much she means to you in small but significant ways. Purchase her a gift, send her flowers, and of utmost importance let her set the pace how slowly or quickly things progess. Make sure she has many opportunities to see all you great qualities and traits as well. Show her how much you love children, animals. talk about things that mean a lot to you, get to know each other on a deeper level. This works towards two goals: the first is to court her, the second is to really see if you both will be compatable. Compatability IS vastly important regardless of how many think opposites attracting is exciting. Sure, it is exciting in the sense that there will bound to be lots of fights and make up periods, but a long term relationship which will endure needs compatability, two who share very simular beliefs and ideas, two who share a moral and ethical foundation.

Court this woman. Courting is thought of as old fashioned, but let me tell you that it is a far preferred method of showing a woman how much you value her, how far you are willing to go in pursuit of who you think is your destined mate. A woman wants to feel special, she wants romance in her life, any guy with the patience to truly court a woman will attain a fine relationship. However, don't forget that once you do have who you want, to continue to romance her and make her feel special and needed, that she is the most beautiful woman in the world to you as she is the one and only you love and whom loves you in return. There is not gift worth more to a woman than a man who is willing to truly court her, and then honor and respect her and establish an enviroment of trust and open communication.

If you court her, show her your feelings, how special she is, how much you admire her and respect her she will respond. She will not be able to help it. Of course, this is asssumming she is having the same sort of feelings for you that you have for her. If she does not now, you can be sure it could change if you court her properly. Take your time, but do let her know that your feelings have changed and you are going to court her. She should not be completely in the dark or you could actualy shoot yourself in the foot and watch as she walzes off with another man.

By courting her you show her your feelings have changed and that you are now persueing her in a romantic fashion. Be the one she turns to when she needs to talk, a shoulder to cry on, a support when she is troubled or distressed or just tired from a long and difficult day. When you know she has had a hard day, surprise her with a dinner, or just one rose bud. It she needs her quiet time, some small bit of peace bow out gracefully and allow her that time. This shows you are connected to her needs and that those needs matter to you.

There are many other small but very significant ways to court a woman. I reccomend you goggle "romance" "courting" and see what types of information pops up for you to read and see if they will work for you. It needs to be tailored to your own personality so you will feel comfortable and therefor confident in how you go forward. However, if you are unsure at times this can be very endearng for a woman. Just don't give up until you know for a fact she has no intention of moving in this direction with you. A good sign would be her moving in with amother man or an engagement. Remember, as long as she is single, only dating, not in a serious relationship or married she is available. Just remember that if this does not work out you will most likely not be able to maintain a friendship afterwards. However, look at it this way: Wouldn't it be better to hang it up completely, allow yourself to heal and then move on to a woman who will love you as deeply as you will love her? In order to heal, if this does not turn out as you hope, you will need space away from this woman not have your feelings trampled on every day while you watch her with other men. This way when you heal, you have your all to give to the next instead of taking all the baggage of an unfinished relationship .

Good luck and allow yourself to have fun while courting this woman. I think she is a lucky woman to have you so interested in her.

Answer 7

thats the best way, dont rush anything too early.