I think the clingyness is normal not sure why the whining. Perhaps she senses something is changing with mommy and I'm sure you are showing by now and she has been told of the new baby. She is probably seeking as much attention as she can get. Make sure you set aside a special play time or special activity for just the two of you so that she will still feel special.
Best wishes to you and your family!
2006-09-14 05:58:58
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answered by poetic princess 5
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She's probably getting the vibe that the new baby is coming and mommy and daddy will be paying more attention to this baby then me.. I would, if haven't tried to involve her with getting the babies room fixed up, maybe helping with washing the new sheets and helping make the babies bed. Maybe take your daughter to the store and let her pick out some new baby clothes or maybe a toy for her new brother or sister.. So maybe she'll get more excited then feeling that she is losing you and your husband. I also think that maybe , because you are due soon you might be sleeping more or you don't have the energy like before, which is perfectly understandable, that you are not spending as much time with her,so she is getting clingy. I hope this might help you a little.. good luck and Congrats !!
2006-09-14 06:05:01
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answered by Bec 3
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Its a phase. It seems like your 4 yo might be jealous that baby will take up a good bit of Mommy's time. When baby comes, have the 4yo help you with everything. Feeding, changing, etc. You will see this pass pretty quickly.
Also, try to spend some quiet time after baby comes with the 4yo. I know it's difficult, but it can be done. Even if no one is there to help you with baby, put baby down and let baby scream for a short bit while you show your 4yo that you still think she is special by giving lots of hugs and kisses. Read a quick book to her.
2006-09-14 06:00:31
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answered by Mommymonster 7
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Yes it is normal. She is feeling like she is about to be replaced. Its jealousy. What you need to do is spend ALOT of time with her learning what is growing inside you. Let her feel the baby, and look at the pictures. And then take her out for one on one time. It will help her ALOT when the baby is here to let her help you with the baby. Have her get the diapers and tell her "thank you so much for your help, you are a really big girl!"
My girls are 4 years apart and thats what helped me. My 4 yr old was mommys little helper, and she loved it and felt so grown up that the jealousy went away
2006-09-14 06:03:58
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answered by FuzzyDice 2
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I am four months pregnant and also have a four year old. It could be she is anticipating the new addition to the family and is afraid of losing her status as your "baby" and is now trying to act like a baby to get the same kind of attention and love.
You might want to suggest how you need her to be a big girl so she can help you when the baby is born and the baby will need a "mature" big sister to learn from.
Just a thought.
2006-09-14 06:01:34
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answered by tiger_lilly33186 3
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When I was preg. with my son my daughter done the same they are 4 years apart. she is afraid of losing her status as your baby and is now trying to act like a baby to get the same kind of attention and love. You WILL probably go through that until after the baby is born. ALL you can do is remind her that she is YOUR princess and always will be. Then when the baby comes along let her big the baby's BIG SISTER mine like that because she was hands on! Although there was STILL a little jealousy there. BEST WISHES! CONGRATS!
2006-09-14 06:32:52
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answered by Anonymous
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At first when I saw your question it looked like you were "pregnant with a 4 year old" [meaning you were carrying a 4 year old child in your tummy].
She just wants all of your attention. She knows when the baby comes, she won't be the baby anymore - so just try to explain to her that she will still get the same amount of love and attention, and she will also have a baby brother or sister!
2006-09-14 06:00:10
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answered by Anonymous
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Maybe try to take her focus and energy and put it into her new baby sibling. Maybe talk to her and get her excited about it. Maybe she could make a "welcome" card for her new sibling. Maybe you can teach her about the whole process and make her feel like she will play an essentially important role as the sibling because the new baby will need to be powdered and diapered and she can help with that. Just get her focus onto something fun and exciting. 4 years old is the perfect age for learning new stuff.
2006-09-14 06:02:01
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answered by Anonymous
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Constantly tell her that she's the best little girl in the world. Hug and kiss her a lot. Tell her because she was born first she'll always be your first love. She definitely needs attention and she's very nervous the little baby will take you away from all the attention you give her now.
2006-09-14 06:00:12
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answered by DrPepper 6
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First of your prolly having a boy. Most kids are like this when their mom is pregnant. I have 3boys and the oldest 2 where like that everytime i got pregnant. She will adjust when the new baby gets here but give her time and show her your still there for her.
2006-09-14 16:07:16
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answered by Anonymous
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