I'm not that close to my father, so I don't see a reason for my fiance to ask his permission. Does it really matter if he says yes or no anyway? We're old enough we don't need his "permission".
2006-09-14 05:51:00 · 23 answers · asked by krista_318 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Nah, I know your dad, and he'd say no. Just do it!! Mike's a good guy and you guys are so cute together!!
2006-09-14 08:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It definitely depends on the couple, and the relationship that the woman has with her father. I don't think there's anything wrong with telling your boyfriend that this is important to you. If you guys are thinking of marriage then you should be comfortable talking about it, and you should be able to tell him that you'd like for him to ask your father first. Don't feel embarrassed or ashamed because you think you're old-fashioned! EDIT: As a side note, I totally agree with Courtney and think it would be far more appropriate and reasonable to ask for parents blessings, rather than permission. Permission would imply that you are property to be traded, although if you don't feel that way then that is all that matters. To each their own.
2016-03-27 01:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When men ask their girlfriend's dad's permission to get engaged its a sign of respect. Its not like they are literally asking for permission. They are just doing it out of respect and tradition. I am from the south and its very common here for that to be done however we are usually very close with our families as well. Even now days a lot of people don't do it but typically when the couple is close with each others parents they do it out of respect. Its kind of like asking a question you already know the answer to. I would say that if you don't have very much contact with your father that it isn't necessary for him to ask.
Plus if you are already engaged, which I assume you are since you are already calling him your fiance, that its a moot point because he's already asked you. If he was going to do it he should have done it before he asked you yourself.
2006-09-14 06:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a respect thing but this day in age its not really required anymore. I am not close to my father and my husband didn't ask him if we could get married but he did however call all the parents for a dinner (so they could get to see each other) and proposed with everyone there! It's really up to you. Its tradition only because the fathers used to be there for their kids and they aren't as much anymore. More and more everyday you hear about children with no father or children that have a father that just doesn't care. It's your life and your wedding you make that decision from your heart!
2006-09-14 05:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is something that used to happen decades ago.
You are right, it really doesn't matter if the father says yes or no anyway... it's what the person really wants to do.
Unless of course, you are under eighteen years old, then you DO have to ask your parent's permission. But if you're an adult, no.
2006-09-14 05:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by MISS 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no rule saying that he has to. It is a nice jester where a father feels that he gave his blessing and ok who you are going to marry, but as you said you and your dad are not that close and you don't need his permission and most importantly it is your choice that and answer that matters.
2006-09-14 09:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by solgiver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "have to" in general, but may be in some cultures. For most, it's a nice, quaint tradition. I had no father, but my fiance asked my mom. It's not really for "permission", but rather a blessing, or stamp of approval. It was really nice to have had it done.
2006-09-14 08:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think that asking permission in medieval! We're not possessions of our fathers anymore! But, I think letting him know ahead of time is romantic. If you're a daddy's little girl, then it would be good to have your daddy know first!
2006-09-14 06:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by j_conway83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessary but it is a very nice gesture. My husband asked my mom for her permission. I was 25 and he was 33 when we got engaged. We went ring shopping a month after we started dating and over dinner out one night, I went to the bathroom and he asked her. My mom absolutely adored him from the minute she met him so she gave her blessing without hesitation...I don't know, I think it's a very gentlemanly thing to do. Have him ask your mom :)
2006-09-14 06:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is over 18, it is her permission thats important.
If she is under 18, its the Judge's permission..not for marriage...but for parole!!! In any case the father doesnt matter at all.
2006-09-14 05:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Not unless she's under 18!
Otherwise it is simply done out of respect, and is a nice gesture. No, legally it doesn't matter what the father says.
2006-09-14 05:55:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋