Three months ago my boyfriend an I decided to go our seperate ways. The relationship had no future and we both new that from day one. Neither of us expected it to last as long as it did nor did we expect to fall in love with each other. The problem is I can not get over him. I have dated other guys but I feel as though I am cheating on him. Would you stay away or go after the man you love.
2006-09-14 05:40:49 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we were together for a year and he does feel the same
2006-09-14 05:47:01 · update #1
Maybe you feel this way because he rejected you. Women are like that. Sometimes a guy can get a girl that doesn't really like him to like him more by breaking up with her first. It really works.
Since you someohow "know" it has no future, move on and look elsewhere. You can meet nice guys in church.
2006-09-14 05:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by The Notorious Doctor Zoom Zoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, usually I say go after your love!
But you said that you both saw no future in the relationship... Do you see there really could be one now? Would you just be putting yourself through more emotional hurt in the long run by going back to him? If this is the case, allow the hurt to come now, let yourself get over him, these things take time...
Think, and pray this out before making any change.. At this point you have to do whats right for you, and for your future... what if your reall love is right around the corner, and this is just a test to see if you are strong enough to put yourself back together on your own, and then have it all with the right guy....?
was the relationship that good?! do you really love him? could he really love you? are you good for each other?
Love is patient, and kind. Love is strong. Love is never jealous, careless, or selfish... Love will conquer through whatever comes...
Time heals all wounds. Are you ready to be back with him, or anyone for that matter?
If it feels like the right thing, but its at the wrong time... then its the wrong thing!
Do what is right for you! and for him! ;) good luck! these things are never easy...
2006-09-14 12:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am a guy so let's just flip this around for a second. I was in the exact same position with my last g/f and I gotta say that the pain was really hard. I just couldn't get over her and I was nervous to try and date other girls because 1. I didn't want to date just to get over her and 2. I didn't know if she would come back to me or not. But after awhile, it faded. Time healed my hurt and my wondering. It doesn't happen over night nor will it happen in a couple of weeks. It's going to take time but my guess is that time will heal your situation too. If there was no hope from the begining, then it is better off that you are not with him. He probably was not the one. Hopefully it doesn't get to you too much. Good luck with everything.
2006-09-14 12:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you need to think, there had to be reasons that the two of you broke up. It always is hard to get over someone that you were with for a long period of time or even a short period. Try this, get out a sheet of paper divide the paper into two columns on one side right good and on the other side right bad. I guess just go from there. Not that you should see which side has more items you just need to remember the good and the bad. Not the loss of having someone sitting next to you.
2006-09-14 12:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by cargrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to give yourself some time to mourn your previous relationship- even when you know something has no future, that doesnt stop you from loving someone or missing them- I think it also has to do with the fact that you are mourning for the loss of a sense of yourself as you were in that relationship- even though things have changed.
Give yourself time to get over it, and in the meantime maybe instead of dating other people, go and learn a new skill or hobby, watch plays and movies, and work on other aspects of yourself that you would like to develop.
That worked for me. You then develop a sense of yourself as an indidual, who has life beyond an old relationship.
2006-09-14 12:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with someone that you don't see yourself having a future with? If you both have decided and he isn't contacting you then you probably isn't thinking about you and has already gone on with his life. Go and live your life and discover yourself and what you are wanting out of life and what you want for a future. Like they say if it was meant to be it will come back, just takes time.
2006-09-14 12:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Know It All 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long you dated your boyfriend, but if it is truly over, then you need to give yourself some time to really get over him before you begin dating others. The fact that it feels like cheating says you are still in love with him.
2006-09-14 12:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you still have feelings for the guy, so you should do what you can to work things out with him and get back together. I hope it all works out for you. Good Luck.
2006-09-14 12:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you pursue a relationship that has no future. try getting involved in things you like to do or try dating other guys. you might find someone you could have a promising relationship with.
2006-09-14 12:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest if you love him. Try telling him you still have feelings for him, or you will always wonder what if? ya know? He will either accept you or reject you, and either way, your life will still go on. But if you are still having these feelings like i said TELL HIM. Be real to yourself and to him, you deserve that.
2006-09-14 12:46:15 · answer #10 · answered by misskaykai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋