Bullying at school?

Question

I am being bullied at school (Verbally) I will say now that i do not want to have to go tell anyone and I can't beat them up either. any other bright ideas?

in the U.K

Answer 1

F*ck em! F*ck the lotta them! People like that are the one's that some people remember forever while others forget in a heartbeat. Even as adults we sometimes think about stuff that has happened in the past, some blame themselves, some see the bulllies for what they are; complete and utter cowards who seek satisfaction in someone elses pain. What you gonna do hun??? Bet you can't sleep at night, bet you get a knot in your stomach everytime you think about school. Maybe sometimes you think what they are saying is true, it's not, you are right...This doesn't come down to bright ideas, because your probably bricking yourself thinking about telling a teacher because you think that they won't believe you. Start a diary, tonight if possible, write anythingand everything in it. Be honest about how your feeling, even if you think that it sounds silly, it isn't, it's evidence. Phone a helpline for young people or find a local youth service (sorry, if you were in the UK, i could give you numerous contacts) The helpline is so that you can be encouraged to speak about whats happening, to build up your shattered confidence.....not to make you do something that you don't want to.

I wish you nothing but the very best and all i will say is; There will be no better feeling in the world, 10 years from now, when you walk past one of those sad losers in the street and they look as miserable as you feel at the moment. I was given this poem when i was at my very lowest. I was 15 and i thought that it would never get better, it did, it just took courage (hug)

Risk; Living, Loving and Learning

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas and dreams before the crowd is to risk their love.
To love is to risk being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.
But the greatest hazard in all life is to risk nothing.
The one who risks nothing, does nothing and has nothing - and finally is nothing
He may avoid sufferings and sorrows,
But he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow or love.
Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited freedom.
Only one who risks is free!

Answer 2

As a teacher I hear about this more often than i would like to. You should:

* Always tell some one - i know that it is hard but getting bullying sorted out is hard and you need proof - so tell an adult - it can be an older brother or sis, but parents are best.
* Keep a diary of times and places - everything that goes on.
* Never be on your own - always stay with the crowds or friends so you have witnesses - bullies aren't so smart if you are in a crowd.
* Try not to react to what they say - if they see its affecting you they won't stop.
* Tell your guidance teacher if this is happening in school - you should not let them get away with it - a teacher maybe ableto do something about it without your name being mentioned.
* I hate to say this but I was bullied in school and it went on for months - I wish i had told my parents sooner because it was them that sorted it out - don't suffer in silence the bullies love that. The school must have a bullying poloicy and is legally bound to do something about it!

* If you take steps to not be around them hopefully they will forget about you and unfortunately move onto someone else.

Well, I don't know if this helps, hope everything goes well for you - above all keep your chin up and don't believe anything they say to you.

Answer 3

Although I don't know the situation you're in ,but I understand about being bullied.
I saw students made fun of ,pushed around,laughed at and was the popular targets for spit wads.
Victims of bullying always feel down,hate to go to school, or too scared to tell their parents.It's a terrible life.Kids that bully others want to feel big and impress their friends and have discovered the bullying gives them a sense of power . And it works ,but what the bully doesn't realize is that he is stuck with his reputation and will continue through life lacking social skills and tact .
You have a far better future than the bully.
Now consider how the bully thinks .He doesn't bother with ones that are confident .
What will he think if he sees that his bullying doesn't affect you ? He will no longer have the satisfaction of intimidation and victory in front of his friends .
After a while he will start looking for someone else to bully .
Now be encouraged that the road ahead will get more rewarding with every step .
Take care .

Answer 4

Most of the answers say "ignore them" - but that is easier said than done. The best way to resolve this, believe it or not, is to tell someone. There is an old saying "a problem shared is a problem halved". If you are a child and can't speak to a teacher, call Child Line - right now. The are the specialists in bullying. 0800 11 11.

Answer 5

Hey man, I read some of these replies and it is obvious that many of these people have never been bullied. Yah, sas back to them....I remember getting my butt kicked when I did that. I also remember what happened when I told a teacher. It actually worked! I took the bullying for a long time, then couldn't take it anymore. I walked into my principal's office and asked to talk, told him how scared I was about retaliation and he assured me everything would be fine. He brought these dudes in to talk to me face to face....I almost crapped my pants. But, I think it made them realize that I was just human and that they were really affecting my life. Trust me, in this generation of Columbine, no teachers are going to take this lying down. This will act on bullies.

Answer 6

I'm sorry but you have to tell the school and your parents its the only way that it can be stopped and I'm sorry it won't happen over night ..... if you find it hard to talk to a teacher put it in writing and if you could include the date ,time and the names of the people it will all help.......my son was bullied at school but his was physical... good luck and remember they are the ones with the problems not you .....you are better than them.....or you could call child line

Answer 7

First, why aren't you in school? Second, you a) should tell someone or, b) say something so provocitave and insulting back to the person who is bullying you that they hit you first, then you can have them expelled, bring criminal assault charges against them and sue them in civil court for your pain and suffering. I doubt they will bother you again. Most schools have a no bullying policy. It's people like you that make these policies fail. The school is doing all that it can to protect you, which they are requred by law. If you choose not to tell, you are choosing not to let the school protect you and you are on your own.

Answer 8

First of all, I am REALLY sorry that you are having to go through this. I am a sixth grade teacher and I get very tough on bullies. The psychology of bullies is that they are usually people with low self-esteem and themselves are being bullied at home. They feel power when they can control someone, so, you have to not allow yourself to be controlled by him/her. Every time you show you are upset, hurt, or diminished by them they win. Ignoring helps but , honestly, is very difficult to constantly achieve. In the book Simon's Hook, children are given bullying scenarios and how to deal with them. I have read this book to my students and used it for discussion.

If you can laugh along with the bully, agree with them, this disables them. For example, if the bully says, "Hey you idiot, you sure are stupid." You laugh along with them and make some dorky, stupid face. You agree, "Yeah, I am so stupid that...." This disarms them because they only want to get some kind of reaction from you.

You may eventually need to get some courage and confront the bully or tell someone in authority at your school if the bullying persists or if the bully begins to escalate the abuse. Remember, you weren't put on this earth to be someone's physical or verbal punching bag.

Good Luck, I'll be praying for you. :-)

Answer 9

Join some self defense classes. The fact you are doing this changes your outlook and attitude, it also changes the way you feel about yourself.
Bullies home in on low self confidence, because they have no real confidence themselves and need a gang and someone they percieve to be weaker.
With the self defense classes your whole posture changes, you will look as you are no push-over, you won't have to say a word to them. They will know that they should'nt tangle with you because of animal instinct.
Because they are the worst scum under the sun, and complete cowards, they will leave you alone.

Answer 10

Write an anonymous note to the teacher or principal stating you are a student who witnessed another student being bullied and put the name of the bully in the note.