He is the best ever to me but i still have feelings for another guy who wants to be only friends. I talk to both of them on the phone all the time and they both understand me!! Should i just give up hope on still being with the guy still like or should i just move on to my best budd. Im scared we'll ruin our wounderful friendship though...what should i do?
2006-09-14 05:37:17 · 19 answers · asked by always happy3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once you go past friendship, there won't be turning back, so you are right about that. If you have feelings for this other guy, then you're not ready to make the leap past friendship with your best friend anyway. On the other hand, your best friend might be your soulmate. Imagine if it were a case of you wanted to spend the rest of your life with, then pick one.
And remember to wait until you're married before you go all the way.
2006-09-14 05:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by The Notorious Doctor Zoom Zoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont put your friendship in line and make any hasty decisions. In teh end you might lose a great friendship. If you dont have feelings for your best friends and you do indeed end up going out with dont you think your starting out itself on the wrong foot, besides you have feelings for another guy. You might have an ok relationship for a little while but reality always kicks in. Never get into a relationship if feelings are not present and strong. Or else in the end the result will yield nothing but hurt and pain.
Besides dont risk your good friendship best friend. Sometimes its hard to find a best friend you know.
2006-09-14 12:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by Azad R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ruin a good thing. If you really don't want to be with your best bud in a sexual sense or in a relationship then leave it strictly friends. Make sure that you keep your eyes open though there may be something there that you have never noticed that could blossom into something awesome! Follow your heart but use your head as guide!
2006-09-14 12:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by Misty K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not try to "push" yourself on your guy friend that has already told you he wants to be just friends. You are going to make it where he has to end the friendship all together. As far as the budd that wants to be with you, do you want to be with him too? You can't be with him just to be with someone. It sounds to me like you would be settling for second best because you cannot have what you desire. You should never settle for second best! I say stay friends with both of them, forget dating either of them, and in time you will meet someone that you want to be with as much as they want to be with you. If the right guy does come along and you are with someone who isn't really the right one, then what? You are going to really hurt someones feelings.
2006-09-14 12:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, lust and friendship.
Sounds like you could love and be friends with either. Lust is generally temporary, so it is least important.
Regret is the big problem here. You need to make sure you don't end up with regret.
You are going to have to open the can of worms yourself. Go tell Mr. Lust that you need to talk. Lay it out and let him know.
It would be unfair to the other guy to do anything else.
2006-09-14 12:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by campojoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well fist of all do you think there is anyway that the guy you like will like you in the near future? if you really doubt it then my advice is go out with the guy who likes u or other wise he might do stupid things that will make your life hell then again you may never end up liking him so then you have to wait if it doesn't come then just have to break up with the guy and try the one u like now.
2006-09-14 12:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by Snoop Dogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait a while until your feeling for the guy you like are gone and than go with your best friend.
2006-09-14 12:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it WILL ruinn your friendship, if he is the best friend i would not start anything with him...there is a small percentage that yall will stay together and get married but if you are older and believe u could be with him OR if u dont care if u loose him as a friend... try it out
2006-09-14 12:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by â?¥CURiOUSâ?¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definetly go out w/him. Even if it doesn't work out, if your freiendship is as great as it sounds, then it shouldn't be ruined. You don't want him to find someone else and then regret never giving him a chance. You'll always wonder "what if".
2006-09-14 12:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by threesoares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for you buddy, if you are truly friends your friendship won't get ruined..Maybe that's where you'll be the most happy..
2006-09-14 12:39:12 · answer #10 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋