This girl is the world to me, what should I do??
What would you think, please answer truthfully? What should I do?
Ok.. this is what a girl that i like replied to my email, askin how she felt about me,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
ok, now shes 13 I'm 15. We've been friends since like I wuz 7. Now it is totally obvious, because she makes herself perfectly clear, that she wants nothing more than to be friends. I am respeceting that, and giving her space, we havent talked about it 4 3 weeks. My question is, does she like me at all, or is she scared, cuz she says she doesnt want to ruin a friendship??
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But, like a few months ago, it was completely obvious she liked me, I mean people thought we were dating, then she found out I liked her, and she reall backed off. And she told her mom, who she is really close to , that she is really scared, because she doesnt want to take the chance of ruining the friendship. But what should I do/ think:? Because, now she is like totally all over these other guys, like she used to be with me, and it rips my heart out. And please dont tell me I'm to young, I have like many girls, but none like her. I've been trying to let this go forever, but it is really really hard, because I really care for her, I would do anything in this world, anything to be with her, but I want her to be happy , and if shes not happy with me, thats fine. But what should i do?
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I mean she's never beenin a relationship, so she could be scared, will anything ever happen in the future, I mean I am respecting her wishes, and she knows that, We havent talked about it for a long time, could anything possibly happen in the future??
2006-09-14 05:34:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You like her. She's scared of having a relationship in the first place. It looks like you took her out of her box, and anyone would be uncomfortable there. She doesn't want change because she's already experiencing so much of it. My suggestion:
Ask her, "When you decide you want to get romantic with someone, I'd like to be first in line. You are like no one I have ever met, and I don't want to lose you as a friend, but I can't help having these great feelings for you. So, when you're ready to take our friendship to another level, I will be waiting for you. I don't care if it's 2 days, or 2 years. I want to be more than friends."
Your first date should be in public... a theme park maybe. But if she's 13, I doubt her parents would let her go with a boy by herself. Think of something creative. She's not thinking romantically because her brain is still in child mode. You really should wait a few years. Let her go through puberty first, and you too.
Maybe she isn't allowed to start dating yet. Maybe she doesn't want anything to interfere with her studies. Maybe she likes a different guy. I remember a guy, David who asked me out all the time, and I always told him no because I liked other guys. Those guys were all jerks, and looking back, David would have been a good choice. I keep wanting to look him up and tell him I'm sorry, but It's like 20 years later. So, you sound like a clean gentilman, and not a jerk. She should be honored to hold your hand. But really, she needs to be a little older. I didn't even have my first kiss till I was 14.5. I don't think I was ready for that then either. Hold on bud, and keep your chin up. Be her friend, and hang out. Be honest with her, and never treat her poorly. Be persistant, and you should get what you want eventually. There's some waiting you need to do though. Just an age thing, but undying love is forever, and you sound like you have it. What's 2 years compared to 9 decades? Hold the vision in your mind of what you want... BE PATIENT... and things will look better for you in the long run. Romeo and Juliet were like 14. Mary and Joseph were young too. I'm not doubting your feelings at all. Whatever you do, though, DON"T BE A STALKER! If you're ever looking at her or admiring her, tell her. Say hi, and be honest... 99% honest. (there's some things that a girl doesn't need to know.)
Love and Happiness to you!
2006-09-14 05:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you need to quit with this question already. I have seen this on here for at least a week. You need to learn something about women. They can't stand needy men. And that is exactly how you are coming off. You want her approval, and you have voiced it. This is not attractive to females. They are looking for a confident man, not a wussy. Her response to you is simply to save your feelings. She will not see you as more than a friend if you continue with this wussy behavior, always wanting her approval. The best thing to do is play aloof. Put her out of your mind. Talk to other girls, focus on other things like school and hobbies. She may actually think of you differently if she doesn't think she is on such a pedestal in your eyes. If she doesn't come around then she isn't worth it. This is just one stage of your life. I am not going to say you are young, just that you have many more steps to come in your life. There is no need to worry this much about one girl at this stage of your life. After high school, there is college, and then the "real world". You will be a completely different person at that point and you will look back at this and see that it wasn't worth all the trouble. So, let it go, and seriously, STOP with this question already.
2006-09-14 13:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should let her go, she sounds like trouble anyway in addition to being a confused little girl. What do you expect from a 13 year old anyway? Just give it some time, if she comes around, she comes around. If she doesn't, don't sweat it. I have been in your shoes before, well sort of. You're in this place where you care so much about a person that everyone just doesn't compare. Then you get older and you find out that there are actually in fact better people than the one you were obsessed with! Don't worry, you're still young. You have a whole lifetime to meet some great women out there.
2006-09-14 12:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by Emi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to give her some space (by that, I dont know how long). Maybe, when she finally makes up her mind, she will know what to do, other than that, she's not prepared right now, and have not matured yet. In the meantime, go out and meet some new faces, who knows you might find someone who's ready for you and that you will love even more? Don't stick to just her, you don't know, until you've really gone out there. Good luck!
P/s: Giving her the time will make her realise also how her feelings are for you. So for the meantime, stop the emails and any kind of communication. Be patient ;)
2006-09-14 12:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is 13..she has no idea what she wants. And at 15, you should be enjoying life and being a kid instead of wanting a "relationship". It shouldn't be anymore than friendship. And as bad as you don't want to hear it...you are BOTH way too young to be so serious over this. Right now, just wanting a friend, she actually sounds more grown up than you do. Come on.....you are kids.....not adults. Why are so much in a hurry to play grownup games?
2006-09-14 12:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have been childhood friends for 8 years, and are growing up and experiencing puberty simultaneously. As you should know, females are 2 years more mature than men, at any age. I have been where she is, and still have that friend I have been growing up with since 1974. If we dated or developed a relationship, and it soured, I might not have been able to still call him a friend. Be there for your friend, watch her back. You will see things going on around her relationship world that she may not. Don't attempt to destroy any relationships she may get involved in, but be sure to let her know if you know that someone is doing her wrong.
2006-09-14 12:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by twoshotjudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you are too young, to be so deeply involved with some one in your life. Please you have the rest of your life to live. and mooning about a 13 year old girl should not be one of them. Talk to a school councillor. I am sure they will tell you that you need to concentrate on getting good grades and planning what you are going to fore the next 4-5 years so that you can find the perfect mate and will be in a position to take on more responsibilities
2006-09-14 12:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off I know u have deep feelings for her but u have to realize that she's only 13 and ur only 15...at 13 she is not really ready for a serious relationship...and if u really care for her u should wait until she's more mature and more emotionally ready to commit to u..and that may not b until she's like 16 or older...
Until then just b her friend and let her know u are there for her, and that u are willin to wait as long as it takes, or as long as u can stand it before u decide to move on...and also let her know she doesn't have to b "all over" some other guys to prove a point too u...good luck
2006-09-14 12:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by Darsh(Say it like u mean it) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a little time. You are both so young. Maybe you could have like some sort of a "trial date" to see how things might be. A lot of people that I know that are together were the best of friends while they were growing up. Maybe something will blossom between you two.
The best of luck to you.
Hope I helped.
2006-09-14 12:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by a_n_cassell 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
listen you need to just relax....if you really care about her you need to act as if all you want is to be her friend...
like you said things were really good when she thought you were just friends with her
..and as soon as she found out it became a problem...
she might like you as more than a friend but is scared to show it....
but if you keep pushing the fact that you want to be with her on more than just a friendship level u may loose her as a friend too..
to sum it up act as if you just want to be her friend like old times (you are young and you havent let things grow yet you may find out that she is not what you want at all but..if you really care for her)... stay as close friends with her as you can for the next few years and see what happens you might be suprised..she may come to you wanting more than just friendship or you will realize that she is better as a friend and someone else may come along...just give it time ....i am 19 and the best advise i can give you is "give it time"!!!!!
2006-09-14 12:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by nameless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋