She met me knowing that I am well off in this world and I cannot hide that about myself as a result. How can I tell if she likes me or the lifestyle I have?
2006-09-14 05:30:17 · 8 answers · asked by Tulsa Boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Had the same situation with my current boyfriend and this is how I approached it. First, you must be observant. Is this lady just as content at home on the sofa watching tv and in pajamas or does she always expect to be out living an extravagant lifestyle? Is she appreciative of the things you do for her or gifts you give her or does she expect you to shower her with material things to make her happy? Time will answer these questions for you. Second, you could be honest about your feelings, as I was, and tell her up front that you would expect for her to sign a prenuptial agreement or cohabitation agreement if the relationship progressed to that point. Assure her that it is not a trust issue, but a way for you to protect all that you have worked for in life and that you would have the same expectation from anyone you had a relationship with. Trust me when I tell you that you can answer a lot of questions for yourself and clear up a significant amount of doubt based upon her reaction. My boyfriend responded with, "I want to so you know that I am in this relationship for you and nothing else." If she is defensive, then maybe you have your answer. Finally, ask your closest friends and/or family member for their judgement. Those who care about us the most will be observant of activity we may not notice because our judgement is clouded by our emotions. If they see something that throws up a red flag, listen to what they say and take that into consideration. You may be upset, frustrated, or even disappointed by what friends and family may say, but often they are the ones who are truthful, even if it isn't what we want to hear!
More than anything, you should know that if your feelings are genuine, then you must at some point take a leap of faith! Whatever will be, will be, and you deserve someone who would live in a tent with you and be happy if you lost everything you had tomorrow!! Best wishes!!
2006-09-14 05:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by ncmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to do something from the heart and see how she responds. Like for valentine's day (or a date, etc), if you went to a 4/5-star restaurant with all the trimmings and gave her an expensive gift and then the next year (next time) made a card for her instead, made coupons of things she likes you to do for her like massages, etc and cooked dinner at home would she be disappointed you didn't go out to eat or buy her a gift?
Gifts from the heart have no price tag and often cost little to nothing but to someone that loves you and not your lifestyle, it would mean more than all the diamonds, vacations, and extravagances. But it's not one thing that will help you figure it out, it's a combination of many things that will tell you. Good luck.
2006-09-14 05:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answer that by knowing her. Is she dependent on keeping up a lifestyle? Or does money not matter to her? Does she expect things from you? Or provide for herself? And if she is the kind of girl who can only date people of a certain wealth, then it definitely plays a part in why she is with you. It might not be the whole part, but it is at least some of it. Then you have to ask yourself if that's okay with you.
2006-09-14 05:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she likes u for who u r, she won't ask for any fancy things from u all the time, do some tests on her, dont go out on dates and spend loads, go for a simple picnic etc and see how she reacts. or even give cheap presents, but thoughful ones, u know what i'm trying to say u can easily tell one way another, oh another great way to know is the way she'll describe u to her mates, try and see what she says about u, if she only talks about how rich u r, then u got ur answer if not ur in luck :-) hope this helps
2006-09-14 05:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by DaRkAnGeL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test her, that is the only way... anyone can lie, saying that they love you. I know this sounds cruel, but tell her one day that you've had a crisis and lost almost everything... for about a week keep her thinking this to be true. See her reaction, is she ready to split, or does she stick by you. If she truly loves you she will be concerned about you and try to help, and not be jealous and act crazy because everything is gone. I personally have had this same problem, yet when I tested the guy he split because he didnt really love me, and when he found out it wasnt true he came running back... this is cruel, but my best advice, and the only way to the truth. Good luck
2006-09-14 05:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by s..... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see now in this case no one can give u perfect solutions
these things r those which only u can think of and solve out as u know ur gf and we don't
i suggest u don't go to pls where monkey is required and just call her at ur house or go to her house
say u r having hard time due to some great loss
dee her reaction and decide for urself
GOOD LUCK !!
2006-09-14 05:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by max s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut her off the money train, do things that dont require money, tell her you are a little short now, investments arent going great and that you dont really actually own anything, everything you have is just on payments that is how you live large.
2006-09-14 05:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she materialistic, and expecting you to shower her with gifts, dinners, and prizes, or is she enjoying your company, making dinners for you, and sharing your companionship with friends and family, without expecting anything in return.
2006-09-14 05:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by twoshotjudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋