I'm 22 years old and when I go to see my sister and her boyfriend they are like we have a guy we want you to meet. I tell them all the time that I can fine my own boyfriend and that I dont have time and I dont want to date any of their friends. Anyways.... Last weekend I went to stay the weekend with them because I had a free weekend and I drove to their house that is about a hour from mine. When I got there she had three of their guy friends there. I have never meet them and she keep saying to me what one do you like or would you date one. I got so mad at her. Anyways on Saturday we just rented some movies and played games and one of the movies had killing in it. Her boyfriend said see if you have a boyfriend you could hid your face in them. I dont know if I took that the wrong way because I got mad and told my sister that I had to go home. It was about ten at night and I drove the hour home. Now I called my sister today to talk with her and she told me never to talk to her agian.
2006-09-14 05:21:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
maybe because they think it would be best for you ?
2006-09-14 05:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by G. C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is now a couple and she is happy being a couple you on the other hand do not think that u need to be with someone to be happy, which is great. Call your sister and explain that you are happy with your life right now and don't want someone in it to take your time away from the things you find extremely important right now. Tell her that once your life isn't so crazy and full of things to do like school and such that you will let her know and maybe then she can hook you up with one of her friends but for her not to get mad at you when you don't choose someone she has chose for you. Family is very hard to convince sometimes because they think they know what is best for us to do but your right... you know what is best for you right now and you need to explain that to her... that your not ready right NOW but maybe in the future.
Hope that helps and good luck.
2006-09-14 12:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was single I hated people like that. I always got when are you going ot get married. Why are you so picky? Oh man I hated that. Tell them when you are ready I'll make the decision. It's my life and I will do it my way. Tell you sister you don't need anyone to find you a man and that when the time is right you will be ready. Your sister is being rude and ignorant. I would put her in her place asap!! Tell her how you really feel about this situation. Good Luck!
2006-09-14 12:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, don't worry about your sister not talking to you again. You were right to react the way you did and you shouldn't get upset over what she said....she will talk to you again once this blows over.
As for why they are so persistent, I can only think of a couple of reasons. 1)The love you and think that they can take this opportunity to bring joy to your life. 2)Some people are just so damn bored with their own relationship, that they have to live vicariously through other people. You starting a new relationship may bring some feelings back for them when they starter their relationship. Hope that helps. Have a fantastic day.
2006-09-14 12:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your sister isn't trying to humiliate you. Maybe she feels that if she hooks you up with someone that you will spend more time with her or won't be the third wheel anymore. You guys could go on double dates. Maybe she feels that you aren't happy and she wants to see you happy. She's not trying to insult or embarrass you. She's your sister, she cares. Unless you threw a temper tantrum, I don't see why your sister wouldn't talk to you again. And if you did, give her a little bit of time or keep trying. She loves you.
2006-09-14 12:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your sis cool down...she'll get over it.
As for them setting you up you should sit your sis down and tell her in no uncertain terms that although she is trying to find you a boyfriend so that you are happy, that you don't need a bf to be happy. You need to make it clear that you are enjoying your life right now without the stress that comes with having a boyfriend and that when you are ready to date YOU will find someone for yourself. Tell her that you do not want her help finding a man but that if someday you change your mind you'll let her know. If she can't respect your wishes then you need to stop visiting...and let her know that.
good Luck
2006-09-14 12:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Moosha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEND her a beautiful plant or a lovely mum. TEll her she is the best sister ever. THANK her 4 all her help, THAt you have issues and your not ready 4 a bf right now. AND let nature + G0d do the rest. Good luck
2006-09-14 12:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honeslty think they want you be as happy as they are. Have you tried to seriously talking to them and tell them that you don't want to date anyone right now? I would write her a letter and tell her how she has made you feel. Maybe this way she can take you seriously and will stop playing cupid.
2006-09-14 12:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by awhisper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At certain degree I think, your sister just try to be attentive. If it becomes too much, there could be hidden motives. Or probably she is inconsiderate type of a person.
2006-09-14 12:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your sister is trying to do the best for you. But the problem is that she (and her boy friend also) does not understand that you don't need what she is trying to give.
So discuss this directly with her and before it ruins your nice relationship.
2006-09-14 12:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by amiladm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister and her boyfriend are being unreasonable and interfering in your life. They have no right to do that. In response to your sister's silly stance, I would suggest you take her at her word and don't contact her again until she contacts you. At that point firmly tell her that you don't appreciate her interfering in your private life. Tell you are in charge of your own life and if you need help you will ask for it.
2006-09-14 12:25:50 · answer #11 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋