How much, and what types of influence should parents have over their kids? There are obviously bad parents out there who hurt their children. We make laws against that. So, maybe we just allow parents to influence children the ways that society agrees upon, and parents aren't really in control. SHOULD parents be in control, or are children just new people and don't belong to the parents at all?
2006-09-14 05:11:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't think my children belong to me, but I am in charge of their life until they reach a certian age.
I will influence everything about their lives, education, religion, entertainment, habits, clothing and everything else. I would not trust our society to handle raising my dog much less my children.
Our society at this time says murder is choice, sin is lifestyle, homosexuals are born that way and can't change, pedophiles choose to do it and can change. Society has no moral base at all and soon, I hope very soon the Church will be removed by Jesus return and society will go down hill from there.
I love my children and do what is best for their long term wellbeing. I do not give them everything they won't and they have to work around the house because it's partially their house not for payment.
They have savings accounts for a car and college, they will not be in control of those either, my wife and I put in the money and we will show them how to control it. They do make decisions as part of the learning process and they are allowed to make mistakes.
I just intervined in my childs life, at school she was in the 99th percentile and was flying through all of her work, she is a third grader (at 7 years of age) and reads on a 8th grade level. I forced the school to allow her to read and test with harder books. She was being held back 5 years below her reading level and was losing enterest in reading because of SOCIETY.
It does not take a village to raise a child it takes good Christian parents that care.
2006-09-14 05:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents belong to their children. Parents are here for guides for our children not to make them into little Me's. That is the problem with the world today! (I just like to say that actually) Parents don't understand that they need to let their children make their own choices in life. Parents are also here to keep them safe, so the choice making needs to be within limits, but they are their own people once they reach adulthood. When each person has a child it is like giving a good portion of your life away. If a person cannot handle that then there are other families out there that want to adopt.
2006-09-14 05:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parent should definitely be in control. Not only parents but it takes a village to raise a child. Thats the problem we face today, children are not children anymore,the parents act like the children.
2006-09-14 05:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by pretty_brown68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The laws let many children suffer at the hands of their parents anyway, My children belong to me but If I were abusing and hurting them I would want them taken away from me. I try to teach my children about respecting others and having manners and good morals so that one day they will be proud adults that won't go down the wrong path in life. I teach them how to love and to be loved many parents are evil.
2006-09-14 05:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, while my children were growing up, I did have a certain amount of control, but I also allowed my children to be the individuals that they are. I encouraged them to express their opinion and to learn to think and make good decisions and choices on their own. I provided guidance then and still do (they are all grown now). Their father and I instilled morals and values in them that we grew up with and they still carry those with them and are raising their own children with many of the same values and morals. Yes, my children belong to me. I brought all of them into this world and they are mine. But they are each unique individuals and I love them more and more each day.
2006-09-14 05:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by pampam50 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theoretically no. My children are God's property and they are just on loan to me for as long as I have to teach them and love them and guide them. I agree that parental rights are being whittled down to just about nothing. But until my right to raise them as I see fit is completely gone I will discipline them when they need it and love them as much as I can because they are only children for a short time. One must make the most of the time we are given to teach them so that when they grow up they will be people we can be proud to say we helped to form.
2006-09-14 05:28:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents should have complete control WHICH would decrease as the child ages. As long as the parent supports them some control is only logical.
The ONLY time parent control should be taken away is in the case of physical/mental/emotional abuse. (Have fun defining those parameters)
2006-09-14 05:18:51 · answer #7 · answered by williamzo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a black/white issue. If a parent decides that they don't believe in medicine and want to pray over their kid, I suppose that we should allow them to do that. As long as they are trying to help the child. If they are just beating the hell out of the child, society shoudl step in.
2006-09-14 05:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First a acceptable do you've faith in God? in case you do then you actually understand that all we've is a blessing from God, inclusive of our children. they are given to us with our regular duty being to coach them up contained in the terror and admonition of the Lord. it really is the dedication of children to the Lord. We commit them to the Lord in recognizing that He has given them to us to advance up wisely. it fairly is likewise why your pastor probable stated something to the outcome of that the dedication is unquestionably between the mothers and fathers more effective than the youngsters in that the mothers and fathers are making a public proclamation that they are going to be committed to elevating the youngster up contained in the approaches of the Lord. you probably did not have an immaculate theory you're maximum suitable. yet without God to keep up your breath you may have under no circumstances been in a position to conceive, without God you do not have existence in any respect. with the point to assert that you conceived your children on your own is like saying you created your self. in basic terms not a real reality. they are on loan to you. we stay to inform the tale this earth for an overall of about seventy 5-80 yrs, yet we are all Gods children and are his for eternity so from that attitude you would possibly want to be in a position to be sure that they are fairly His.
2016-11-26 23:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by rigoberto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are in charge until age 18 and even beyond if they are in the house..Without that the kids will run wild...many kids arent learning much these days Its sad
2006-09-14 05:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋