.....How many people I have had sex with? As far as I know he has only slept with like 1-2 people. I on the other hand have had sex with like 12-13. But you have to understand... I lost my virginity at 15 (a young 15) and I am now 21. I won't lie to him if he asks but I am kind of embarassed. most of them were like one night stands too. I am done with those days but how would you react / handle the situation?
2006-09-14 04:39:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All clean I am !!!SURE!!! of that... And I am not going to offer up the information on my own, I don't feel like i need to tell him or anything but this is just if he asks.
2006-09-14 04:47:18 · update #1
I am not sure that in this case honesty would be the best policy. Say nothing, and if he asks how many, reply that you don't want to discuss your past and all you will say is that you wish now you had waited for him. That may be a polite fiction for you, but I think in this case the important thing is to protect him from hurt feelings and to build up his confidence in you. Don't allow him to draw you into comparing him with other men, remind him that "Comparisons are odious" and just assure him that he's the best you've ever been with, and promise him that you've never cheated on him and that you never will. Don't on any account tell him the number unless you are willing to risk your relationship on what seems to be something that is not really any of his business anyway as he didn't know you then.
2006-09-14 04:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't volunteer the information unless he presses you to tell. Then tell him the truth that you started young and have had only _ _ _ _ lovers in the past year. The way I see it, you only had two lovers per year on average.
The total number is just that, a number.
Every relationship starts out with each partner having different levels of sexual experience (unless both are virgins).
It's what you have learned from those experiences that makes it better for you to understand what makes you feel good or uncomfortable with your partner.
Practice safe sex with protection and enjoy your present partner.
2006-09-14 04:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kamikazeâ?ºKid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if he truly loves you that it shouldn't matter how many people you've been with in the past. The past is the past. You can't go back and change it. I wouldn't suggest that you lie. I did and it back fired on me, but I had to realize that you have to look ahead. Looking back on certain situations are not always good for relationships. Also, you have nothing to be embarassed about, rgardless to wheather the were long tern relationships or one night stands. Other people are always gonna judge you regardless. Tell him, if he doesn't like your answer, then you know that his love/like can't be that strong.
2006-09-14 04:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mizz Peni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looking 1/2 a operating laptop or computer virus on your...whoa...you probably did understand it really is no longer an apple, precise? You uh...you're eating a baboon's @$$cheek. Yeah, you more beneficial positive enable that pass, he doesn't seem satisfied...
2016-10-16 00:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on the person. if he really loves you then, he wouldn't mind anymore because it already happened in the past and not during your relationship with him.
that was a thing of the past already and what matters now is the present.
guys nowadays are open minded and understanding.
so keep your spirits high that he could accept you and your past.
2006-09-14 05:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by smiling face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lie that's way to may people for some one ur age u don't want him to think ur a hoe so tell him 5 or 6
2006-09-14 04:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by lost in love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I really wouldn't worry about it - if it is an issue for him he lacks maturity. We all have pasts, some of them are just a little more colourful than others, but they make us who we are today.
2006-09-14 04:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by stepfordswiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try n explain it 2 him n pray he understands cuz sexually betrayal whether in d past or future or present is painful.
2006-09-14 04:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by Mystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's bad if he finds out from anyone but you.
Having said that... I wouldn't volunteer unless he asks. My guess is that if he loves you a lot... he probably won't. If you does, just tell him honestly.
2006-09-14 04:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by Sam I AM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he cares and loves you he won't care to know how many and you know what thats nothing i would talk to anybody about anyhow. if it all borders on this your love then tell him a small amount see what i mean sounds like it all borders on how much he will love you wrong
2006-09-14 04:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋