I am no longer with my boyfriend of 1 year. We have a baby on the way next month. However, I had a feeling some things were going on behind my back. So we broke up. As it turns out, my gut feeling was true. My man had lied to another woman saying that this baby isn't his, and about me, PERIOD. Like I never existed! I spoke to this woman, and we're both shocked that certain time frames were taken up by the "other one". Now, here's the thing.....we aren't together anymore, BUT, he is talking to some other ladies, and I am feeling the need to catch him in his lies. Not for me, for these other women who may be as stupid as I was for believing his lies. And I want to let him know that I'm not going to play the fool!
2006-09-14 04:36:23 · 22 answers · asked by Littlemissy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do not want him back! Let's get that out in the open right now! Should I waste my time trying to catch him lying, or should I just let him lie, and carry on with my life?
2006-09-14 04:37:17 · update #1
If I were you I would go to a place that he was at with one of his girls. Walk up to both of them and scream at the top of your lungs.... This is what you do while I am in the hospital having your baby (or something along those lines ... like this is what you do when our kid needs pampers) Embarrass the **** out of him cause basically he did the same to you... after you scream at him walk away, then you know you got one up on him. HAHA
Thats just what I would do. You get even and you probably saved at least one girl form making the same mistake. Thats really all you can do. Then sit back and gloat. Good luck... let us know what you do.
2006-09-14 04:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have already been played for a fool.every body plays the fool sometimes.that's a song title.I wonder why you got pregnant so soon into the relationship.waiting a little while would have shown you this man's true character, now you filled with thoughts of payback and revenge. now you have a child depending on you to make better decisions than you have .Let all that drama go now. Leave the past behind and work on your future and try to be more selective in the choices you allow to come into your life. A mothers advice, not your mother but a mother just the same.We've all been there before.
2006-09-14 04:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go!!! You have more pressing concerns with your child... You can't watch out for the rest of the world so don't waist your very valuable energy trying to do so. Just make sure you get the support that your child deserves from this guy and by all means don't use your child as a weapon against him. He may end up getting his act together and becoming a real good father. Kids have a way of changing men so let that part happen for your child sake.
2006-09-14 04:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by BECB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catching him is going to do nothing but let him know that you do still care. If you didnt you wouldnt want anything to do with him. And about you playing to fool, how are you? If you truly have nothing to do with him, and no feelings for him, the best way to avoid playing the fool is not to get involved. Any woman who is with him, the owness is on her to keep tabs on him, not you, so your not doing a public service by busting him. Your just confiming what he already knows, that you still have feeling for him and want him back.
2006-09-14 04:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by megamom1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on with your life, He's not worth the energy it takes. And you have a baby to think about now. This is called being mature, and responsible. You will be happier in the long run if you just think about yourself and that new baby. Life really is too short to waste on losers.
2006-09-14 04:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on with your life. Don't make his cheating on other women your problem anymore because it's not as you're not with him. Concentrate on being a good mother to your child. You did the right thing by getting rid of him. Live your life now.
2006-09-14 04:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by yes darling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get custody, (which he probably won't want if he is living the single life) and get child support.
Then move far away and pretend he doesn't exist. Don't bad mouth him too much to the baby, cause that just comes back to bite you in the azz.
2006-09-14 05:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it and him go.. its like cancer, it will eat you alive.. i called this lady 2 let her know her son could be in danger of a pervert.. he had been in prison on boy child rape.. and that this guy is after her son.. she wouldn't believe me.. she threw a birthday party 4 the guy and co-sign on a car 4 this guy.. no it wasn't her boyfriend, just a friend she hadly knew.. he ended up raping her neice.. he went back 2 prison on a burglar charge and did get 10 years.. don't know if the rape was ever filed.. her and her husband was stuck with the car.. so there ya go, some people will not believe you and will continue 2 see your ex..
2006-09-14 04:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is thank God, it is not your problem, you just take care of yourself, and the baby, that is what is important at this point in your life, and you stay out of his life, it is no concern to you, if some one wants to say something about him, you just say it is not your concern. And move on to a better future.
2006-09-14 04:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's over like you say it is over, then LET IT BE OVER. Don't allow him to consume your life the way he already has. If other women choose to believe him then it is their life to choose freely. It would be different if THEY came to you, and at that time gave them the history you have with him. Aside from that it really isn't your place to say anything to the other women.
2006-09-14 04:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋