2006-09-14 04:36:10 · 16 answers · asked by jenn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why do you feel the need to be engaged so young? You can't even go to a bar with your friends. You probably haven't been to college. You probably haven't held down an adult job. You can't even vote! You haven't lived even 1/10 of the life that adults do - why be tied down so young? Sure, the idea of it is fun and romantic, but I can't even imagine being married at such a young age.
If you two love each other, then wait to actually get married. There's no reason that you can't wait until you both have stable jobs, stable incomes, and have lived a little bit. For every person who has the fairy tale "My parents got married at 17 and were married 50 years", there are 100 "My parents got married at 17 and had 10 miserable years before they divorced". JMHO
2006-09-14 07:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are so young, you have not experienced enough of life. Finish school, get some sort of post-secondary training, work on your own for a while in the "real world" - pay bills, deal with landlords, and bosses and stuff. You'll widen your field of experience and your eyes. Honestly, the guy I would have married at 19 is by far and away totally different from the guy I married at 28. You become a woman in your twenties, just as a guy becomes a man. It's lovely that you found each other so young, but I think you'll miss out on a lot if you tie yourselves down now.
2006-09-14 08:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anything about you and your fiance, but I would say that in most cases, 17 and 19 is way too young for marriage. You'll be surprised how much both of you will change, even in the next 3 or 4 years. So... that being said, you're not wrong to be engaged.... but I'd suggest pushing the wedding off for a few years. My first marriage ended in divorce... and I was 23. It took me until 27 to REALLY figure out what I wanted/needed in a relationship (and in life).
2006-09-14 08:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by bethiswriting 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong may not be the right word.... but you might be making a poor decision.
99.9% of the time, teen love does not last.
People grow up a lot (mentally and emotionally) in that time span between 18-25, the college years.
I got "engaged" to my boyfriend when I was 20 or 21 (I don't really remember anymore.), anyway, I am VERY glad I waited on the marriage.
You see, I realized over time that I was ready to be an adult, have a job and a real life, while he was just a kid that wanted to play (He had dillusions of grandure and wanted to be an "actor", was 23, lived with his mother, dropped out of school, and had no intention of growing up.).
Needless to say we grew apart, and I thank God that I never married him.
That happens a lot when you are in your late teens/early 20's. A lot of "first loves" literally just grow apart, but that's a part of growing up.
I would suggest a long engagment, if you are bound and determined to get married. Wait until you and he are done with college and have a stable job/home life (I would be getting married right now if all that it took was a college degree, but having a stable job/life is a big part of things too.). If things are still rosy then get married.
Good Luck! LK
2006-09-14 05:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong. You love who you love. Personally I'd wait a while for marriage. That way you can get your life together... have a good education, find a good job, get a nice place to live etc. etc. Nothing wrong with being engaged. Making good decisions on when to get married is the next step.
2006-09-14 05:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was 14 when I met my husband dont let anyone down you for this and i read on here teen love doesnt last if you know that you know its real it will last in 17 now and my huband is 22 and we are happy and in love and both in our 2nd yr of college we have disagreements sometimes but now that we are married it is so much better than just dating if you know what I mean.
2006-09-14 08:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to do what you want anyway which is the WRONG and get married. It is wrong in the sense that it is way too young (not mature enough) to get married in this modern society - don't do it! You are only young once don't tie yourself down so early.
2006-09-14 07:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I think you and your fiance are way too young to be married. You both have not even lived life yet.
2006-09-14 10:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a little young, but that doesn't mean anything. depends on the person you're engaged to
2006-09-14 05:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by shiara_blade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not wrong. We can't help who we fall in love with. Tell them to get over it. It is only a 2 year age difference.
2006-09-14 05:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by bre 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋