I just met a terrific guy on Match.com. I have a very unique profile to weed out the milquetoast and pervs and he passes muster thus far. By first date standards we're a great fit and he asked me to call him the next day.
I haven't dated in two years and usually date guys I've known socially for a while, observing them in their natural environment for ethics and respect for females and such. I want to take it slow so I can watch for warning signs, but I don't want to take it tooooo slow, if you know what I mean.
So what do you all think out there? How long should I give the evaluation period and what do you think the warning signs are that he may be a dog in a candy store online?
2006-09-14 04:28:06 · 18 answers · asked by alma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would say a true "player" sticks to the rule that if you dont give it up by the 3rd date or 3 weeks he will bolt because after that its has become a waste of his time. a wanna be player will wait one to one and a half months or till youre infatuated with him or till he gets laid whatever comes first and then bolt. a real man can wait till marrage but i dont suggest waiting quite that long. if hes still around at two months and paying enough attention to you then you're gold. relationships take time to find out if they work a man that wants one will stick around to see how it goes
2006-09-14 04:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by walstib_710 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know him well enough before getting into anything heavy. The best test to see if you are compatible would be to see if you make good friends. The best relationships I have seen start with friendship. It is also a matter of trust. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship. Look for anything untrustworthy. Lying about money or jobs are normal but worth caution, anything bigger is to be avoided. Time isn't a factor, it's how close and comfortable you feel with him. If after a few dates or spending that much time together you don't feel comfortable then don't rush in.
2006-09-14 04:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by prometheus81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately a guy can play games for a long period of time so there are no guarantees. However, it sounds like you are pretty careful and take the time to get to know someone before jumping in to the deep end. I say go for it, take your time and follow your heart. Life is always full of risks but if you don't take a few chances, especially when it comes to love, you will never find true love. I wish you luck and hope things work out with this guy.
2006-09-14 04:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are breaking your own rules for social engagement, so you have to have some other rules to follow when internet dating. Ask to see a photo ID and show yours as a sign of respect [cover your address with your fingers if you need to]. Is he telling the truth about his name? Ask for his phone number and google him to see if he is married or people have posted bad experiences with him. You can use a net detective if you want. You are entering dangerous water and it is full of sharks. Good Luck
2006-09-14 04:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by toolate4me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch his eyes. Watch where they're looking when hes not looking at you. Other then that, its just something that will reveal itself in time. Remember, You are in control of your life. Have fun and dont take things too seriously too soon. Let him chase you. And no matter what, its all supposed to fun, regardless. Dont let your emotions get the better of a situation thats intoxicating, like intimate fun. Dont let him think that hes in control of the relationship your in with him either. Make him want to be with you, if that what you so desire.
2006-09-14 04:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by bros.parker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The warning signs start with Match.com and there advertising.
You go to sights like that to find a lay not a wife.
2006-09-14 04:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him long enough to get the lust out of your eyes... Go ahead and give it plenty of time as if you hook up and marry this guy have kids and then find out he's a dog in the candy store its much if not impossible to get him totally out of your life....
Keep your pants on and your legs crossed till you have a solid commitment....
2006-09-14 04:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It usually takes a week or so before his playa like abilities will start showing when you guys go out to places. Take it easy and see if he's not. Cheers
2006-09-14 04:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that most girls are players too. I bet even as you went out with this guy, you still are answering other guys emails......
If he's real handsome and very outgoing, he could definatly be a player. He probably woulden't need match.com to find someone. But he does it to boost his hits......
If he's big and fat and butt ugly, ,,,,,, I wouldn't worry.
2006-09-14 04:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people tend to show there best qualities when your dating so it is pretty difficult to tell you what signs to look for best of luck give the guy an honest shoot he might turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to you best of luck
2006-09-14 04:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by playful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋