My ex has been trying to get with me and I was just about to give in when I found out that he has a girlfriend.. I already decided that we were definately not going to go back out. But should I tell him what i know.. I don't think that he suspects me knowing... He still tries to talk to me but I thought that I was in love with hima dn though it hurts me, I dono't want nothing to do with him now. Is that a good choice? and tell me if I should tell him that I know about his girlfriend.
2006-09-14 04:19:47 · 36 answers · asked by Foxxy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess there are a few of details that are missing in this question to give a good enough answer, but I'll try. First why did you guys break up in the first place? If it was because he cheated, then you shouldn't even think about going through that ordeal again. Especially since he is trying to get with you while he's in a relationship already. Second question is did he plan on letting his current gf go if you would have taken him back? His plans could have been to hold on to her ONLY if you said no. Doesn't make it right but it is an excuse for not telling you that he had a gf. As far as letting him know that you know that he has a gf, that choice is totally up to you. If he is not the kind of person that you can see yourself with then just leave it as is. Only other thing is that without a reason, he may keep trying. But if you tell him that you know, maybe he'll let it go.
2006-09-14 04:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by DARKMAN97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so maybe its wrong, but aren't u in the least bit tempted to go along & pretend you dont know, get him to take you some place nice, cost him all the money you can all to say,
"So...do you bring your new girlfriend places like this??".....then I'd walk away...& maybe throw a drink, its a personal choice...
Of course if your still very attatched then its best to stay away..no point opening the wounds for yourself, but it'd be good to give him some of his own wouldnt it??
2006-09-14 04:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by RoKo U.S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would probably make things more involved and complicated. If it is truely hurtfull then the best thing to do would be to slowly detach as easily as possible. Bringing this up might make things a lot more heated.
If he is trying to contact you all the time and you can't ignore him by just not talking to him, show less interest when he is talking to you so that it is nothing obvious, and eventually he will loose interest in communicating with you.
2006-09-14 04:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by prometheus81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be tempted to tell him and his girlfriend, but then I'm not very nice. You certainly shouldn't start seeing him again, keep away, and if you think you have to give him a reason for walking away then I'd say telling him you know he has a girlfriend is a good reason, but telling him you are over him is an even better one, the lying cheating toad!
2006-09-14 04:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by stepfordswiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him whatever you want to tell him, but I would suggest not speaking to him at all if you have made the decision that you don't want anything to do with him. Just tell him to leave you alone.
If your not going to try to get back together with him, and you know he has a girlfriend, respect her enough to ignore him and his advances. Isn't that what you would want another woman to do for you if the situation was reversed?
Treat him like the bad dog he is, smack him on the nose and send him home.
Good luck
J
2006-09-14 04:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by frankly2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it kinda depends on how you found out that he has a girl. if someone else told you, it might not be true. you did make the right choice. and it will hurt for a while. And you should definately tell him what you know. you just might find out that he just broke up with his girl and the news of it hasnt made its rounds yet... just talk to him.
2006-09-14 04:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a player, which eventually in the end, will HURT you emotionally and maybe physically. If he has a girlfriend, why go for him? Its obviously he wants you only for one thing, and thats not the person inside of you. Cheers
2006-09-14 04:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should defiently ask him why hes all about you when he's got a woman. Catch him in his own game. Right now he thinks he has the heads up tell him he's caught and you have more important things to do than deal with mass stupidity!!
2006-09-14 04:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say end it and don't tell him you know about his girlfriend. Just completely end it and never talk to him again...he'll always wonder why you didn't come back. If you tell him you know about the other girl - it will make more sense to him why you don't want anything to do with him.
2006-09-14 04:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him to meet you in a certain place ring his now girlfriend and tell her he's been trying to get back with you and to prove it she should meet you so the two of you can confront him 2gether but you meet him and try get him to admit it whilst his girlfriend is hiding sumwhere so she can hear. Good Luck.
2006-09-14 04:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by rainbow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋