To make a long story short, I was dating a married man. I had a conversation with his wife and she told me that they were over and done with. He and I kept seeing eachother and she knew about it.One day this guy told me that he wanted take things to the next level that is, until his wife asked him for a second chance even though she has been a bad wife (which she admitted to me) and cheated on him. It's been about 4 months that I don't talk to him and I want to get in touch with him at least as friends. Does anybody think that she deserved a second chance? After all the things that she did?
2006-09-14 04:11:51 · 25 answers · asked by Miss Bank$ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u can't decide he must decide and don't ever date marry man again and i'm sure she hates u now but dont told u bcoz u take her hasbind
2006-09-14 04:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by pearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter whether you or anyone else thinks she deserved a second chance or not. The point is, he gave her one and he made his choice, so you need to move on now. If he hasn't contacted you in four months then he's obviously trying to work things out with her, so leave him alone. His marriage is not your business. He was probably just seeing you bc he was heartbroken over her and was trying to move on. But now he got back what he really wanted. Sorry, but the truth hurts.
2006-09-14 11:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by Yen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she has all the right to ask her husband for a second chance. After all, they are still married and you shouldn't be in the picture of their marriage most esp if it's currently on the rocks. They have a marriage to work on and you have so much life ahead of you where you can meet and date single guys whom you need not share with anybody (atleast not legally).
Just put yourself in her shoes and weigh from there if you should let your marriage just die down or work it out even for the sake of their family.
2006-09-14 11:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not we think she deserves a second chance doesn't really matter...it only matters what he thinks and what he is feeling.
4 months is a good amount of time for him and her to see if their relationship will work out or not. You should just call if you really want to, but prepare yourself. He hasn't been in contact with you in 4 months for a reason.
Be careful and good luck.
2006-09-14 11:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by shorty tacos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of never have gotten involved with a married man to begin with!!! Cut your losses and move on. There are too many single guys in the world to worry about a married cheating husband. If he has cheated on her what makes you think he wouldn't do it to you?
2006-09-14 11:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by shaman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find someone who regards you as the only woman in his life. Let them dwell in their own doing....you dont need to grab a ring side seat, cheer your champion and hope he wins so you can have him. Move on lady. He obviously thinks she derserves a second chance......and besides......there might be things that he is hiding from you which are compelling him to give her a second chance.
Besides, you are willing to give this man a second chance too...
In a nutshell, you dont need the bother. Start fresh, treasure the fond memories you had with him and move on.
2006-09-14 11:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone deserves a second chance. It is hard to just give up a marriage. If he forgives her and vise versa then they may have a chance to make it. However, once a cheater always a cheater so you might want to take that in stride. If he will do it to her then he will do it to you as well.
2006-09-14 11:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Buttercup=sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only person that can determine if she deserved a second chance is her husband. He is the only one who can determine if he can forgive her and work things out. If you really cared about this guy then the best thing you can do is not contact him so that he can concentrate on his marriage. If it doesn't work out and he had real feelings for you then I'm sure he will contact you.
2006-09-14 11:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think everyone deserves 1 more chance.
2006-09-14 11:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the cheater is really sorry. so maybe she did. sometimes the cheater pretends to be sorry to get the best of both worlds. sorry you got delt the short straw. Getting in touch with him will probally hurt you more in the end.
2006-09-14 11:16:06 · answer #10 · answered by misti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋