me and my ex fiance broke up a couple weeks ago and i met one of her friends and she fell for me and i fell for her. i'm still in love with my ex fiance and i don't want to hurt her. she knows i still love her but i'm not sure how to tell her about me and her friend. and plus i don't want to completely end it with her because i think all we really need is a break. but if she wants to get back with me what do i tell her friend?
2006-09-14 03:56:42 · 21 answers · asked by razorraven3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You tell her exactly what you just told us!!! And you really do know what to do.....it is NOT the right thing to do when you hook up with one of your fiance's friends, as you can imagine how you would feel if it were the other way around. I really would question what type of friend this lady is anyway.....and now you should be questioning what type of person would do this if they indeed are still in love. Do what you mentioned and take a break and not be with anyone........there are far too many rebounds in this world when all it really takes is a person to truly be alone and figure out why something has happened and learn from it before moving on to someone else with unresolved baggage. If you do this, I don't think you will be sorry.
2006-09-14 04:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let the friend know from the beginning what the deal is. Let her know that you like her but you are still in love with her friend and that even though you like her you just think that all you and your fiance need s a break. As for your fiance, I would say that should be honest with her too if you intend on getting back with her. Good luck with all of this because I know you are going to need it!
2006-09-14 11:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Bank$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not go out with her friend. Stop anything that is happening now. A break from a relationship doesn't mean go out and mess around with other people. Its suppose to be a time to think about your relationship. If you start dating other people, then nothing is going to beat the feeling of that "new relationship" feeling and after a while, when that excitement fades away, you might realize you made a mistake and lose the one you truly love.
Plus what are the odds your ex is going to want you back after you messed with her friend. That hurts bad.
2006-09-14 11:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You crossed the forbidden line, and that girl IS NOT a friend of your ex's. If she were a friend she would have never crossed that line. I don't care if the two of you are split up or not! I would tell that girl that you still love your ex, flat out! If you really love her and think you are going to work things out, I suggest you keep your penis zipped up and work on the relationship. One time is a mistake, more than once you destroy everything over a little booty.
2006-09-14 11:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ex girlfriends friend should know better. Best friends have a code, YOU DON'T DATE YOU BEST-FRIENDS EX!!!!!!!!
Tell you ex that will definately kill the relationship completely as well as the friendship with her friend. That's just a dirty deed and you should have even messed will the other girl. Your screwed either way. Honestly, you should stay away from both of them. It will eventually blow up in your face. You'll see even if you don't take my word for it. You ex will be mad if you tell her, the other girl will tell your ex if you get frid of her.
2006-09-14 11:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by ~* Garden Empress*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 1st of all in my opinion u just want to have ur cake and eat it to.. u don't want to completely let go of ur ex but don't want to stop dating her friend either.. wow, ur mighty selfish...
u need to let her friend go.. let her know that she's a whore and not a real friend to ur ex fiance cause if she was then she would no that ex bf's are always off limits..
then u need to go and apologize to ur fiance and ask her to forgive u and that u would like for the engagement to be back on..
and yes of course u tell her about her triflin *** friend and ur triflin to cause neither of u deserve her friendship right about now.. if u loved her and still do u wouldn't even have to debate on what to do..
ur a Loser w/a capital L....
2006-09-14 11:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly sometimes in life we have to give it all up. It is so not the right thing to be messing with her friend that is not good...that girl is not a true friend there is no way two normal people would feel comfortable being friends and they both have loved or love the same man...you are no good if you go with her friend and that girl just lost the tittle "FRIEND" she is not even
2006-09-14 11:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by she 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but you playing with fire and peoples feelings if you truely still loved your ex fiance' you wudnt want a break you wud want her forever well as long as you both shall live....but you obviously dont love your ex fiance...rem if you ever get married theres no break if you wana see other people..and as for dating her friend either date her and forget bout your ex fiance or the other way but either way some ones gonna get hurt..so if you wanna spare feelings forget bout both of them and move on wit your life...
2006-09-14 11:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by cutiestnowgurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you've right royally messed up there....either way now you're going to lose out...Tell your ex and she's going to be hurt, tell her friend and she'll be hurt, tell neither and they'll both find out and then be hurt. You are going to have to face the music and the sooner you do it the better really. Time you faced up and fessed up.
2006-09-14 10:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by stepfordswiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her friend that you just got out of a relationship right now. Say I'm very flattered that you like me but at this time I need some space. Right now I'm not ready for another relationship. Can we be friends for now? That's it. Good Luck.
2006-09-14 11:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋