My bf and i had a normal sex life....he did somethings that had hurt me a lot and it was so hard to frogive him...anyway i eventually did but now our sex life has changed. I bearly wants any sex now but i don't know what causes this ..even if he trieds to get me hot i don't. what should i do i really want to change this
2006-09-14 03:50:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't love him anymore. You need to move on before it gets critical.
2006-09-14 03:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Darin S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he did to you that hurt you is what turned you off to him. Exlain to him thats why it is... apologize but also say that there is nothing you can do about not wanting to be intimate with him. Its just something that your body decides when or when it doesnt want it. Maybe things will change and maybe not... Good Luck I hope all goes well for you and God Bless.
2006-09-14 10:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by ashley65@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about forgiving - leave at a run. He HURT you and you're wondering why you don't respond to him? It's because your body is smarter than you are - it knows if he hurt you once he'll do it again.
1] Leave
2] See a GYN to check for damage
3] Don't date guys that hurt you
2006-09-14 10:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This means that you really haven't forgiven him. You decided to toloerate what he did, and you acknowledged that he did something wrong, but you did not forgive him. If you had truly forgiven him, you would not be in this situation. Try some counselling and talking about your feelings.
2006-09-14 10:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay whateer happened you forgave him. But maybe you are not completly over it. You probably need to take some time away from him, a space for yourself and think things over. Maybe you realize that he is not the one for you. take the time off and see what happens. It is hard to forgive, but even harder to forget
2006-09-14 10:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Buddha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you need to talk about what's bothereing you or why have you sex life changed..maybe you just got hurt so badly you can't trust him anymore? i think it could be related to what he did that made you hurt...talk about it and see.
Take care.
2006-09-14 11:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by 4eva-pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't really forgiven him because you are still upset about whatever he did that hurt you. Because you haven't told us what he did, I can only advise you to figure out whether it is something you can live with or whether you should think about finding another boyfriend.
2006-09-14 10:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to take the hurt and talk to him and get re-ashed that it wont happen ever again.. this can take some time so be passionate with him.
2006-09-14 10:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that only means you dont love him enough to be able to forgive him....but let time heal the wound....cool it off for a while and maybe you will get your question answered by yourself...
2006-09-14 10:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by bea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't trust him. If you love him and want this to work out, you need to go to counseling.
2006-09-14 10:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋