To go or not to go? That is the question?

Question

Well to put it this way..... me and my boyfriend just had a fight.....
I want to go out Friday night (with one of my girlfriends) I asked him if he wanted to come but he said no.... So I asked him if it is ok if I went and he flipped out. He said he is going to do the same but to the extrimes and I know what that means..... he is going to get another girl..... He can go out with his friends and I can't say anything but not me then I'm going to cheat?
Now he said were through.....

What must I do?

Answer 1

You know... it is all to often that women find them selves rapped up ina relationship that is very bad for them/morally physically and financially.
Listen up and for some of the rest of the women out there... u listen to!!! if you a have a man at home that ( and i use the term loooooosely) rather BOY """anywho""".... If you find yourself ladies in this worldwind of this type of boy as the young ladie describes/ what you have to do is go to a room and lock your self in/ it has to be a big mirror in that room / fresh air a pen and plenty of blank paper/ also take your favorite beverage with you/ no snacks or it will firther perpetuate the problem cause your eating and u'll think ur a fat cow!@! AND UR REALLY NOT/ BUT YOUR BOYFRIEND MAKES U THINK THAT WAY/ OH AND BY THE WAY HON/ THAT WHY WE CALL THE boyfrieNDS/ they are not quite men
yet
anway after you get into that room look in the mirror sipp on ur beverage and say>>>>>>>
@**#$$!@Z him i can do bad all by myself/ then write down all the psitive things about him and then write down all the negative things about him.
Then i want you to write down all the quality's of the other guy that just wont leave u alone and is dying to be with you ( all women have that guy)and i want you to read it aloud to your self
see.... when a women has low self esteem she finds her self in such an awful place with men. she is a magnet for users liars and dopefiens.ok now.... this is the type of man to stay away from !!!!(he'll give u a compliment and in the same breath say something negatIve) //// the ones that u never see thier friends/// the ones where there mother is way to much of a push over and sweet/// means he'll think woman can be pushed over///
You catch him in a lie one time!!!!/ he has no car and he doesnt and he is over 18 and he does not live in newyork!!! dump him and run or he will be driving your . ull give him YOUR gas money and hell be late pickin u up from work. dont go boo go get the other guy i told u to write about i know he seemsnerdy but he will be a future of pride and fun and love a sharing and education and and just plain old trust. ladies !!!!!!!! let those men go please u are worth it

Answer 2

The first question that should be asked is why does he mistrust you so much.You obviously love him a lot,thats why u took the time to ask the question on this site.Did'nt u make an assumption when u thought he would take another girlfriend?Maybe you cheated before?Yes i am the so called control freak boyfrfriend that used to give her cash to go out and even sometimes gave her my car and cash.until ifound out recently she was unfaithful 12 times in our 6 years.And yes she did go on friday night and she's in another guy's bed right now,nr 13.She begged for another chance with me so am I right or wrong to mistrust her?I knew it was'nt gong to be with her girlfriend en here's the results but fortunately I took a stand even before this happened.So please people should I stand and take this longer?I really love her and gave her everything she needed including an education and she lived wth me for the six years.Can u imagine what it felt like when I learned the truth? It took six months for her to finaly admit to these things.And worst of all last sunday she was still in my bed,now she's with some one she met a few hours ago.If I did'nt keep track of things,she would have been here again within a few days and I would have known nothing about it...

Answer 3

Dont worry about his jealous antics. Usually when a guy doesnt want u to go out with girlfriends, he's afraid ur gonna go out and do something he would do, or is already doing. What game is he playing. A relationship wont be successful if he is spiteful. U asked him if he wanted to hang, he said no, so what, u cant go out without him? Is that fair??!?! But he can come and go as he pleases and ur suppose to keep quiet. He has the upper hand in this relationship, but show him you are ur own person, and go out and have a blast with ur girls, FORGET HIM!!!!! (because he'll forget u, trust me)

Answer 4

I think you know what you must do - and that is to not let anyone else control your life. If you want to go out with one of your girlfriends, then go, and let him do whatever. You're not married to the guy, and thank your lucky stars that you're not - because this kind of behavior will only get worse. So dump him. Don't be like thousands of women who think there's no life without a man in it - trust me on this one - it's a heck of a lot more fun to grow up and learn to be independent.

Answer 5

Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous boyfriends,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing, end them. To die: to sleep;
No more; and by a sleep to say we end [the relationship]

Shakespeare had the answer all along! LOL

Go. As in go leave him.

He is your boyfriend and keep communication open but what he displayed was a form of extortion. He used your relationship as a hostage and by keeping you from going out with your friends he's temporarily saying that he "saved" the relationship (at the expense of your happiness). If he's the personality type that will go out and replace you with someone better at the first sign of a strain in the relationship you might as well end it sooner rather than later.

Have fun with your girlfriend and don't worry about him.

Answer 6

move on and find u a man that ain't a damn control freak.. why r u asking him can u go out..he is not ur parent and i'm assuming ur grown...

he is threatening u by finding another gf if u go out.. u need to let that chump go and find someone else..

being in a relationship doesn't mean that he has the right to control u and manipulate u... but if u feel as though u deserve the way he is treating u then stay...

Answer 7

I had a boyfriend like that in High School! Honey you are way better off without him. If he cared about you then he would want you to spend time with your friends also, and he would not threaten to cheat. Let him go, you go out with your friends and find you someone better!! Your boyfriend sounds like a loser! You can do better! Good Luck!!

Answer 8

Its better to be alone and happy and doing what you want. Then to be unhappy in a relationship wondering what the other person is thinking. There are rough spots in a relationship but my guess is your under 30 so tha means you have plenty of time to find someone who respects you.....even if you are over 30 you still have time :)

Answer 9

You know what, it is enough pressure in the world, and you do not need him to be putting more on you, for one thing he is insecure, and if he is going to tell you he will go to the extreme, don't take that lightly. Leave while you can, and the next time, take the relationship slow, until you get to know someone. Have some fun, you owe it to yourself.

Answer 10

Go. And NEVER ask someone for permission to have a life. What are you, 12? And he's your daddy? No! It is not healthy to let someone control you like that. I hope you go out and have a great time! And if he does go through with his threat, so be it. Let him loose.