My boyrfiend is frustrated with me because it is so hard for me to come with him?

Question

I actually haven't come yet in front of him (we have only been together for 4 months) All of the other girls he has been with could so easily come. I am not like that at all. It is harder for me. Is there something wrong with me? I hate to dissapoint myself and him. He got really upset with me last night and ended up apologizing to me this morning. He felt really bad for some of the things he said. I forgave him, but I still want our sex life to be great.

Answer 1

How do you know that all other girls come easily with him...did HE tell you this or have the girls...do you come easily normally? try stimulating your clitoris as you two are having sex...thats the easiest way to get there....relax as well, he's making you feel pressured and that won't get you anywhere but frustrated..take your time...make him give you foreplay to heat you up...If he loves you it shouldn't be a big deal anyway.

Answer 2

First of all, he could be lying about the "other girls coming so easily" or those girls could have been lying to him. Second, its doesn't matter how good a guy is, the ability to have an orgasm is going to be a matter of how comfortable you feel around him and how comfortable you are sexually.
If I was you, I would explore the different things he does that you like and have him stick with it. Try new things; eventually you might get it.

Answer 3

First, dont apolofize. If you could you would. But have you tried different things? Like role playing or watching a video and touching yourself first. Maybe a new outfit will make you feel sexy and help it along. Does he spend adequate amount of time on you? Theres a product sold by KYjelly and condoms section. Its called "finally" and you rub it on you and 5 minutes later your stimulated. All these things work well with me when Im not in the mood

Answer 4

Tell him to help you out first and have a huge "o" then when he is ready, fake it, he will never know the difference. At least then, you'll have had your release.

He doesn't understand that every woman is different. Tell him you are a Chevy and need to be warmed up before the drive. If he is going to get mad over something as silly as this and say bad things to you (and probably about you) then he is not really worth your time and energy. He will not change.

Answer 5

I bet you those other girls faked it. Fact is 75%+ of females can't come by intercourse. The majority climax from oral stimulation, not by sexual intercouse. It's not an opinion, it's a scientific fact. Women's bodies were not wired to climax through intercourse. The clitoris's sole purpose is for sexual pleasure. Did you know that? Anyways, if he even has a chance at making you climax the odds are against him through intercourse and they are much better through oral. And by the way putting pressure on you and making you feel bad about it isn't going to put your body at ease and get you to that "point". So tell him there is nothing worse then you feeling bad that you can't go and then feeling bad because he feels he can't satisfy you. What a bunch of crap on your shoulders that you don't need. He needs to be patient, helpful, willing to learn what you like, and get over the fact that this isn't about HIM and it's about you. Just because he can "go" at the drop of a dime like most males, doesn't me females do too, we weren't wired too, we actually have to work for it. So tell him to bug off if he isn't going to be supportive and helpful and you don't need the pressure of him wanting you to climax so he can't have all the pleasure of it. Good luck to you and don't blame yourself hun, it's not anyone's fault, everyone's body is different. So glad i'm not "into" guys.....

Answer 6

I have kind of the same situation...only I just have never had a orgasm period. His was kind of hurt the first couple of times, now I just kind of enjoy whatever I can get. I tighten up my muscles and then he thinks that I orgasmed without me really saying that I did or didn't. I know this isn't the way to go but I am dealing with it this way untill I figure it out for myself. Meanwhile I get to enjoy being with him even if I don't orgasm. (Funny I asked the very same question almost this morning as well)

Answer 7

I think you are just freaked out by the idea of letting all your inabitions to the side and let yourself go, and have a wild orgasm inforn to him! Its really a control issue, but let it be with time and more confidence and trust in him you will be able to, now just enjoy the moment learn to relax more things should happen magically from there. It's not something wrong with you, there are millions of women that take forever to have a orgasm, literally you should learn to please yourself and that way give him better tips on hwo to get you off...

Answer 8

Is he sure all the other girls really came so easily or at all?? Us women are pros at faking it.....Lots and LOTS of women cannot come through intercourse alone...it takes clitoral stimulation to get us to orgasm...Are you willing to play with yourself or allow him to while you are having intercourse?! It's perfectly normal and will help your sex life out, I promise. My husband is a great lover, we've been married 10 years and I've only been able to orgasm through intercourse alone like 5 times.....otherwise I use my hand to stimulate myself or he does it for me..He likes to watch me do it anyways, turns him on even more.....Your boyfriend is a real jerk with some self-esteem issues to be yelling at you over this...you need a lover who is understanding and willing to talk to you openly and maturely about the isse and work towards a happy ending for the both of you......

Answer 9

I am the same way and it takes some work on your part. For me it was hard to focus, I would get distracted easily. Just try to relax and enjoy it. Try not to let your mind wander. Focus on him and what he is doing to you. It takes practice but it does work! Reassure him it's you and not him and maybe he will feel better about it. Also sometimes it helps if the guy goes slower!

Answer 10

check this out. how is he gonna get mad at u cuz he cant make u c u m? dude needs to understand that everyone is different, and he needs to stop being lazy and actually put in work to help u c u m. talk to him and tell him the way u want sex to be, because if u dont tell him he wont know cuz closed mouths dont get fed sweetie........