2006-09-14 02:57:45 · 46 answers · asked by Win 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your fat.
2006-09-14 02:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by a4kneekater 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
He's implying that if you were thinner (and thus possibly, more attractive) you would not have needed to "settle" for him and that some guy who is supposedly "more attractive" than him would have caught your fancy. Or he could be suggesting that you being "thin" would result in you thinking he is too "fat" to be with.
Although, depending on the physique of the guy, he feels if you were "thin" maybe you would not have the same lifestyle you or he might have right now . It's hard to say without knowing either of you.
My best guess is he is implying you settled for him and your lack of "thinness" kept you from finding someone else.
2006-09-14 03:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by ralphwaldo45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all he is insinuating you are not thin, therefore is having some shallow thoughts and you should GET RID OF HIM. Second he is insinuating that you are only with him because you are not a rail, and third therefore saying you can't get something "better" then him because you aren't "thin". And finally, he has some self-esteem issue obviously so let him go girl. You are perfect just the way you are. Don't concentrate on thin, fat or otherwise. Worry about maintaining a healthy lifestyle and loving YOU!!!
2006-09-14 03:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jep 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My guy said the same thing when I mentioned I wanted gastric bypass; he said I'd leave him when I got skinny. I told him it didn't matter to me if he was fat, short, tall, thin - I was in love with the man, not the appearance. That reassured him & I haven't heard anymore about me leaving him when I get skinny. His remark doesn't reflect on YOU - it means he is insecure about himself & his ability to hold onto a thinner, more confident, more physically appealing you. It sounds like HE has the issues that should be addressed. How do you feel about him? Would you stay with him if you dropped 75-100 lbs? You need to let him know what matters to you - the HE matters to you. Good luck -
2006-09-14 03:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means that he has very low self-esteem and self-confidence. He really prefers thin girls, but has to settle for you because he can't attract someone thin, or "better". I would find a new boyfriend. Someone who is happy with you for who you are. Good Luck! I'm in a worse situation. My boyfriend won't have sex with me because I'm not thin. He told me once that he doesn't like what he sees. That was 7 years ago and we've been celebant ever since. ...)(
2006-09-14 03:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by MissKathleen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to give you a compliment, but men are so stupid that they do not know how to give good compliments. Instead of telling saying "even though you are overweight, you are still very beautiful." He is trying to give you a compliment by saying that you are *too good* for him. My bf does this to me all the time. I weigh 230 pounds and he always tells me that if I lost weight, he'd have to buy a big stick to keep all the guys off me. He is trying to give me a compliment, but it does not work. All it does is make me think that I am not pretty now, and I will be pretty when I lose weight. But I know that is false. I have the self confidence to KNOW that I am pretty right now, just as I am, weighing 230 pounds!
2006-09-14 03:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This means two things.
1) He has self esteem issues. He doesn't have confidence in himself.
2) You are settling. Sounds to me like this guy is purposefully trying to make you feel bad so you stick around. Great. Prove him right. Drop a couple pounds if you even need to and ditch this chump.
If you wanted to be with him, you certainly would regardless of YOUR weight or frame. Crappy attitude on his part.
2006-09-14 03:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously got no self esteem but what he's saying to you is actually an insult. He's basically saying that you're only with him because you're not attractive enough to get anyone else. He's obviously warped as skinny equals attractive to him which is not the case. Beauty is on the inside not the outside, maybe you should inform him of this.
2006-09-14 03:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by EmmaB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is a little confusing
He's thin or you're thin. If it is saying he was thin he thinks he would be an obnoxious jerk/ladies man who could get all/any ladies he wants, you're thin means maybe you would think you could do better and would leave him, someone has a self esteem problem, negative or overinflated depends on what way you are asking this question
2006-09-14 03:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by moglie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he means that if you were thin you would be with other guys cause the other guys would like you better? I dont know wether to take that as a compliment or an insult?!?!?!
2006-09-14 03:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insulting you and himself. He feels unworthy of anyone he considers slim and pretty, and he thinks you're the opposite. He is shallow minded and ignorant. Dump him.
BTW, language usage dictates ..."if...I...were..." not was. It's the subjunctive. Perhaps with a bit more education, you'd draw a more favorable boyfriend/girlfriend. No offense intended; only a suggestion.
2006-09-14 03:02:05 · answer #11 · answered by William T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋