I've dating this guy fo over a year. We do a lot of fun stuff like bowling, movies, amusement parks, shopping, going out to eat and comedy shows, but the bad part about this is that he doesn't want to be in a relationship at this point of his life because he recently like a couple years a go got out of a 7 year relationship with a woman who lied and said their baby was his when it was really another man's baby. I feel bad for him and all but isn't over a year with me enough to tell that I am not that kind of woman? He shouldn't not want a relationship with me because he had problems in his past with another woman. Should I continue this friendship with him assuming that maybe one day he will take it furthur with me?
2006-09-14 02:46:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, the decision is yours but i can see how he'd still be gun shy. However, it certainly seems like a relationship is forming if you've been together for a year, let him coast along the way things are, he is comfortable right now and if u try to push, you'll scare him away.
let him set the pace and when he is ready, he will turn to you as you've been there for him in so many ways.
2006-09-14 02:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by jelli_bean_36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're wasting your time with this guy. If he isn't "over" that previous relationship after 2 years, then he's got some serious issues. He's stringing you along, content to date and get the benefits without having to do anything for you or commit to you. He's not going to change at this point. If he hasn't already seen that you're someone great and worth committing to, then you're wasting time with him. Dump him and find someone who wants to be in a serious relationship with you.
2006-09-14 09:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Astro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's living life scared ! Too bad you are on the sh*t end of the stick cause, you're paying the price from someone else's decieving ways ! You gotta convince him ( slowly ) that you are honest and worth your weight in gold ! this ain't goin' to be easy ~ I dispise when others do those kinda things to deliberately hurt people and mentally toy with their minds !!!
2006-09-14 09:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by Jo Jo Gunn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well really u cant blame him because that is very hurtful.... he needs time to heal and he's just not ready to date again. yes a year is a long time but just continue to be his friend and date him but u also need to hang out with other people too.
2006-09-14 10:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by sexygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can be satisfied by what is, continue, but don't count on anything developing and DO NOT close yourself off from a possible relationship that could fulfill you.
2006-09-14 09:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by blackfangz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you both want different things. If you want a relationship but he is not willing to give you one, then find someone who respects you enough to call you his Lady, his Girlfriend, and eventually His WIFE! :-) You deserve to get what you want, hunny!
2006-09-14 09:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep being his friend - a year really isn't that long to get over something like that!!
2006-09-14 09:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know. if i were you i would tell him that if he isnt going to trust you now, then you dont want to wait around for him to make a decision on whether or not he ever will. you shouldnt have to wait around for him to make up his mind anyways.
2006-09-14 09:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never going to happen. Try to find someone else.
2006-09-14 09:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by neoscribbler 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just stick wit him, unless you NEED to be comitted, why rush?
2006-09-14 09:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by atl_diva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋