My BOYfriend is 19, he lives in a small island, droped out of school when he was 14 and now works in a coffee shop on weekdays and a bar on weekends. I am 24 and i work at my aunt s jeweellery shop on the same island during summer since i graduated with a bachelor in management. I ll be working in an advertising company after christmas.When we started going out everything was great despite the age difference and educational backround. Now two months after everyone seems to be against us and say we re not right for eachother, he started acting weird and leave for two days to go hunting on the mountain and change our plans. when i confronted him he said he was just testing me to see if i really love him. i thought this was so imature but afterall he s just 19. what should i do, i want to be with him but can i?
2006-09-14 02:43:14 · 12 answers · asked by deina1981 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know, men take longer to grow up. do you think that you can handle this type of behavior all the time? if no then let it go, if yea then try to make it work, it will be tough but what love isn't?
2006-09-14 02:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
|The thing is that if you love him dont worry about what others think as it has absolutely nothing to do with them. There is a 5 year age gap between me and my fiance im 29 and she is 24 she was also 19 when we started going out do what you feel is right. The other problem is it sounds like he is a bit insecure about your relationship. Also what he did was immature and the wrong way to handle it but what you have to remember is that he is going to make mistakes along the way and as long as they are not too serious then you will have to give him the benifit of the doubt. well I hope things work out for you and I wish you the best of luck
2006-09-14 09:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by spunkster12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, having a degree doesn't make you any better than him.
Next, I would take issue with someone testing another person in the relationship. This is not healthy for a relationship and it shows a lack of maturity.
It sounds like you are at a different level of maturity. Even though you know this, you want to stay in the relationship. This is probably because of some mixed feelings (ie comfort, guilt, loyalty, and some level of love).
My suggestion to you is to ask yourself, " Why am I with him?"
Your question paints a negative connotaion of your boyfriend. Why didn't you put in the question reasons you stay with him (such as thoughtfulness, giving, kindhearted,etc)?
If you decide to stay with him, stop listening to everybody else; and accept him AS HE IS.
2006-09-14 10:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by who R U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only 2 months in and you already havin problems with him. He is immature it seems, but you already should have expected that. Did you really want to re live your teenage years through dealings with him? Do you really want to go through all that drama? After all a women is already 3 years mentally advanced than a man her same age so you are really ahead of him. If its worth all this, give him another chance. If not, ditch the adolescent. I really didnt understand the hunting incident.
2006-09-14 09:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is making up excuses on getting away. the thing about testing you is bull ----. leave now while you are able and if you are asking the question you know in your heart the real thing to do. love will hurt but only for a little while. go and better yourself and find someone that is on the same track as you.
2006-09-14 09:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by kathy froggylady40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 Y.O guys miss bikes, hunting, loud music. you cannot force this guy to leave what 19 Y.O guys do!
don't spoil your relationship with this guy because others say: "he's so immature", or "you're not suitable". don't suppose that he's playing with you and he'll leave you. ok you're 5 years older but he's still able to be the most loyal guy you have ever met. just dont let him feel you're suspecious.
believe me you can make it the most wonderful relation ship
2006-09-14 10:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by hunga bunga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is gdoing the right thing. I think when people are away from each other I feel they can really feel if they care about you. They need to see if they miss the phone conversations on the phone with you and If they miss seeing you. If they don't miss their g/f or b/f they know its not love .
2006-09-14 09:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♥I~love~my~Fiance♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet he is with another girl on the weekends, because people say that you weren't right for each other. I am sure he is just making excuses for not seeing you because he wants to see another girl....
but give him one more chance to prove to you that he is still faithful to one person...
YOU!!!
2006-09-14 09:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by Hahaha... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel if ur to old to paly games leave. the guy is still young and trust me he will continue to play. so seems to me like u need someone who is very mature or try to mold this guy into the guy u want.
2006-09-14 09:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by sexygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u really love him, dont give up fight for yalls love, love is neva easy, it takes work, if u love him enough it's worth fightin' for. if you've fought hard enough and it still doesnt work, then u might have to let go.
2006-09-14 09:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by Here2Help 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋