my boyfriends a workaholic and he doesn't have time for me?

Question

I always make an effort, i txt him and call him all the time.It was bad enough when he was working....But NOW...
since his started up his own business.His always buzy.He thinks i dont understand but i do but theres only so much you can take. I hardly speak to him on the phone. and i only see him on sundays, and sometimes even that gets cancelled. i feel like im loosing him................someone pleeeeeeeeeeeze give me advice. i dont know what to do?

Answer 1

Kick him to the kerb!!!

Answer 2

well you've firstly gota realise that if its his own business, its in his - and your - interests that this succeeds - particularly if its a relatively new business. Hes obviously put time and money into this company and he has to see it start bringing in the profits etc.
I know its hard on you to be like a work widow - but all you can do is be there for him - maybe you could call over to his workplace on lunch hour and spend even an hour with him that way? Is there any way you could contribute towards his new workplace - have you tried asking if he needs your help? Ok so if he does take you up on it its hardly going to be romantic or nowt, but its time together. Failing that - try talking to him, tell him you feel his work is taking over your relationship and you're worried about ye surviving as a couple - Im sure he just doesnt realise how youre feeling - maybe when he hears it he'll rejig his schedule to try and make more time for ye

Answer 3

Hmm, clearly trying to speak to him face to face or on the phone is a problem; so I would suggest that you write him a letter telling him how you feel. Pop it into an envelope and leave it (don't post it just in case) somewhere you will know he sees it. If you live together leave it on his pillow or something; if not push it personally through his letterbox when you know he is out. This way it gives him time to read the letter in his own time, when he isn't working for example, and hopefully realise what he has been doing. Good luck!

Answer 4

The time has come to sit down and talk to him openly and honestly but first you need to evaluate the relationship and decide if its really what you want.

Running a business is tough and initially its going to take up a lot if not most of his time but once the business is established, things might well calm down and he might have more free time. However, there's no telling how long this might take and are you prepared to wait for him?

It sounds to me like your boyfriend is working too hard and you are right to be worried and concerned about him. Although running your own business is time consuming, he still needs to make time for you and if he makes plans with you, he certainly shouldn't be cancelling them.

I know you are trying your hardest to be understanding (I think that's really admirable by the way) but to be honest and truthful with you, this business is first in your boyfriends mind and you are second.

So back to my original point, you need to evaluate what you want right now and it might be time to make some tough decisions.

Try talking to him honestly and openly about how you feel. All you are asking for is to spend time with him, you're hardly asking for the earth here. Or try a sly approach, make it clear to him you aren't prepared to wait around for him to call you up when he's free. Make yourself unavailable too. It might give him the wake up call he needs and give him a taste of his own medicine.

Answer 5

Whine and bout about it A LOT...but not to him...This is a good place for your friends and family to step in both online and offline both those who know him and those who don't. Threaten to throw bricks threw those damn windows and cry lots of tears over the fact that you have a better chance of caughting him at work then you do at home....and how the heck is this going to work and oh man I should just give up...and then when you get that text out of no where or that unexpected phone call from work to see how your dr appointment went that morning...you can just melt and fall for him all over again....and yes I too am going threw this only we aren't a couple (yet...I hope) nor have I even gotten a kiss and its been over a year of very slow progress.....we started out working together he was one of my bosses...then he got his own store in the same town and company so we still work in same company just not together anymore......feel free to message me if you want someone going through the same fun to talk to.

Answer 6

dont pressure him, i know its hard but if u do u ll lose him cause he ll find someone who will not be pushy. since u see him on sundays plan something special to help him relax such as a nice dinner or breakfast in bed. ask him if he needs help with work or if there s anything u can do to help him out. dont yell at him and dont complain cause the easiest thing for him now with all this pressure cause of work, is to walk out. hang in there, talk to ur friends and family and just be patient things will get better. talk to him about it but not when he comes home from work and he s tired, do this at a time u think he s relaxed and willing to talk. good luck, dont pressure him

Answer 7

he's just trying to do his best to provide a good future for you both, surprise him with a meal or turn up where he works with a pizza or something nice to get to spend a bit of time with him. most importantly tell him you need to see him more but be flexible about how and where and maybe you can both compromise and solve the situation. don't make him make all the effort always coming to you etc. good luck.

Answer 8

Sounds like there is someone else. Sorry to be harsh but I am a man. Some guys just like to work especially if they don't like coming home to a nagging wife or girlfriend. Believe me I am very successful and hate being told what to do and when to do it, and I hate moaners.

There is no excuse for being unfaithful, check him out follow him or find out whether he is at work when he says he is

Answer 9

Being a workaholic is a real problem. Maybe don't contact him for a while and he may realise that there's more to life than work. Go out with your friends and have fun.
Try it for a month.

Answer 10

honey, you need to leave him, it's the only way he will realise how you feel.

I was like him once and it took that to change my life to what it is now.......


Just don't run into the arms of anyone else, you also need some space to think and get some prospective, the last thing you want is to leave and find that he actually loves and has realised the error of his ways to find you've hitched up with the first wide boy. it will burn all your bridges and make a hell of a mess...

JD

Answer 11

Write him a letter about your feelings,tell him that u respesct his business,but in relationship for everything it takes two...if he realy loves U,he will put some effort in it,and will try to get some time with U.Remember: it takes two for everything,don't blame yourself or him only