A man that I loved called me yesterday after not talking to him in 2 years. At the time when I wanted to be with him and I told him I loved him he was married and I was in a relationship and had a daughter with the person I was in the relationship with. As time went on we realized we couldn't be together because he was married. I continued my relationship with my daughter's father. Yesterday the married man called and told me that he has been divorced for a year now and wants to be with me. In all this time my feelings have never changed for him and I don't know what to do.
2006-09-14 02:25:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well he was almost willing to get with you when he was married to someone else, then again you were willing to get with him even though you were with someone else. Hmmm, dump your man and go for it.
2006-09-14 02:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on if you married your baby's daddy or not. Truth is, you have already hurt the man you are with by cheating on him in the first place. If you didn't cheat physically, you did emotionally. Its like you said, without words of course, Well, I can't be with the one I have fallen in love with because he is married so I guess you will have to do. That is what you did by continueing your relationship with your childs father. You just didn't actually say the words. Now here it is 2 yrs later and your baby's father is still there with you and again you are contiplating on leaving him and hurting him and seperating him from living with his child to be with this other man that you claim your feelings haven't changed for. This man didn't get a divorce because he wanted to be with you....... he got the divorce because his wife found out about his dirty deeds. You should have left your baby's daddy 2 yrs ago when you realized you weren't in love with him but you didn't and that would have been the right thing to do. Now this man comes back and claims his divorce to you and that he wants to be you. He cheated on his wife........ think about it. He will cheat on you as well if you do this. I think reguardless of what you choose with this other man, you really NEED to tell the truth to your baby's daddy and for once give him the chance to decide if he really loves you or not. Blessed be.
2006-09-14 11:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are still with the father of your child, think very carefully before falling for this mans lines again, things would be different if you went back there, and you cannot trust your feelings from 2 years ago.you say you love him, so why would you still be with your daughters father? thats not fair to any of you.if you start a relationship with this man your daughter will get caught up in the middle of all this. also how can you trust him? he may still be married, or just after a quick shag. once a cheater always a cheater i say, im sorry but if he was willing to cheat with you on his wife, whats to stop him cheating on you? i hope you get through this ok.
2006-09-14 09:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must complete the relationship you have now before restarting another. Think about the long term effects on your child. If you are not available then you need to quit jerking your mate around and using him. Let someone who will appreciate him have him since you don't want him. If you are available and the guy doesn't have a relationship currently and you still entertain fantasies about being with him then nothing should stop you from pursuing him. Just know that whatever he did with you a couple of years ago he will do TO You.
2006-09-14 09:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If your not with your child's father anymore then you should go ahead and be with this other guy. If you still have these strong feelings for him then I would go ahead and act on them. He still feels the same way towards you, and atleast he's divorced now. Go with what your heart is telling you because it's your life and your the one that has to be happy in the end. Just make sure it's something that you really want. I wish you the best!!
2006-09-14 09:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Passionate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still with the father of your child? If so you need to decide if breaking up a family is really worth it. If not then go for it. You will never really know if your feeling for this man are real or not until you start seeing him again. Good luck
2006-09-14 09:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by to_sassy4_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still married to your daughter's father? If not, then I say GO FOR IT! But if you are still married, then I say just be friends with the other guy.
2006-09-14 09:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not involved with anyone or married, then all's fair in love and war! But take things slowly. Don't let the old emotions control your behavior or cloud your judgement. Start with a clean slate.
2006-09-14 09:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by cheerstoyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it....he's feeling weren't for you when he was married. And now since he's divorce he wants to come back to you? But then again its always said to follow your heart, but make sure that the feelings that you have for him are mutual.
2006-09-14 09:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by pudgie39759 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him not just care for him and you are single why not try, but beware he cheated on his wife with you what will he do when he gets bored with you. Start off by dating him no sex for like 6 months and see how he reacts to that. Just keep up your gaurd and don't give in untill you are sure. Good luck
2006-09-14 09:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by stacy g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get into a relationship with this guy yes you still love him and all that but you have move on. if you leave your baby's daddy for him.he is going to think he can get you at any time so he can play with you.You need to sit and look at your life with you baby's father if it worth staying with him if not do what you have to.
2006-09-14 09:32:24 · answer #11 · answered by ktoya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋