girlfriend asking for money?

Question

i am in a lomg distance relationship with a girl and i have been looking after financially we not even living together but she keeps asking for more and more, which is killing me, now i have no more and she sort of threatening to break up saying she deserves a great life, we havnt slept together but i love her, what should i do

Answer 1

WHAT??? jeez she has no morals!!! And I duno are you a fool or overgenerous!!! Next time she threatens the break up tell her straight out that you wont have any type of life together at the rate shes going anyway as you'll have no money left!
Seriously whilst a good guy will help his lady out with a few bob now and again it sounds like shes only with you for your money - particularly if shes a long way away. I think you need to cut your losses - really shes only with you for your financial support - and find yourself a lady that can support herself.
And try spending your money on yourself - you might enjoy it!

Answer 2

I am sorry.... but take a minuet and read what you just wrote as if you were reading it to answer the question. It is very obvious that she is using you to get money. She probably has some other guy at home and they laugh at you while you pay their bill's! I am not trying to be mean but this girls sounds like a money loving .... fill in the blank! She isn't worth your time. If you are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with don't look on line... and don't have a long distance relationship! It's just not going to work out! It is different if you see this girl all the time. You have been in a relationship for a while with her... and then if she needs some financial help you are probably okay to lend it. Otherwise you are throwing away your money and your life. Truth hurts.

I hope you work everything out. You really should break up with her before she breaks up with you.

Answer 3

Honey I am a woman and I am going to be honest cut her loose. I'm not a gold digger but I know a lot of them. No sex, long distance and threats they don;t mix. Have you even seen her if so how often? I don't think its cool for women to be that way. They should want to be independent it makes a me feel good being independent. I might not have much, I might not have a big bank account or the best job but i make it. And that makes me feel like a WOMAN not a MOOCH because that's what i call people like that. You better look out 4 self bcuz i guarantee they are looking out for their best interest at all times. Its OK to love that person and want to be with them but money cant buy love and as long as she know she can get it shes going to do just that and god knows what else. Do for her from time to time if u want but not every time she calls. TOUGH LOVE IS THE BEST LOVE try it and see if she still makes the threats. If she does u drop her there is somebody out there that will appreciate u and all u do and not use u. Love is not a one way street and i mean FINANCIALLY, EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY MENTALLY OR SPIRITUAL oh and never forget MORALLY.

Answer 4

Oh my goodness that's really sad. Let me tell you once and for all that is NOT NORMAL. You are not responsible for your girlfriend's finances. I have never taken money from a boyfriend and neither has anyone I know. You are being taken for a ride.

What makes her so special that she "deserves" your money? She is just as capable of going out and earning money as you are. You want to give her a great life, but you should be able to do that just by being with her, because of your personal qualities. NOT your money.

There are girls out there who will love you because you're a great guy, without your money ever coming into it. You deserve no less than that- please have the self respect to ditch this scrounger and find it.

If she complains, tell her to get a job. Women everywhere are at work right now, earning their own money, why should she be any different?

Answer 5

You should CEASE giving her even 1 penny! Are you crazy?
She is a girlfriend NOT a wife! You are not financially responsible for her. If she deserves a great life then tell her to get her deserving self moved in with you asap! You are being USED USED USED! If you keep giving her money then you deserve. She doesn't love you guy and if she could break up with you so easily then she is already involved with someone else and you are not there to be able to find out for yourself. Stop being PLAYED! change your phone number, cut off all communication and let her get 2 jobs.

Answer 6

oh honey you're being played. my goodness you've been more than generous. you can only give what you have excess of and she's now a parasite. you deserve a great life too and you're at least going out and getting it for yourself this girl thinks life owes her a living and probably has a real sob story to back it up. well we all have troubles and struggles. I'm disabled and I'm still looking for work and don't expect my bf to support me. I won't move in until i can support myself first. he's generous but i buy a take away or a drink or petrol every week out of my benefit. she's no bloody excuse..dump her before you hate women. We're not all leeches. just watch out for women who tell you a sob story when you've only known them a few months. they are dumping their stuff on you. real women handle life with more grace and they will want to share with you.

Answer 7

I used to be the same way with my husband I was just using him for money I was with him for 1 year and all I did was ask for money .... One day my mom had a talk me and I saw the light....

I'm speaking from exprenice she is just using you for money and that is the reason she has not had sex with you yet.. she feels that if she has sex with you then you will not give her any money ...

She feels that you need her and cant get anyone else and that is the reason why she said that she will break up with you. She is a true gold digger take it from me I know first hand I use to be the same way she was.. but I grew up...

I would say leave her alone and get someone who will love you for you....... you do not need to be with I would say break up with her and talk to your mom I know she knows she is a woman she will know what that gold digger is trying to do

Answer 8

It doesn't sound like you're in a relationship at all. You never see each other, never sleep together, and yet you keep on giving her money. She clearly doesn't love you if she demands money or you 'break up'. Get out now. Find someone who really loves you.

Answer 9

Clearly she is taking your for a ride. Threatening to break up with you is just a form of manipulation to make you give in to her latest demands. What then? She will keep asking for more. I would tell her to get lost and meet someone local who respects you for the person you are and not for what you give her.

Answer 10

dump her! she`s clearly after your money not your love! i know its hard wen you love someone but you got to realise she`s in another country and unless you and her plan to move half way cross the world to b with each other,which by the sounds of it see woulnt walk down the end of the street for you,get rid instead of sending her all this money you could spend your time and money on a nice english girl who isnt materialistic and wants you for you...i think its time to let her go and find some other mug xx I KNEW SOMEONE LIKE THAT gave me a sob story how he adnt got no money and was starvin i gave in and sent him some cash not much but i realised after another incident he was a sponging barstool and i promptly got rid...do urself a favour ditch the *****!